Are condoms optional for some safe sex only escorts?

[Orson Kane]

I have seen a fair number of escorts over the years and a good number (BUT NONE OF THE ONES I HAVE REVIEWED HERE) seem quite ready to move right in bareback sex - either giving or receiving. I am wondering if other clients have noticed this, i.e., that an escort will lube your dick and start to push it up into his ass or start doing the same to you. The guys I am thinking are going way past any sort of just rubbing and obviously getting ready to go for some unsafe sex -- waiting I guess for the client to say "Could we please use a condom."

 

Anyone else (clients) have this experience? I am wondering how common this is - the escorts with whom this has happened to me all say "Safe Sex Only" in their ads on the other sites. No names of escorts please -- I am not trying to start a flame war of who does what - just trying to figure out from clients how often this happens for others. Thanks.

[+ Lucky]

You might search the archives as this topic has been discussed at length on numerous occasions.

[Steven_Draker]

RE: Are condoms optional for some safe sex only escorts?

 

No, condoms are not optional, they are compulsory (in my case).

Only once when I hooked up with a fellow escort (now retired) he asked me not to use condoms. I declined the offer.

 

SD ~

[jawjateck]

I have had two escorts who advertised as "safe" to offer to engage in unsafe sex. One wanted to top me unwrapped and the other wanted me to top him unwrapped. That aint ever gonna happen with me!

[SoCal]

I've been surprised over the last 7-8 years at how many escorts (including some reviewed here) have tried to persuade me to top them bareback (I don't usually bottom). Like the original poster above - I will say it has NOT EVER happened with anyone I've reviewed here.

 

In general I've never made any comments/posting about it because:

 

a) I figure everyone needs to make their own choice and protect themselves if it happens. I say "no thanks". Like many other things an escort might offer - "your mileage might vary" - as we often disclaim on these boards.

 

b) I don't want to get into a pi**ing contest over "yes he does", "no he doesn't", etc. It happens gentlemen, so be prepared mentally and with supplies!

 

Now mind you I'm NOT talking about escorts who advertise bareback sex. I'm talking about guys who in the midst of fun all of a sudden try to "slip" me inside them unprotected, or make comments like "you're married, I trust you", or "maybe this would go easier without that nasty condom".

 

As always, play safe, and use your big head to handle situations like this.

[Guest empire]

I have had several experiences with escorts who promote safe sex only attempt to engage in bareback activities with me.

 

But I don't feel it's just limited to escorts. I know of several clients that have claimed prior to hiring that they only play safe and have tried to engage the escort in unsafe sex. This information comes from one of my regular escorts.

 

I think we've come to the point where too many guys simply are no longer concerned with the possibility of becoming infected with HIV or even less harmful diseases. Just look at craigslist and you'll easily find working and non-working boys willing to bareback ... strange every single one of them claims to be negative as well. Maybe they know something those of us practice safer sex don't.

 

I'm simply stunned that people would take huge risks for what really doesn't amount to much difference in pleasure. Risk versus reward, the odds aren't there for me on this one.

 

Just my thoughts.

[Orson Kane]

RE: Are condoms optional for some safe sex only escorts?

 

>No, condoms are not optional, they are

>compulsory (in my case).

>Only once when I hooked up with a fellow escort (now retired)

>he asked me not to use condoms. I declined the offer.

>

>SD ~

 

 

Steven -- I am sure you are a "best practices" escort in every way.

[Guest zipperzone]

>Now mind you I'm NOT talking about escorts who advertise

>bareback sex. I'm talking about guys who in the midst of fun

>all of a sudden try to "slip" me inside them unprotected, or

>make comments like "you're married, I trust you", or "maybe

>this would go easier without that nasty condom".

 

Isn't the risk of infection limited to the fuckee - I would have thought the fucker was relativly safe?

[Guest PWIT]

>Isn't the risk of infection limited to the fuckee - I would

>have thought the fucker was relativly safe?

 

statistically, the 'fucker' is less at risk, but NOT safe.

[+ Axiom2001]

During the past six years that I have seen escorts, ALL have used condoms if there has been anal activity. One of my favorite and regular escorts even bought a box of XXL Magnums and did not wish to take them with him when he left. The other night he wanted to plow me, thus he, on his own reached into the bedside table drawer and procured the NECESSARY device and lube.

 

When I've been in Brazil, many of the sauna guys want to use a condom when they fellate you, something that I don't necessary care for and have not complained.

 

So, in response to your query, I'd say when you are with someone, escort or nonescort, use that modicum of protection!!

[bbyguy]

One of the many articles on the subject - the risks of HIV for those who top BB

 

http://www.gay.com/health/hiv/?sernum=3065

[Guest Merlin]

At the risk of stating the obvious, any escort or client who is willing to bareback is probably infected. Topping may be less dangerous, but it still involves a high degree of risk, and those who are uncircumcized are at greater risk than those who are cut.

[Guest Tristan]

In recent years, the term "safe" sex has been replaced by "safer" sex because there is no such thing as totally safe anal sex.

 

There's a web site dedicated to gay health that is worth checking out. It covers just about every gay sex subject you can think of and then some. Dr. Stephen Goldstone, a well-known gay doctor and author specializing in gay men's health, answers questions. The FAQ section is worth taking a look at. I'm providing this link as just one good educational source. It's not my intention to raise the fear factor.

 

You may want to start with the homepage:

 

http://www.gayhealth.com

 

The site is full of useful information. It even has a list of every possible STD you can get and what it is, if you care to read it.

 

In addition to the link already provided to an article on gay.com, here's another that specificly relates to the issue of anal intercourse and barebacking:

 

http://www.gayhealth.com/templates/network/ask/index.html?record=930&answer=1&type=1

[SteveStacks]

We're all adults and I guess everyone has the right to choose whether or not they have bareback sex (or engage sexually with partners who bareback.)

What frustrates me is the number of guys who take the choice of what type of partner to play with away from others.

 

It's NOT okay to claim that you are a practitioner of safer sex if you're not.

If you bareback, be a man about it and admit it.

If you'll lose certain partners by admitting it, then maybe you shouldn't be doing it.

 

People have the right to be fully informed in their choices.

[SteveStacks]

i'm taking a friend's suggestion who saw my post and who suggested i clarify my position.

 

i do NOT bareback.

 

i feel obliged to accept that everyone has a right to make those choices, but for me it doesn't seem much of a choice...barebacking as far as i'm concerned is just NOT worth the risk.

[Bart]

I have run across this so the usual way of making an appointment is a bit deceiving, I am deliberately ambiguous in my description almost to the point of saying I am open to it. If the escort does not call me on it or say I am safe only, I do not book it. This is with gentlemen who say they are safe. I love to give oral w/o condom so my way of tripping up the anyway you want it guys.

[TruthBTold]

Steve,

 

I have not seen it summarized so well in a long time. People can make their choices and they can live with their choices, as long as they are willing to own up to them.

[SteveStacks]

Thanks! *grin*