A Simple "Thank You" Would Be Nice

[+ Oliver]

Purely as a good business practice, if not common courtesy, it would seem that an escort could make the very simple effort to say “Thank you” to a client by a follow-up e-mail soon after the encounter. Especially so if a generous tip had been given – “generous” being a subjective term. If the client was respectful of the escort as a person and his boundaries, then why not do so even if the experience for the escort was only so-so. And even if the experience was only so-so for the client, the expression of thanks would leave a lasting impression and make the client more inclined to view the escort favorably thereafter. I know that the ones who stand out for me have taken the little time needed to do so.

 

I realize that there may not be much of an incentive for an escort when the client is a traveler and in all likelihood will never see him again. But one never knows when a recommendation might be requested. Other types of service providers follow the practice, and I know that I more readily return to them for service or recommend them to others who ask for suggestions. And because the escort-client link is so much more intimate, the reasons for saying “Thank you” appear more compelling.

 

Besides, my mother always said to say “Thank you”! And like many of us, I was my mother’s “special boy”.

 

Oliver

[+ deej]

This comes up from time to time.

 

One reason an escort may not send a thank you note is discretion. The client may not WANT to be contacted unless they initiate it. Don't want the boss looking over your shoulder when that email comes in saying "I love the way you suck cock!" after all. :o

[mmk]

I have gotten email thank you's from a few escorts both before and after I have submitted reviews to this site (When I got home from my last two SF trips I had thank you emails from both Steven and Tom Grant waiting for me.) I do agree with Deej that a thank you is not neccesary especially if you most likely will not have another appointment with that escort but I do think it is a nice courtesy to extend, regardless if a tip is given or not.

[seaboy4hire]

I highly agree a thank you regardless if the two people will see each other again or not is a very nice gesture and often times a lost art. I try to if I have the email address to send a thank you note even if I didn't recieve a tip. Lets face it many of us charge $150 and up per hour for our services and I never expect a tip. But if one is offered cool if not well that is cool too.

 

Hugs,

Greg

Greg Seattle Wa seaboy4hire@yahoo.com

http://www.male4malescorts.com/reviews/gregseattle.html http://briefcase.yahoo.com/seaboy4hire

[Boston Guy]

I've agreed with this in the past and still do. I routinely communicate with escorts through email, even with guys I contact first via the phone. Getting a nice, simple email that says "thanks for getting together" is a nice touch and I continue to be amazed that more guys don't do it.

 

I see escorts as entrepreneurs and often quite good ones. But not thanking a customer for a sale is kind of foolish, even if you don't expect a repeat sale in the future. Good will is important and thanking a customer in a sincere way is a good way to generate it.

 

I've heard the arguments about discretion but I don't really buy them. Most of us have different email addresses that we use for different purposes, so the likelihood of a thank you being read by the boss is pretty slim.

 

And I wouldn't expect a thank you to be explicit. Something as simple as "Thanks for getting together; it was awfully nice to meet you" or "Thanks for getting together again. I enjoyed seeing you." would do just fine.

 

When I don't get a thank you, I assume that it's because the escort has taken an "out of sight, out of mind" approach to our meeting, not that he is trying to exercise discretion on my behalf. My assumption may or may not be correct, but it's still how I feel.

 

And, yes, guys who send a thank you afterward rate higher with me and, all things being equal, would get a call back first over someone who I never heard from again.

 

BG

[Guest skrubber]

I agree wholeheartedly with BostonGuy. I allways send a thank you EMail to my escorts after our meeting if I have their EMail addresses, which I usually do. The only thank you I have ever received was from the phenomenon known as Benjamin Nicholas. A true class act. I find it a way to keep in touch with my boys should I ever need them again. And I like to feel I stay in their mind that way.

 

Everybody loves Backa Baa.

[Guest alanm]

yes an email would be nice, but i prefer a hot sexual encounter where the escort makes an obvious cffort to please me, especially from somone whom i meet while away on business and may not see again. i actually received both from gabe in st. louis (retired).

[Will]

Not only do I agree, but I continue to be surprised that, by far, a minority of the escorts I've hired have had the courtesy (or simple good sense) to send a note the next day saying, "Thanks." On the contrary, more often than not the only note is one from me to the escort. I almost always write just a few words the next day to say how much I enjoyed the evening (which is true in all cases but one, and in that I simply didn't communicate with the escort). When I hire an escort, I regard myself as a host; almost always I take the escort to dinner in a very nice restaurant; and whatever the occasion, I try to be as friendly and, frankly, as charming as I'd be with anyone else. Just why escorts take all that for granted is beyond me. Certainly professionals in other fields are far less cavalier.

[VaHawk]

I agree, a simple email thank you from an escort to a client, should be a given and is much appreciated by the client and generates good feeling from the client towards the escort, as it imo, indicates true professionalism on the part of the escort, and it certainly goes a long way towards interest in a repeat encounter.

 

It really is such a simple, non-time consuming gesture from an escort, that can only benefit the escort in the long run, while making a client feel special even after the encounter. Of course, only a true professional escort, realizes this, which is why they are often lauded on this site and in the reviews. This is why I personally, can not say enough good things about Marco Rochelle, Benjamin Nicholas and Aaron Scott - all three are the epitome of class!

[arthur]

I agree with all of the previous posters saying that a "Thank You" from an escort after a session together is a gracious and much-appreciated gesture.

If I've had a reasonably enjoyable time with an escort, I'll always send him an e-mail the next day letting him know how pleased I was. Most of the time, I never receive any sort of acknowledgement from the escort. Last fall I saw one escort three times during his one month visit to New York and enjoyed myself each time. I really liked him. Sent him an e-mail right after he left to return home and then sent another at the end of December to wish him a Happy New Year. Never heard from him.

A few escorts are different however. Cody, who is based in New York but travels a lot, always returns e-mail messages no matter where he may be.

ag:-)

[HooBoy]

I am amazed that when an escort gets picked as Coverboy, only about 1 in 10 send me a note.

 

No big deal, but I'm just a hick from Texas who thinks Thank You notes are not only proper but they do no harm.

 

One of my best friends sent me my ONLY Christmas card by regular mail to Brazil. I emailed him that even though it did not arrive for 30 days after Christmas, he should have just emailed me one. He wrote back that he is old fashioned... and I thought he was only old.

 

I think my friend, who occasional posts here, but rarely, is Dear Abby in disguise. Oh, I forgot...I also got a hilarious Christmas card from the owner of http://www.cruisingforsex.com. But I had that Fed Exed to me from my New York address, so it cost me $80 USD...not that funny looking Brazil money. It was so good, I took a picture of it with my new Nikon camera (like the one that was stolen by Davies from the Logoa in Sao Paulo) and sent the pic of the card to Rick Munroe because it was so him.

 

But K, you know I love you because when you're good you're good but when you're bad you're better.

 

IMHO.

[+ deej]

Oh no! He's hitting the red wine again!

 

:*

[HooBoy]

Deej, I just woke up...

 

It's green tea ( and not the Amsterdam type)

 

I've just called down for Lemon tea and they sent me lemons. So now I have to make lemonade.

 

And if it's gonna be wine, not red because it stains my white shirts.

 

And Bobby B's white carpet....

 

:*

:+

[golden guy]

I agree that a simple short email takes no effort from the escort, and it is so rarely done. I personally find it difficult to have an encounter with an escort and put on this face of best friends and lover for an hour, and then that be the end of it. There is one escort I see very regularly, and I have now noticed that it appears that he just has taken my time and wallet for granted. I will always send a note after a session and rarely get a response anymore, but this is probably my fault for making myself so available to him. Regardless, my ability is just pretend I don't even know this guy is not my personailty.

[Boston Guy]

>I have now noticed that it appears that he just has taken my

>time and wallet for granted.

 

Yup.

 

I think the main reasons for escorts not sending a note of thanks would include:

 

1. Pure laziness.

 

2. Taking the client for granted (as you have noted).

 

3. Failing to realize the value of what they have received. In most cities, $200 will pay for a nice, lingering dinner with a friend or two or three. An escort who regularly spends one hour of time and receives $200 for his services may end up not appreciating the actual value of the money they are receiving. But paying for an escort is not like paying the light bill: clients can always choose to spend their money on something else, especially some other form of entertainment.

 

4. Failing to realize the value of a follow-up. Most escorts are young and many -- if not most -- have never worked in any kind of profesional sales capacity. They may truly not understand the how much value a simple "thank you" can have. Follow-ups of this kind cost virtually nothing but can turn a one-time client into a repeat client. On the other hand, as you have experienced, total silence from the escort (especially an escort you have seen multiple times) can lead one to wonder if one shouldn't be calling a different escort.

 

Previous discussions here have led some escorts to post various reasons why they didn't send follow-ups. I note that no escorts have posted in this thread.

 

BG

[KY_TOP]

I have hired over 50 different Escorts in the past 2 and a half years, less than 10 have sent me an e-mail of thanks afterwards. Funny thing is that 3 of them were from the 3 worst Escort experiences I have had.

 

As several others have stated, I also will send an e-mail of Thanks, once I return home. I usually do get a response to my Thank You e-mail, sometimes it maybe a week or two later, but generally do get a "Thanks good to meet you too". I occasionally get an e-mail from an Escort after I post a Review, but that is still by way less than half of the guys I have seen.

[Guest CODY NYC STAR]

>A few escorts are different however. Cody, who is based in New

>York but travels a lot, always returns e-mail messages no

>matter where he may be.

>ag:-)

 

thanks arthur sorry bout last week. see you next time im home.

[+ Oliver]

BG

 

<I've heard the arguments about discretion but I don't really buy them. Most of us have different email addresses that we use for different purposes, so the likelihood of a thank you being read by the boss is pretty slim. >

 

Especially when there has been a series of e-mails back and forth in arranging the meeting in the first place. I usually arrange for more than an hour – an evening with dinner or more. In most cases several messages are necessary to complete the matter. I like to have those details ironed out so we can enjoy each other.

 

<And I wouldn't expect a thank you to be explicit. Something as simple as "Thanks for getting together; it was awfully nice to meet you" or "Thanks for getting together again. I enjoyed seeing you." would do just fine. >

 

My point exactly! Nothing more is necessary or expected.

 

<When I don't get a thank you, I assume that it's because the escort has taken an "out of sight, out of mind" approach to our meeting, not that he is trying to exercise discretion on my behalf. My assumption may or may not be correct, but it's still how I feel.>

 

Me too. Thank you so much for your comments! I was wondering if I was old fashioned or just old (as has been stated elsewhere)!:+

 

Oliver

[Guest CODY NYC STAR]

i wanted to post a letter, that i wrote on september 10th, 02' . it was addressed to all of my friends and a few clients whom i have become close with. it was basically a reminder , that everyone should take time to be nice. for those of you, who say thank you and do not recieve anything in return. dont let it get you down. because that defeats the reason for doing it in the first place. do it because it makes you feel good.

 

below is a copy of the letter i sent, i thought some of you might enjoy it.

 

"On this day, I just wanted to say some things to the people who have touched my life. Thank you so much for

allowing me the time and experiences that we have all experienced together. I think about each and every one of you every day.

Sometimes when life takes us away from each other, it doesn't mean that you are no longer in my thoughts and dreams. Before I go to sleep everynight, I pray to God, thanking him for so many different things. My experiences for the day, the people that he allows into my life. In the morning when I wake up and look into the sky, I say thank you...thank you so much for letting me be healthy and alive to experience all of this.

On this day, how do you view yourself? I try to look at my life and to be happy for everything and everyone around me, even though it might be difficult sometimes. I try not to judge people, or criticize and complain all the time, for whatever reason. I used to be very critical and had something to say about everything, it ususally wasn't nice. Then, i realized that all that negative energy made me look bad. It also began attracting the same kind of people. I guess thats where the term "misery loves company" came from.

I look at the world and I'm so grateful, that we all have one another, and that everyone is different. That is what makes life so interesting and fun. You can never stop learning from everyone.

I once read, "It is impossible to simultaneously prepare for and prevent war" <something to think about.

When you walk around are you nice to strangers? Do you smile at someone when you are walking down the street, even if you don't know them? Do you say, "thank you" when someone does something nice? Do you say, " good morning" to a complete stranger? I do, and most of the time I get a dirty look. Sometimes I want to just stop being nice, but then that defeats the purpose of why i do it in the first place. I do it because it makes me feel good. I love when I get a lil response back or maybe a smile, letting me know that they feel the same way I do.

With all of the fighting going on in the world. I know I can't do anything about that. I try not to let it influence my life, even though i find myself concerned at times. I feel sorry for all of the people that have no choice but to be a part of that violence.

I have 3 rules I live by,

Have Fun, Create Laughter & Be Happy.

On This Day...be kind, be thankful and treat people as if you were putting them on a pedestal, because most of you know that's where you want to be yourself.

 

much love and respect,

Cody

http://hometown.aol.com/codynycstar/

[Guest doug60640]

I agree with what several of the posters have said that though it would be nice to have a thank you note sent after an appointment, it is not something that has been put into the escort rule book. Of the many escorts that I have seen only a handful went home right away to send me a thank you e-mail although they all responded in kind after I initiated the "thank you" process. Laziness and being unprofessional maybe the reason for this but if I take the crazy schedules that the 3 or 4 escorts I see on a regular basis have as a basis, juggling appointments, daytime jobs, school and other obligations, I can understand why it may take them longer to send a note than it takes an old retired guy like me who spends too much time in front of the computer.

[Guest doug60640]

I agree with what several of the posters have said that though it would be nice to have a thank you note sent after an appointment, it is not something that has been put into the escort rule book. Of the many escorts that I have seen only a handful went home right away to send me a thank you e-mail although they all responded in kind after I initiated the "thank you" process. Laziness and being unprofessional maybe the reason for this but if I take the crazy schedules that the 3 or 4 escorts I see on a regular basis have as a basis, juggling appointments, daytime jobs, school and other obligations, I can understand why it may take them longer to send a note than it takes an old retired guy like me who spends too much time in front of the computer.

[Guest skrubber]

Thanks CODY for that letter. It touched my heart. Don't ever stop being nice. I know for one, I will always hold you dear to my heart and appreciate the times we have spent together and think of each and every one of them often. You always leave me waiting for the next time we meet.

 

JIM

 

Everybody loves Backa Baa.

[ncc1701d]

>

>3. Failing to realize the value of what they have received.

>In most cities, $200 will pay for a nice, lingering dinner

>with a friend or two or three. An escort who regularly spends

>one hour of time and receives $200 for his services may end up

>not appreciating the actual value of the money they are

>receiving. But paying for an escort is not like paying the

>light bill: clients can always choose to spend their money on

>something else, especially some other form of entertainment.

>

>

>4. Failing to realize the value of a follow-up. Most escorts

>are young and many -- if not most -- have never worked in any

>kind of profesional sales capacity. They may truly not

>understand the how much value a simple "thank you" can have.

>Follow-ups of this kind cost virtually nothing but can turn a

>one-time client into a repeat client. On the other hand, as

>you have experienced, total silence from the escort

>(especially an escort you have seen multiple times) can lead

>one to wonder if one shouldn't be calling a different escort.

>

Could not agree more..just because one hires while travelling doesn't mean that he will not go back to the same escort the next time he's in town. Better yet, if the encounter was so superb and one gets a thank you note, it very well may turn into an extended hire for the escort while being flown in....And add Steven (Portland/SF) to the list of fine gentlemen who sends thank-you notes...and not just a simple one-liner either :-)

[Rick Munroe]

Here's why I rarely send "thank you" notes: discretion. Deej was absolutely right. This was ingrained in me when I first started a few years ago; at that time, most of my clients were responding to my magazine or phone line ads, so I only had a client's phone number (if even) and not their email address. Wouldn't it be pushy/indiscreet to call someone the next day, especially when many are closeted? So, I just got into the habit of showing them a really good time and showing my appreciation, in person, at that time. Now, I know emails are a different story but I also delete most emails because I don't like to keep records. (I ask clients to call me on the day we are meeting to reconfirm, and I do ask for their cell phone number, in case of emergency and only if they want to give it to me.) The majority of Derek's and my clients are regulars and repeat clients, so I don't really think this matters to everyone.

 

Boston Guy said, "Most escorts are young and many -- if not most -- have never worked in any kind of profesional sales capacity." But I thought clients like it when we don't treat this as "sales," with a cash register ka-chinging in the background. I would think the professionalism that matters most to clients is how we perform when we're together (and in the emails/phone calls leading up to the meeting), and not as much in the "after-sales follow-up." Isn't it more important that we offer good quality service with a smile? KY_Top said,"less than 10 have sent me an e-mail of thanks afterwards. Funny thing is that 3 of them were from the 3 worst Escort experiences I have had." That says to me that maybe, sometimes, the ones who send "thank-you's" could be the ones who know they didn't do such a great job, and want to make sure they didn't fuck up a possible repeat.

 

I just think perhaps this is a non-issue.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Judith Martin In Disguise

 

The absence of common courtesy in everyday life is an unfortunate event in any number of circumstances. That it has carried over to some escort/client situations is simply an emblem of what all of us deal with, from walking into a public washroom with someone leaving the water running in a sink, to drivers who cut you off in traffic, or take your parking spot.

 

However, I think the concept that courtesy was ever common is actually not true. I believe consideration and respects for others needs to be learned and needs to be taught. I see nothing but good coming out of a client making a suggestion about behavior to an escort. Hopefully, all the clients who send a thank you note to an escort, even if the client intiates this discourse first, are teaching the escorts to treat future clients with a little more kindness in the future.