My first vacation with an escort...

[Guest JON1265]

...and I can say I would not do it again.

 

The whole concept of paying someone a daily rate, as well as for their trip, and everything on the trip just struck me as ludicrus. I have never done it before, so I just wanted to see if I would enjoy it, and if the money spent would be worthwhile. IMO it was not. The escort I went with gave me a great rate, so I could not see myself paying even MORE for someone else.

 

With the money I spent, I could have hired many escorts multiple times with where I went.

 

I guess the cons of it (and there were many) outweigh the pros IMO.

 

Has anyone else traveled with an escort only to find out they would not do it again?

[marc anthony]

Sorry, Jon. I have just the opposite experience. I love travelling with an escort. Sorry you didn't have a good experience... or at least one that you did not feel was worth your money.

 

To each his own... and now you know what will not make you happy, so you can plan accordingly. I am certain that a large part of whether you enjoy travelling with an escort has to do with whether COMPANY is as important to you as SEX during the course of a day. If your emphasis is heavily upon the sex, then I am sure it is much more cost efficient to hire individual escorts for hourly's. If you value the company, then that wouldn't do it.

[eastbayguy]

>...and I can say I would not do it again.

>

>With the money I spent, I could have hired many escorts

>multiple times with where I went.

>

>I guess the cons of it (and there were many) outweigh the pros

>IMO.

>

>Has anyone else traveled with an escort only to find out they

>would not do it again?

 

Oh John, mustn't tease and tantalize the denizens of the Land of Hoo like this. We need a tell all report with a lead in like this. Or at least some details. You can leave out the name(s) to protect the guilty or innocent wanna-bes involved. I am sure I am speaking for many here, when I say, WE WANT THE DIRT! }(

 

Sorry your experience was negative. I'd love to hear what went wrong.

 

--EBG

[Chuck50]

You have to get to know them first and get them to get onboard with you. Pre-plan it and it will be so much fun HUGS Chuck :P :P :P

[Guest JON1265]

Well, I have hired this escort quite a bit over the last 2 years or so. But, I never spent more than an hour or two with this person, so spending this much time with him was a first, even though I knew him. And I will also say that it was not all him - it takes two to make it work. I also don't want to make it sound like it as a total disaster - it wasn't.

 

First the pros.

 

It was nice to have someone to walk the sites and see the shows with - we saw 2 shows together and enjoyed both shows. We ate very well, and pretty much he wanted for nothing. It was nice to have someone to take a bath with, get a massage, or have sex with when you asked. We only had sex three times over 5 days - but two of those days were travel days, so it was pretty hectic on those days, anyway. He did not take advantage of my generousness, and always thanked me when I did something for him, so he wasn't ungrateful.

 

The cons.

 

He was not the greatest conversationalist - he seemed to be only interested in himself and his life and his problems. It got boring after awhile. Even after gently kidding him about it - he still continued. We had a nice sit down dinner one night and I swear he talked non-stop for about 60 minutes. On the plane he slept or read. If he wasn't yakking away - he was kind of shut down. He didn't really bring any nice clothes and wore jeans everywhere we went. He wanted to go into every store that dealt with clothes or shoes to browse - which I find very boring. To be honest I just don't think he was very sophisticated at traveling with a client.

 

Maybe my expectations were too high, as we never sat down and mapped out everything I wanted versus everything he was willing to do or give. I also live alone and tend to be somewhat solitary in what I do in my normal life, so suddenly adjusting to another person was challenging. But I thought I did pretty well with that issue overall.

 

I felt we parted on a somewhat "cool" note, as we did very little talking when we landed and went to get our luggage. He was phoning friends almost from the moment we landed until we got into the car.

 

Like I said, it wasn't a disaster, but I would not travel with an escort again. I would pay to bring a friend along if I was that desirable of company.

 

I realize you are only getting my take on it - I have no doubt the escort has his own view. But considering that I was the client I felt it was his "job" to keep me satisfied - not vice-versa.

 

Sadly, I don't even think I would hire him again even for an hour. I think that has also run its course.

 

Just my observations.

[Chuck50]

The Key is to spend some time with him. Ensure that you two are compatible. I sure did or lie we say "Do your HOmework" HUGS Chuck:P :P :P

[nate_sf]

>Sadly, I don't even think I would hire him again even for an

>hour. I think that has also run its course.

 

Unfortunately this kind of "falling out" can happen with any travelling companion, whether escort, friend, even lover. A few years ago a guy I knew from school and I agreed to go travelling through Europe together. We were fairly friendly but not super close friends, but we both wanted to travel and not go alone. Well, about half way through the trip we decided we didn't like each other... it was very cool and amicable, but he decided to go our separate ways. When we got back to school we hardly ever talked again. The friendship had definitely run its course. Other people I know have had similar experiences.

 

I guess travelling can be really difficult... it's like people's personalities change when they're out of their element, and you never know what you're going to get.

 

In other posts on this subject in the past, I remember some people suggesting it's a good idea to schedule some time apart on a trip, especially if you're used to having your own space. It's definitely something you'd want to agree on beforehand, but could make things better for the time together.

[Guest LG320126]

My friend, I am sorry you did not enjoy your experience, but you state that you had never spent more than an hour or 2 with this particular escort at one time. What in the world enticed you to want to hire him for 5 days when you had never as much as done an overnight with him? IMHO you screwed up and didn't do your homework. I have hired many escorts for overnights and if that worked, have spent weekends with them and have never once been disappointed.

 

Sorry for your bad experience.

[guyinsf]

You are obviously free to draw any conclusions you want from your experience, but I would caution you about concluding that hiring an escort for a vacation isn't worth it based on this single experience.

 

It's unfortunate that you found out that you weren't that compatible with the guy you hired, but as others have pointed out you can do more "homework" in the future if you decide to hire someone for an extended appointment. Hiring someone for an overnight or two will allow you time to just hang out with that escort to see what conversation is like between the two of you. It will also allow you to see if that escort seems interested in pleasing you or if he is self-centered. Spending several days with someone requires different skills than performing in bed for an hour or two at a time.

 

Perhaps the guy you hired is simply better at providing sexual services than he is companionship, though sex 3 times over 5 days doesn't sound like much to me unless he was attempting to initiate sex and you were turning him away.

[+ Lucky]

It has been my experience that most escorts, especially younger ones, tend to be unable to talk about anything other than themselves. After various social pleasantries, talk about people you might know in common, any further discussion must be about the escort to get the conversation flowing. That's why I don't usually hire escorts for their conversation!

Please note, it all depends Franco, and many escorts do not fit the above experience.

[Guest Joseph]

Have had some really good experiances traveling with escorts; however, always meet with them for short and over night calls first. By the time we went out for longer, we already knew each other and had some idea of what to expect.

[woodlawn]

>He was not the greatest conversationalist - he seemed to be

>only interested in himself and his life and his problems. It

>got boring after awhile. Even after gently kidding him about

>it - he still continued.

 

It is often pointed out on this board -- by both escorts and clients -- that most escorts would not want to spend time with a client without being paid.

 

What is less often pointed out is that many escorts have nothing much to offer besides sex, and that if they didn't put out most clients would not care to spend any time with them. Your experience seems to support this point. So does mine.

 

The vast majority of escorts I have seen are young men who are nice enough but who have nothing original or interesting to say on any subject whatsoever. Not all of them are as self-absorbed as the escort you hired, but as a rule they simply are not very interesting people. If you are looking for interesting people to spend time with, in my view you are not likely to find many who are escorts. Interesting people are people who are pursuing interesting careers or studies. They are not the people who spend a large percentage of their time clubbing or at gay pride celebrations or on the other amusements of the "gay scene" because people who are doing something real with their lives have very little time left over for anything else. When it comes to escorts, you will probably have to content yourself with the one service that most of them can actually provide.

[guptasa1]

>The vast majority of escorts I have seen are young men who are

>nice enough but who have nothing original or interesting to

>say on any subject whatsoever. Not all of them are as

>self-absorbed as the escort you hired, but as a rule they

>simply are not very interesting people. If you are looking

>for interesting people to spend time with, in my view you are

>not likely to find many who are escorts. Interesting people

>are people who are pursuing interesting careers or studies.

>They are not the people who spend a large percentage of their

>time clubbing or at gay pride celebrations or on the other

>amusements of the "gay scene" because people who are doing

>something real with their lives have very little time left

>over for anything else. When it comes to escorts, you will

>probably have to content yourself with the one service that

>most of them can actually provide.

 

While your experiences may have led to you to believe most escorts are uninteresting, I must say mine have been just the opposite. Maybe I've just been lucky with those I've hired, but most of the escorts I've spent time with and enjoyed being with have been very intelligent and very interesting people with a great personality to boot. There have been some exceptions, and all people of course have flaws, but by and large, that's been the case. Now, maybe part of that is that I don't feel I'm the most interesting person in the world, so our baseline may certainly be different there. But I also feel your definition of interesting and mine are far different. How can you define what is "interesting" or "real" and what is not? Sure, career and studies can make someone interesting, but I don't feel that's the only aspect of one's life that can make them an interesting person, at least to me. I've yet to be at a pride event or part of the gay scene (at least largely), so personally, *I* find stories about that interesting. (Though even aside from that, a few of the escorts I've met have had very interesting political/societal views and a lot of ambition that's interesting.)

 

Anyhow, as to the original topic, I agree with many of the others responding here. An overnight or two is probably a very good idea before a longer trip with someone to give both you AND the escort a better idea about compatibility.

 

In my opinion, it sounds to me you simply had a not-compatible-enough experience. I've never spent more than a weekend with an escort, but the one weekend I did spend was incredible (and this was someone I'd been with before for an overnight).

 

In short, I guess my opinion is that you might not want to write off trips with escorts altogether. Maybe it was just the wrong person to do that with.

 

Just my two cents.

[woodlawn]

>>The vast majority of escorts I have seen are young men who

>are

>>nice enough but who have nothing original or interesting to

>>say on any subject whatsoever. Not all of them are as

>>self-absorbed as the escort you hired, but as a rule they

>>simply are not very interesting people.

 

 

>Maybe I've just been lucky with those I've hired,

 

Or maybe your standards are different than mine.

 

 

>Now, maybe part of that is that

>I don't feel I'm the most interesting person in the world, so

>our baseline may certainly be different there.

 

Could be.

 

> But I also

>feel your definition of interesting and mine are far

>different.

 

I'd bet money on it. I would categorize just about all of your posts that I have seen as neither original nor interesting. You are well on your way to becoming the David Gergen of this board -- someone who can always be counted on to offer a bland, middle-of-the-road opinion on any topic.

 

 

>How can you define what is "interesting" or "real"

>and what is not?

 

The same way the thread author does -- subjectively. He has made it abundantly clear that he does NOT find it interesting to listen to the escort he hired go on and on and on about what is happening in his life, apparently the only subject the kid is capable of discussing. I imagine that if the kid's life consisted of anything other than partying and grinding away at some day job that would not be the case. Whether the events of someone's life make for interesting conversation depends on what they are. And even if those events are not terribly interesting the person in question may have something interesting to say about other topics. In this case, it seems to have been "no go" in both respects.

[BobbyThompson]

Hi guys. My typical preface: I know this is not a forum for escorts, but I have a few points to make. I hope my intrusion isn't inappropriate.

 

>It is often pointed out on this board -- by both escorts and

>clients -- that most escorts would not want to spend time with

>a client without being paid.

>

 

Overall, this is incredibly true. There are exceptions, however. It depends on how you treat him, I think. I actually miss some of my nicer clients, ones that take an interest in me, if I don't see them for awhile. Someone I saw as a client only twice has been my best friend now for nearly a year. We abandoned our sexual relationship and now see each other all the time.

 

Think of an escort as a professional. Would you expect your doctor to meet you for brunch, or your electrician to catch a movie with you? I don't know your job title, but I assume you don't fraternize with your boss after work.

 

>What is less often pointed out is that many escorts have

>nothing much to offer besides sex, and that if they didn't put

>out most clients would not care to spend any time with them.

>Your experience seems to support this point. So does mine.

>

 

First of all, sex is our raison d'etre.

To follow the same analogy...wouldn't you be a little annoyed if your electrician came to your house, had a drink with you, and didn't rewire your living room? If you're hiring an escort for an hour, it's pretty clear that the motivation is for sex. Your escort is aware of this and adjusts accordingly. If he spends 45 minutes chatting with you and only 15 minutes having sex, you would make the opposite complaint. Going through the escort's mind is that if he gets a reputation for this, bad reviews will be posted and he will loose business.

 

>The vast majority of escorts I have seen are young men who are

>nice enough but who have nothing original or interesting to

>say on any subject whatsoever.<...>Interesting people

>are people who are pursuing interesting careers or studies.

 

Frankly, don't you think most *people* are dull and uninteresting? Let me tell you, I've met some people with amazing jobs who were just so insipid. Finding a person who is truly creative, a fantastic conversationalist, witty and charming all in one package, is simply a rarity. If you find one, cherish him.

 

Again, I think it depends on your hiring practices, too. When hiring someone for an hour, don't expect any grandiose prose. If you hire for even a few hours longer and they don't satisfy you mentally and physically, I would find someone else.

 

Everyone, especially all my friends on the board, have a really great New Year!

Bobby

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

>...and I can say I would not do it again.

>

>The whole concept of paying someone a daily rate, as well as

>for their trip, and everything on the trip just struck me as

>ludicrus.

 

This makes it pretty clear that you are just not comfortable with the concept and that this discomfort goes deeper than experience was a lackluster time. Much (though not the same) as some are uncomfortable with the thought of paying for sex.

 

>

>Has anyone else traveled with an escort only to find out they

>would not do it again?

 

I have travelled with a handfull of escorts and all but one instance, simply put, were great!! In my view, the secret to success goes beyond finding someone attractive and compatible over short term appointments. I find someone with which I have a common interest and the trip focuses on that interest. Thus my companion has a genuine interest in the trip in addition me and compensation. It makes for a fun shared experience much as travel with other m4m'ers with common interests do.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

The Woody Factor

 

It really is unfortunate that you did not have a good experience on this trip. As some of the clients responding have pointed out, planning and communication could have assured that your time together would have been more appropriate to your financial investment as well as your emotional and physical investment of time and energy.

 

You know, some of us escorts recommend communication and as the recent thread from Jon Dean indicates, some clients may not know how to do this. But communication is important. A good example is conversation. When I get a massage, I just want to be massage, similar to when I get a hair cut. I do not wish to engage in conversation. However, when I am with a client, I anticipate and expect that they might want some conversation prior to any intimate contact and definitely want some conversation afterwards. I also always ask clients who primarily want a massage as their session whether they prefer me to talk or not.

 

It is about making the client feel comfortable and proactively creating a situation where the client enjoys himself. However, I have discovered that this works best and I think most clients would agree here, when the two parties are mutually enjoying themselves, for any situation where we are talking about extended hour hires.

 

I also think in your situation, as with any other situation, a conversation about expectations would have been helpful.

[Paul Revere]

There are a couple of different issues getting mixed up on this thread. The original poster was disappointed with spending five days with an escort, but there seems to be many other issues beyond just spending time with an escort.

 

JON1265 says he lives alone. I live alone, mostly by choice, and I find spending too much time with others can be stressful. House guests get old really quick. Traveling with someone can also be quite an adjustment. I successfully travel with my best friend, but we always each have our own hotel rooms and each have individual activities. When we go to Montreal, we will have breakfast and hang out during the day, but at night I go to the strip bars and he goes off to the tubs. In the morning we meet for breakfast again, compare stories, and solve world issues. But to travel successfully with someone you really have to be compatible and have shared intrests as well as independent time.

 

I have also traveled with "friends", who I never spent much time with after the trip. You really need to know that you can travel with someone before you make that commitment. This is especially true for those that live alone and are basically single and independent.

 

I have had great experieinces with escorts, and have gotten to know some beyond the professional relationship, but I have never had a desire spend a weekend with them, or take them on vacation with me. I really don't want to be with ANYONE 7 x 24. Being with someone 7 x 24 seems unnatural to me. If you are going to take an escort that you don't know very well, you need to set aside alone time for each of you. Let the escort go to the gym or go shopping on his own. The time together will then be more appreciated, and the whole thing can stay fresher.

 

Some escorts that I have met are in fact interesting and can talk about things beyond themselves and thier workouts. I know some escorts who read and are always interested in what I am reading. These guys would be more interesting to spend longer periods of time with. I have also had the opportunity to spend "off the clock" time with some escorts. It would be advisable to spend time like that with someone before commiting to a weeks vacation with them.

 

I guess for me, my escort adventures and vacations are often very separate events. Although I do take long weekends in New York and Montreal, and do more of a buffet thing with multiple escorts. That way I can spend time with friends, pursue other interests, and have escort adventures. It works much better for me that way.

[woodlawn]

>Hi guys. My typical preface: I know this is not a forum for

>escorts, but I have a few points to make. I hope my intrusion

>isn't inappropriate.

 

The only problem I've ever had with escorts who post in any of these forums is that some of them seem to expect to be treated differently than other posters simply because they are escorts. If that doesn't describe you, you're welcome to post anywhere you like so far as I'm concerned.

 

>>It is often pointed out on this board -- by both escorts and

>>clients -- that most escorts would not want to spend time

>with

>>a client without being paid.

 

>Overall, this is incredibly true.

 

What a surprise.

 

 

>Think of an escort as a professional. Would you expect your

>doctor to meet you for brunch, or your electrician to catch a

>movie with you?

 

I don't think of escorts as professionals because in my experience most of them don't behave in a manner that merits such a title. In my view, being a professional means that one puts adherence to the standards of one's profession above or ahead of one's own interests. I've met few escorts who fit that description. Most simply do whatever they feel like doing regardless of the effect on their clients and try to rationalize it later if anyone bothers to call them on it. There was a thread not long ago by someone who was complaining that he was no-showed by an escort after making all sorts of elaborate plans to take the guy on a trip. The responses he got indicate that I am far from the only person who takes this view of how the typical escort behaves -- most seemed to feel that the complainer should simply chalk his experience up to the nature of escorts.

 

I wouldn't expect my doctor to socialize with me because providing companionship is not his business, whereas it is the business of escorts. A better question would be, would I expect my doctor to treat me without payment? The answer is that doctors are obliged by the standards of their profession to treat patients without payment in some situations.

 

>>What is less often pointed out is that many escorts have

>>nothing much to offer besides sex, and that if they didn't

>put

>>out most clients would not care to spend any time with them.

>

>>Your experience seems to support this point. So does mine.

 

>First of all, sex is our raison d'etre.

 

Yes. That is why the disclaimer "payment is for time only" that appears on this and other escort sites seems so silly.

 

>To follow the same analogy...wouldn't you be a little annoyed

>if your electrician came to your house, had a drink with you,

>and didn't rewire your living room?

 

I suppose if I found his company tremendously enjoyable it wouldn't annoy me at all. That's the point: for many if not most escorts, their company alone is not enjoyable enough that clients would care to spend time with them without the sex. The clients and escorts who keep emphasizing that escorts don't want to be with clients unless they are paid sometimes seem to lose sight of the other side of that issue: many escorts have nothing to offer that anyone would be willing to pay much for other than their bodies. That's why they're escorts in the first place.

 

>>The vast majority of escorts I have seen are young men who

>are

>>nice enough but who have nothing original or interesting to

>>say on any subject whatsoever.<...>Interesting people

>>are people who are pursuing interesting careers or studies.

 

>Frankly, don't you think most *people* are dull and

>uninteresting?

 

I haven't met most people. I have met people who have interesting jobs or who are doing research or pursuing courses of study in interesting fields. None of them are escorts, however. The escorts I have met by and large are young guys who have some sort of ill-paid entry-level day job or who are working their way through college in some rather prosaic major long after many others their age have graduated. Aside from escorting, they spend their free time clubbing or partying in other ways. I keep hearing about guys who are hooking in order to support themselves while trying to break into some field of artistic endeavor to which they are passionately devoted, but I never seem to meet any of them.

 

>Let me tell you, I've met some people with

>amazing jobs who were just so insipid.

 

Then you've had remarkably bad luck. I know very few surgeons, high-ranking corporate executives, generals or investment bankers whom I could describe as "insipid." It's really hard to get and keep such a job if you're an idiot.

 

 

>Again, I think it depends on your hiring practices, too.

 

 

In fact, my expectations of the intellectual and cultural sophistication of escorts are pretty low. I really just want to fuck them.

[bootdad]

The joys of my self-employment allow me the luxury of working with clients in more than a dozen countries on 4 continents. I spend almost half the year in 4 and 5 star hotels and often tag on a few extra days here and there each month when I am in a city I am very fond of - London, Barcelona, Berlin, Vancouver, Miami, New York, LA, Vegas to name but a few. In a typical year I will work in no fewer than 20 cities around the globe, have almost scheduled most of my itinerary for 2004 and have confirmed assignments in 21 cities. Now yes - if you have not done a great deal of travel - I know this sound VERY glamourous - had you asked me that question 7-10 years ago, when upgrades were abundant - I would tell you I was one of the luckiest self-employed travelers on the planet, BUT planet earth - she is a very different world since 9-11 and 99 % of the pleasure of travelling has evaporated and now it is quite a dreadful and unpleasant task to spend 25-30 weeks of the year navigating airports. The original thread claimed travelling with escorts can be daunting at best - YES - absolutely IT IS ! ! ! Why is it that the person you were mad about following an hour or two or even an evening of GREAT sex is a completely different - irratating and irresponsible individual by the second day of travel. After experimenting with more than half a dozen escorts - I would NEVER again travel with one and have found the best strategy is to plan in advance and hire as I travel and occasionally consider an overnighter. Often - you get the ABSOLUTE best out of any escort in a visit that may not even last an hour - why try and improve on that accomplishment ??? Escorts and travel are rarely a success story !

[buckguy]

A few random thoughts in response to other posts and the flow of things......there's been talk about "research", bu tit's been kindof vague. Just as an hour or two may not be a good predictor of an overnight (my experience), an overnight may not be a great predictor of a vacation---an overnight usually involves some structured social activity (meal, show), sex, and sleep. A vacation is much less structured. Short of using an overnight to plan the vacation, what do you experienced vacation-hiring clients look for?

 

Ditto communication? great concept, but pretty vague suggestions on what to look for.

 

Better were the suggestions for what to do on the trip--I just spent 5 days with a sibling whom I love, but can't be with 24/7 for 5 days. I excused myself to run errands, take care of some of their errands, etc. partly to have time to myself. With something like shopping (which I find aversive as a "recreational activity"), I'd happily describe myself as poor company and agree to meet the guy after he's had a chance to indulge himself. Another consideration is to talk about likes and dislikes enough to plan something that you both will find interesting and be able to discuss.

 

One thing for Jon to consider is that the escort may not have had much experience with this (the vacation thing) and if he's a lot younger, he may not know much about relating to an person older than he is in a relatively friend-like manner. If someone is used to the older person being a boss, teacher, client, etc., this is tough. In the absence of expectations about what to do, he may have filled the time with what he knows best--himself, which is usually a good way for most people to ward off anxiety.

 

Age & life experience make a difference---but not necessarily all that much. When I lived in Washington DC, I met a lot of people with interesting vitas (i.e., travel to unusual places, contact with important political figures, etc.) who often were deadly dull once they stopped talking their vita. I had a boss like this---the only worthwhile conversations we had were about movies, which were my boss' one leisure time activity. I've met younger and less "experienced" people than me who are interesting because they are so engaged in what they do and can talk about it in an interesting way to someone else.

 

To some extent vacation hiring is a gamble--I suspect that some of the more consistently satisfied clients in this arena are extroverted types who are good at keeping the conversation going and keeping some control over the spotlight.

[buckguy]

Sorry, one other thought....for Jon, "What was your expectation of this vacation/hire?" scrolling through again, it struck me that this wasn't very clear and I wonder how clear it was to yourself.

 

I recently looked back on a number of recent hires and was struck how a seeminly single act (hiring) could have have different expectations attached and how inconsistent I've been in really think this through. By expectations: Am I simply "way horny"; Is affectionate companionship as important as sex; Is this a hot looking guy I want to be with (as opposed to "I'm way horny right now")--I think you get the idea. The best times have been when I really knew what I wanted had figured into the equation why I was choosing any partiicular escort for that occasion. A guy who's fine for "way horny now" might not be my first choice for a 5 day vacation, unless I'm prepared for 5 days of sex (I wish I had the energy for that!).

[+ Charlie]

Travelling is often stressful in itself. To add the necessity of being sensitive to the needs and reactions of a companion makes it moreso. I have found travelling even with close friends difficult at times. Trying to maintain an interesting conversation with a virtual stranger for long periods of time is a sure prescription for tension and eventual irritation.

 

Travelling with an escort in some ways is harder than travelling with a friend, because the relationship is unequal. The facade is one of travelling "companions", but in fact the relationship is one of employer and employee, no matter how one tries to mask it. Since you are paying for everything, you expect to get what you want from the experience, but he is probably uncertain exactly what you expect of him. If he is fairly young and not used to sophisticated travel, he is not really as prepared for the experience as he may be for an oft-repeated sexual encounter. He probably finds it as hard to discuss his uneasiness as you seem to find it to explain exactly what you want from him. That probably also affects his sexual performance, the one part of the experience that he usually feels confident about. Although you don't say so, some of your disappointment seems to stem from that as well as his lack of satisfying conversation. It's easier to maintain sexual interest in someone when you still have some fantasies about him, not when the reality has turned out to be boringly mundane.

 

Finding a really good travelling companion is never easy, and trying to purchase one isn't the answer, unless you get a professional who is very experienced at it.

[LovesYng]

Sorry Jon to hear about your vacation, I have taking four escorts on trips with me in the past (3x London, 2x on a str8 cruises & a few times to Fl). I did my homework on them plus I seen all of them several times before the trip, each time I had a ball. Don't really know what I would do if I had a escort with me and things started going down hill, depends on the cost maybe ship his ass home.

 

When in doubt I whip it out:+

[+ Unicorn]

>Think of an escort as a professional. Would you expect your

>doctor to meet you for brunch, or your electrician to catch a

>movie with you?

 

My Webster's dictionary defines a "profession" as "a calling requiring specialized knowledge and often long and intensive academic preparation." Although a doctor, and probably even an electrician, can be described as "professional," I can hardly think of any job that I would describe as less of a "profession" than escorting. No offense to escorts, but sex doesn't require any specialized knowledge. In fact, sexual activity is one of the only instictive behaviors performed by humans, and it is even performed by invertebrate life forms. Granted, escorting does also require (seemingly) the escort to be nice/pleasant for the period of time for which he's hired. But to call an escort a "professional" simply makes the term meaningless. If escorting is a profession, then "profession" just means "job."

 

>Frankly, don't you think most *people* are dull and

>uninteresting?

 

I have lots of very interesting friends (and relatives). My boyfriend of 19 months, who used to be an escort, is also an interesting guy. I'm surprised you don't run into interesting people.