the facade crumbles

[golden guy]

I have been having sessions with one escort now for a couple of years and have recently noticed a "change" in his behavior. I have no idea what has caused it, but I do have my theories. So, I am bringing it to the message center and see if other clients have ever noticed this in any escort that they hire on a regular basis.

Since I have had so many sessions over a long period of time with this escort, I am beginning to see the "real" person. The person I now see isn't exactly the person that he creates for clients for a one hour session. He doesn't use drugs, but it does appear his personal life is unsettled and he appears to be very immature for his age. His facade has crumbled in my eyes. I think that his change in behavior towards me might be that he realizes that his facade has many holes in it and I have seen them.

It is impossible to fool everyone all the time, For an escort to bluff any of us clients for the one hour period can be easy, however, as we get to know our regular escorts I was wondering if any other clients here have ever noticed something similar to this in their regular escorts. I must say though, that since I am now seeing the real person, I find him much less attractive and desirable.

[woodlawn]

>It is impossible to fool everyone all the time, For an escort

>to bluff any of us clients for the one hour period can be

>easy, however, as we get to know our regular escorts I was

>wondering if any other clients here have ever noticed

>something similar to this in their regular escorts. I must say

>though, that since I am now seeing the real person, I find him

>much less attractive and desirable.

 

 

I have noticed (and I have heard other clients remark on this) that after one has several appointments with the same escort there is on the part of some escorts a tendency to take the client for granted and to make less of an effort with the client than on the first occasion. I even recall some clients who have said here that they make it a policy not to see the same escort more than a few times in order to avoid this problem. I have noticed this phenomenon with most (though not all) of the escorts whom I have seen on multiple occasions. They seem to feel they can now count on my business and therefore don't need to try quite as hard as they did at first. It doesn't seem to occur to them that the whole purpose of winning a steady customer is defeated if one then loses the customer by slacking off.

 

It's not unheard of in any business for a service provider who has found a steady customer to take that customer for granted at some point and thereby lose the customer to some more enterprising competitor.

 

There is also the somewhat different but related phenomenon of the escort who comes to believe that he and a regular client have become friends and that the client will stick with him in the future for the sake of friendship even if his performance is not always quite what it should be.

 

Either of these may be what you are experiencing.

 

You have to weigh the loss of satisfaction with your current escort against the cost (in time and effort) of replacing him. That is a calculation any employer has to perform if he is thinking of firing someone.

[Michael]

Time to move on ...

[bigguyinpasadena]

Great post Woodlawn,very well put.

[+ glutes]

>It's not unheard of in any business for a service provider who

>has found a steady customer to take that customer for granted

>at some point and thereby lose the customer to some more

>enterprising competitor.

>

 

I beg to differ!

As a small business owner I have bent over backwards to help my steady customers. Don't bite the hand that feeds you.

[Guest YFSC]

>Since I have had so many sessions over a long period of time

>with this escort, I am beginning to see the "real" person. The

>person I now see isn't exactly the person that he creates for

>clients for a one hour session.

 

This would probably be true of almost anybody in most situations, escort or not. The person that one presents in a one-hour encounter with a stranger, especially if one is getting paid a relatively large sum of money to pretend to be intimately interested in that stranger, is not likely to be the same as one's everyday persona. Escorts have to be a combination of various things, one of which is an actor. That's what he's getting paid for, and I don't think you can fault an escort for "creating a person for clients for a one hour session.".

 

> His facade has crumbled in my

>eyes. I think that his change in behavior towards me might be

>that he realizes that his facade has many holes in it and I

>have seen them.

 

Could be. Or it could be just that after so many sessions with you he feels more comfortable and relaxed with you and can be more his normal self. Maybe that's an unpleasant self, or one that you don't want to be associated with. I'm not saying that it's good for him to do that or that you need to continue feeling the same way about him. But I think there's a strong possibility that he's not consciously changing his attitude towards you, and in fact in a strange and contradictory way he may be revealing a better attitude towards you, letting down his facade and being more of is normal self.

 

In either case, if you don't like what you are seeing, it's time for you to make a change.

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[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

>>It is impossible to fool everyone all the time, For an

>escort

>>to bluff any of us clients for the one hour period can be

>>easy, however, as we get to know our regular escorts I was

>>wondering if any other clients here have ever noticed

>>something similar to this in their regular escorts. I must

>say

>>though, that since I am now seeing the real person, I find

>him

>>much less attractive and desirable.

>

>

>I have noticed (and I have heard other clients remark on this)

>that after one has several appointments with the same escort

>there is on the part of some escorts a tendency to take the

>client for granted and to make less of an effort with the

>client than on the first occasion. I even recall some clients

>who have said here that they make it a policy not to see the

>same escort more than a few times in order to avoid this

>problem. I have noticed this phenomenon with most (though not

>all) of the escorts whom I have seen on multiple occasions.

>They seem to feel they can now count on my business and

>therefore don't need to try quite as hard as they did at

>first. It doesn't seem to occur to them that the whole

>purpose of winning a steady customer is defeated if one then

>loses the customer by slacking off.

>

>It's not unheard of in any business for a service provider who

>has found a steady customer to take that customer for granted

>at some point and thereby lose the customer to some more

>enterprising competitor.

>

>There is also the somewhat different but related phenomenon of

>the escort who comes to believe that he and a regular client

>have become friends and that the client will stick with him in

>the future for the sake of friendship even if his performance

>is not always quite what it should be.

>

>Either of these may be what you are experiencing.

>

>You have to weigh the loss of satisfaction with your current

>escort against the cost (in time and effort) of replacing him.

> That is a calculation any employer has to perform if he is

>thinking of firing someone.

>

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Bingo. You said it perfectly Glutes

 

 

Warmest Always,

 

 

Benjamin Nicholas

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

OOPS!! Sorry for the above mis-post, and the editiing time has expired.

 

What I meant to say: Thank you Woodlawn for putting into words what I had been thinking. I had been seeing an escort for an extended period of time and knew something was wrong, put was unable to put my finger on it. I have read what you said several times, and it has more meaning each time I read it. I shall take your advice and try to vary my escort choices. Thanks again!

[+ Charlie]

It would be rather surprising if you were to see an escort regularly for a long period of time and NOT perceive him differently from your first impression. We often want to believe that an escort perfectly matches some specific image that attracts us, and we don't like to see that image altered. Even though an escort may be enacting a role, it is difficult to play the same role the same way over and over. If he is no longer attractive to you, it could be because your own fantasy may be too simple or rigid for a real human being to sustain. It sounds like both of you have grown uncomfortable with the relationship, and it's time to move on to either a different kind of relationship or a different escort (who will probably also disappoint you after awhile).

[Guest houseboy]

Well, maybe it is just me, but I would think that getting to know the *real* person behind the escort "facade" - as beautiful or hideous as it may turn out to be - would actually be a more satisfying experience than getting the "new client treatment" you referred to each and every time you see the guy.

 

Alas, I am aware that a lot of mid-Americans like their services (and products) to be reliable, safe, dependable, and uniform and that great lengths will be gone to in order to avoid any kind of surprise that may be caused by finding something different than the expected, even if it is done at the price of genuineness or any kind of personal flavor.

 

Maybe I am overly cynical today, but it seems to me that time has come for escorts to adapt themselves to the realities of American consumer behavior. Oh and clients - be sure to ask for fries with your next order of McEscorts.

 

(Now go ahead and nuke me - I can take it. )

 

Sean Lespagnol

Chicago, IL

http://www.seanlespagnol.com

 

"Big and tasty - every day!"

[WEST COASTER]

I have had similar experiences when having hired an escort for a second, third and more times, however I have more often than not felt that I as much as the escort had contributed to the changed relationship. The initial excitiment of something/someone new disappears after the first time and if we are honest can't be recreated in exactly the same fashion. To me this means that both the escort and client must move beyond that initail exploration. This is not to say that the physical excitment and gratification can't be just as wonderful but as your time(s) together increase in number your relationship must inevitably grow into something differnet than a first meeting. As houseboy said getting to know the escort or client in a more personal way should provide more than enough basis for both an exciting physical relationship and a deeped personal relationship. At the end of the day a client as well as the escort must not lose sight of the fact that what we are really talking about is a business with a buyer and a seller. If the seller is not providing what you want to buy then move on to another seller.

[+ Cock Eyed Optimist]

>(Now go ahead and nuke me - I can take it. )

>

 

No, not nuke, just offer a different take on the matter.

 

But what if the reverse is true? What if the the escort starts out with a genuine sparkling personality that shines through from the beginning and can be sensed by the client, and has this personality gradually eroded by dealing with other less than genuine clients?

 

As a result, the escort might become more cynical toward all his clients.

 

Would not a regular client who had known the escort from the beginning be able to sense this? The trust and sharing that were there in the beginning would no longer be there, thus changing the relationship between the escort and client.

 

Just a thought.

 

:-)

[Guest houseboy]

>But what if the reverse is true? What if the the escort

>starts out with a genuine sparkling personality that shines

>through from the beginning and can be sensed by the client,

>and has this personality gradually eroded by dealing with

>other less than genuine clients?

>

>As a result, the escort might become more cynical toward all

>his clients.

 

Good thing I'm taking a break.

[Cruisemaster]

>Well, maybe it is just me, but I would think that getting to

>know the *real* person behind the escort "facade" - as

>beautiful or hideous as it may turn out to be - would actually

>be a more satisfying experience than getting the "new client

>treatment" you referred to each and every time you see the

>guy.

 

I've always considered it one of the ultimate compliments when a man I'm hiring decides to share with me something 'real' about himself, whether by talking about it or simply doing something. Seeing the 'real' person is very often a bonding experience -- far from a turn-off. Having said this, both client and escort are surely aware there is a good deal of fantasy play going on in most any encounter. Even though I like to get those glimpes of 'real', I never forget nor wish to ignore the fantasy that is in front of me. Fantasy is, after all, what I believe my money is actually buying.

[Guest BIRROTCH]

>I have been having sessions with one escort now for a couple

>of years and have recently noticed a "change" in his behavior.

>I have no idea what has caused it, but I do have my theories.

>So, I am bringing it to the message center and see if other

>clients have ever noticed this in any escort that they hire on

>a regular basis.

 

I've not used an escort before... but from the angle of being a bodyworker/massage therapist, I've been hired numerous times and always come back with 110% effort each time. I think it all has to do with the love of ones job and giving pleasure/relief to the one you are servicing/making feel better. I have always had the attitude of making sure my clients were #1. And as long as that desire is there (it never left for ANY of my clients, and they kept coming back time after time-- some I had for 4 years, before I moved out of state). I can only say that hiring anyone for a service is a crapshoot. As the OP said, the real person comes out eventually... beter or worse.. Maybe, that's a good thing.. is this a case of an escort just being so distant from ever creating a friendship with "favorite clients"? Could this certain escort had a life changing experience? or is he going through the motions? If that's the case, that person just doesn't enjoy it, and might need to take a break. That could be all that person needs, but money makes us plod through the rough times, because we all need to survive.

 

As far as a client is concerned, when you see the same escort time after time, do you expect a routine, or something different each time?

 

>Since I have had so many sessions over a long period of time

>with this escort, I am beginning to see the "real" person. The

>person I now see isn't exactly the person that he creates for

>clients for a one hour session. He doesn't use drugs, but it

>does appear his personal life is unsettled and he appears to

>be very immature for his age. His facade has crumbled in my

>eyes. I think that his change in behavior towards me might be

>that he realizes that his facade has many holes in it and I

>have seen them.