Do You Tell Them?

[Guest DallasObserver]

From time to time I hire escorts. When I'm communicating with them and even after meeting I don't tell them I'm a poster in the message center.

 

I'm wondering how many here might tell the escort that you are a poster and/or reviewer at this site? If so at what stage before or upon meeting?

 

-Dallas Observer

[SAdler]

>I'm wondering how many here might tell the escort that you are

>a poster and/or reviewer at this site? If so at what stage

>before or upon meeting?

 

Some people tell me off the bat. Some people tell me when they meet me, most tell me after the session. Then there are others who tell me after we've established that we WON'T be meeting ... usually as a result of a price debate. (I never really understood that one.)

 

Psychologically I'd like to think that I’m not affected by knowing that someone off of the site was my date, but I’m sure I’d have a different mind set – and I’d make sure that I had that Viagra LOL.

 

But seriously, if anything the few clients that have told me in advance – assuming we were friendly on the boards which I don’t see why someone I WASN’T friendly with would hire me – and I had a great time. We chatted about the board and we already had a feeling for each other so it was an awesome evening.

 

It’s up to you and your intent of telling them. Do you want to scare them into ensuring a perfect appointment? Or worse, are you disregarding a very common problem like performance anxiety? From an escorts point of view, I’d say only say something if you think they’d want to know because they’ve been chatting with you on the board.

[+ Lucky]

Dallas:

Since you have been a poster for less than three weeks, with how many escorts have you had to worry about this dilemma?

 

Personally, I plan to hire Scott Adler to give me a good whipping. But I will be sure to tell him first who I am since that would probably guarantee a really good one!

[Juan Vancouver]

Hey Dallas,

 

I know this is not in the "ask an escort" section, and Scott already answered... but we all know that I am not very find of rules anyway. So here I go.

 

I personally have never felt the performance anxiety that Scott is talking about. On the contrary, when someone tells me he is a poster on the board, I have the feeling that we have known each other for a while, and it is always reallly fun to realize how different or similar his internet persona is from the real thing. The excitement that I feel is more like hoping that we will be able to communicate as freely in the flesh as we did in the writting... Like knowing a penpal after a long time of corresponding.

I enjoy this community a lot, and I have known through this board lots of people that I would have never known in the first place. So a chance to meet them in the flesh is always welcome.

 

On the funny side, (Speaking of reviews and reviewers) a couple of times it has happened to me when being in the heights of passion either with a client or not that magic happens, our eyes connect, I am flying in the heights of bliss, we are both moaning and breathing in synch, and I KNOW that the other person is having an amazing time as I am. And just then, my literary mind gets at work and for few seconds (before I focus again to go back to the magic of the moment) I hear something like:

 

"And then, our eyes locked. Time stopped. You breathing me in, and I allowing myself to go inside you, melt into you, become one. United." And then, of course, I have to remind myself that I have to be present, otherwise I am going to miss all the fun.

But yes, I have thought: "If I was to write a review, I would definitely write about this."

 

Reviews or not, all this is about is having fun and making connectons, isn't it?

[SAdler]

>Personally, I plan to hire Scott Adler to give me a good

>whipping. But I will be sure to tell him first who I am since

>that would probably guarantee a really good one!

>

 

Riding Crop or Flail darling? I also do Bar Mitzvahs

[SAdler]

>I personally have never felt the performance anxiety that

>Scott is talking about.

 

Perhaps I shoudl clarify. I'm not saying I've personally experienced a performance anxiety; I was referring to my reference about people who utilize their position of being a reviewer or poster as a pseudo-threat to ensure a peak performance

 

>"And then, our eyes locked. Time stopped. You breathing me in,

>and I allowing myself to go inside you, melt into you, become

>one. United."

 

OK. I'm keeping Lanky as my trashy novel author but still need someone to write a sappy love story once in a while ... you're hired

[BostonChris]

Why should it matter if someone posts or not?

Do you mean guys that write reviews? Some have told me, others not.

To me, that's up to the individual on whether or not they want to write something.

I don't do what I do to get reviewed. Mind you, getting great reviews is always nice, but I don't let it bother me one way or the other.

The message boards and reviews are supposed to be informative and fun.... without anxiety.

So I wouldn't put too much importance on whether or not someone posts.

Oh, and if I had a dime every time someone said they were going to post a review and then didn't, I could retire! LOL

Yours,

-Chris

http://www.chriscrawfordxxx.com

[Rick Munroe]

>"And then, our eyes locked. Time stopped. You breathing me in,

>and I allowing myself to go inside you, melt into you, become

>one. United."

 

Isn't that the latest ad for a certain airline? Gee, some companies will do anything to get out of bankruptcy.

 

http://a56.g.akamai.net/7/56/7207/94a92acbacfb70/www.united.com/ual/asset/logo_c_united.gif

[Epigonos]

I NEVER tell an escort prior to our session that I intend to write a review of our time together. Somehow, in my mind, it does come across as a thread. If the session is a success I then mention to the escort that I found him on this site and would he mind if I wrote a review. I have never been told NO (probably because all the escorts I have hire thus far have been positively reviewed on this site) but if I were then I would NOT write the review.

[VaHawk]

I don't understand that! Posting a review should be up to the client, as that is kind of the whole purpose of this site, isn't it? Posting a review only when the escort says yes to your query or even making the query itself is imo, serves no purpose.

[SAdler]

I can only assume he's referring to positive experiences and wouldn't hesitate to write a bad one to warn the community.

 

Some escorts don't want a good review because it generates too much business. There are points when I prefer to take a break and just see regulars. Of course I have the option to say no to anyone new but I wouldn't want to deter them in the future.

 

In cases like that I'd decline if asked if I wanted a new review to be written if I had the option.

[OneFinger]

In the past I've usually disclosed in the initial contacts that I frequent this site. I've never intended it as a veiled threat that a bad performance will result in a negative review.

 

My reason for telling the escort is so they can read my previous reviews, look at my postings, and get a better idea of who I am and what I like. I also "assumed" it gave me some credibility that my inquiry was serious and that I wasn't a flake or no-show.

 

Personally, I feel the disclosure has helped enhance the initial session. The escort isn't left wondering if I'm a cop, mass murderer, or emotionally deranged. In addition, if the escort read my posts and didn't think we'd be a good fit, it gives them the option to decline a meeting.

 

But, not all sessions have resulted in reviews. Although I've never been asked NOT to write a review, some experiences have not really warranted either a negative or positive review.

 

However, I've recently become much more cautious about my privacy and internet identity. In the future I probably won't disclose who I am because you never know where (or with whom) that info will be shared. x(

 

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"We need to have more respect for each other. Things have just gone really crazy, out of control. ... We're on a very weird kind of cycle." Stevie Wonder

[+ Lucky]

"The escort isn't left wondering if I'm ...emotionally deranged."

 

Plus he knows you only have one finger.}(

[OneFinger]

Actually, after an unfortunate accident this summer, I now down to half a finger. But, my tongue is still full length and totally functional. :9

 

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"We need to have more respect for each other. Things have just gone really crazy, out of control. ... We're on a very weird kind of cycle." Stevie Wonder

[+ Lucky]

I told you not to bite your nail!

[Epigonos]

Well I guess I had better clarify. Scott read me correctly. I have been extremely fortunate in hiring escorts. In over three year I have never had a really bad experience. If and when I do I WILL NOT inform the escort that I intend to write a review and I will NOT HESITATE to write one. I have had some mediocre experiences that didn't warrant a good or bad review -- I was having a bad day, the escort was having a bad day, we just didn't click, I didn't explain what I was looking for very clearly. Thus I have only discussed a possible review with an escort with whom I have had an outsdtanding experience. In this case I do ask if he has any objection to me submitting a review and I honor his wishes. Thus far all have said to do as I wished

[Lankypeters]

>> I'm keeping Lanky as my trashy novel author

 

 

Your confidence spurs me on (so does a riding crop).

 

A storm is hitting the city and a tree outside a window in the yard behind me sways down and back, a curtain rising and falling as two guys fuck in counterpoint.

 

 

Lankypeters

[Juan Vancouver]

All I have to say, Scott,

 

 

 

 

SLUUUUUUUUURP! :9 :9 :9

[KY_TOP]

But since you let them know, and get their ok, before writing the review, do you find some want editorial review as to some content? Like leaving exact rates out of the review or other info?

[KY_TOP]

I don't think I've ever mentioned the "message center" to any Escort but since I use the same handle in my reviews that I use in the message center I guess they could relate me to both. I would like to think that my contributions to this site are more in the review area than the message center.

 

I rarely ever tell to an Escort that I write reviews BEFORE I meet them. The exception is when I have communicated fairly often in the message center with the escort. (Example: when I decided to meet Rick and Derek on a trip to NYC. Since we had conversed here I let them know who I was when we arranged things.) I feel the escort should treat me the same not knowing, that being the best he can be. Then when you have a good time you know it is not because he is trying to get a good review.

 

During an escort session, if the escort ask how I found out about them, I do mention finding them on Hooboy. Also, a few times this site has come up during conversation with the escort. If they then ask if I write reviews I answer honestly. I have been asked by a couple of Escorts to write a review after meeting them, even though I never mentioned this site to them.

 

I will almost always e-mail an escort AFTER seeing them and let them know my Hooboy handle and that I have written a review. I have had 2 escorts ask to read the review before I sent it in, I refused both times.

 

If I try to meet an escort but do not due to scheduling conflicts or other reasons I will generally also let them know my Hooboy handle after we realize we will not meet. I think that lets them know that anyone they meet might be a reviewer. It has also led to some very pleasant conversations with them. I had one escort that was out of town during my visit to their city that changed their plans to come home early just to meet up with me. That was cool and I scheduled an overnight with them as a result and have seen them again since then.

[KY_TOP]

> Then there are

>others who tell me after we've established that we WON'T be

>meeting ... usually as a result of a price debate. (I never

>really understood that one.)

 

Maybe it is because they think you should know that ANYONE you communicate with as a potential client, could be a reviewer. I let you know my Hooboy handle after we agreed not to meet, in response to your followup e-mail to me apologizing if you were short to me on the phone, after I said your 2 hour rate was higher than I would pay. We then had a few pleasant e-mail conversations.

 

I think that if the escort is short, rude, arrogant or gives a similar response to a client inquiry, then letting the escort know that the person they were rude to could be a reviewer MIGHT make them think twice in their next client conversation.

[Greathands]

After having set up an appointment with an escort that I found particularly attractive and sexy, I began to hear less than great things about him. Although he had good reviews, he was beginning to get a bit of a reputation for "slacking off" a bit. I really was interested in seeing him (as I said, I found him particularly attractive and sexy) so I told him BEFORE I met him that I'd be willing to do a review of him on here. Let's just say that he was extremely attentive during our get together!

[jawjateck]

Dallas....I have posted on the MC for only 3 months but have submitted several reviews over the past four years ("biwm professional"...I know...not very creative back then when I submitted my first review due to the paranoia and anxiety of it all).

 

I have mentioned my use of Hooville to some escorts before meeting, just in passing about how I learned of them, others during the after-glow wrap-up chat session, and a few I never mentioned this site at all, either because the subject really never came up or I was ambivalent to the encounter I had with the escort. No escort has ever requested to see the content of a review before I submitted it, but if asked, I would never agree to that.

 

BTW, I have never written a negative rewiew. Why? Because of this site, I have never, NEVER had a bad experience, never had a no-show, never got ripped-off, not even once. I have hired about 40 different guys over the past five years. I have had some average encounters where we didn't click for any particular reason on his part or mine. In those cases, I didn't review the escort. That is a testimony to the usefulness of the resources of this site.

[Guest DallasObserver]

My oh my. This screen name is new but I am not. I've been a semi-regular poster undr a previous userid. When I returned from my 5 month trip to Japan I had blanked out on that name and signed up new under this one. Since then I do recall my previous name but no sense confusing people more.

 

-Dallas Observer

[SAdler]

>Maybe it is because they think you should know that ANYONE you

>communicate with as a potential client, could be a reviewer. I

>let you know my Hooboy handle after we agreed not to meet, in

>response to your followup e-mail to me apologizing if you were

>short to me on the phone, after I said your 2 hour rate was

>higher than I would pay. We then had a few pleasant e-mail

>conversations.

 

Wow...reading into it much? I wasn't even THINKING of you when I wrote that but meanwhile ... while we're on that topic ... potential clients should respect when an escort asks to keep dialogue via email as in our situation I had. You INSISTED on a phone conversation and I told you that it wasn't convenient for me at the time but would indulge you if necessary.

 

>I think that if the escort is short, rude, arrogant or gives a

>similar response to a client inquiry, then letting the escort

>know that the person they were rude to could be a reviewer

>MIGHT make them think twice in their next client

>conversation.

 

Like I said, even your response here lingers of a threat of retaliation -- much like I almost find this post. I had told you I'd rather not speak by phone but you insisted. In hindsight I should have simply told you I was not available.

 

Frankly there's no ill will and I'm sorry if that came out antagonistic ... I just would rather you'd portray the whole story if you felt the need to bring it up and relay PRIVATE COMMUNICATION on the board. It would appear that the next frontier in reviewing might be reviewing the process at which an appointment was made or not.