Bare-backing Escort Encounters

[Guest DevonSFescort]

RE: What Happens When You Travel For Two Weeks

 

>The links have been posted before, but simple skin to skin contact

>with any anal or oral penetration, can give a client OR

>an escort an STD.

 

Yes, it can, but let's not kid ourselves here. For sheer efficacy, every other method of STD transmission -- with the exception of rimming vis-a-vis a couple of diseases that are specifically spread that way -- pales in comparison to barebacking. Especially when you're talking about getting something more serious than crabs or a urinary tract infection. Spikes in STDs in the gay/bi male population are always linked hand in hand with spikes in barebacking. If you don't want to get an STD the single biggest thing you can do to protect yourself is to avoid barebacking, and to stay away from places like bathhouses where a lot of barebacking is going on.

 

As some of you know, given the direction things are going with rises in HIV and other STDs, I decided earlier this year to take things a step further and take bottoming out of my casual sex "diet" altogether. Not just with clients, but with anybody I hook up with. Yes, that decision was easier to make because I've always been someone who has difficulty bottoming for all but the most skilled tops (the kind that can just make you beg for it), or for someone I have a deeper emotional connection with. But it was also easier because I never revolved my sexuality around getting fucked by strangers in the first place.

 

What's more, neither do a lot of gay men, though you'd never know that from what straight people say about us, or indeed, from the images the gay porn industry overwhelmingly proliferates. (I've heard of studies purporting that even a lot of gay men in relationships don't make fucking a very high priority among their sexual activities together.) I'm always amazed when a client comes to me practically apologizing for the fact that he doesn't want to fuck, thinking that there must be something wrong with him as a gay man because it's just not his cup of tea. The good news for guys like that is that in this day and age that's not the worst aversion you can have. I consider myself very fortunate in that my sexual "staples" (not the kind used to attach sheets of paper, LOL) are about as safe as you can get.

 

For people who aren't so lucky in that regard and for whom sex just isn't complete unless you're getting plowed, well, the bad news is that the year 2003 is not a good time to be trusting people you don't know -- again, whether they're clients, escorts or non-commercial hookups -- to honor your desire to be safe. ncm said somewhere up above:

 

>Meanwhile, my saved-emailbox now contains messages from 6 other >clients who claim they've been in similar situations, but haven't >reported it here for various reasons.

 

Well, I've talked with a lot more than half a dozen escorts whose clients have tried (with success, if the escort was naive) to put them in similar situations, and with even more guys who met some asshole online who pulled the same shit on them. They don't have anywhere to report it when it happens to them. The common thread is not the occupation of the selfish prick, but the fact that the selfish prick was a stranger. Is it depressing, and a sad commentary, to think that a lot of gay men out there hold their own health and the health of others in such low regard? You bet. But if it's too much trouble, or it just kills the mood, for you to verify that the stranger fucking you is wearing a condom each time he inserts, then maybe, just maybe, you shouldn't let strangers fuck you, whether you hired them, they hired you, or you met off the clock.

[woodlawn]

RE: Very Helpful Comments

 

>Woodlawn, I couldn't agree more on all counts.

>

>Since we're past our "unless you're a complete idiot" stage,

>may I say that I enjoy your posts in large part because (a)

>you're obviously bright and very articulate, and (b) I

>appreciate your skills at repartee without getting personal.

>In my book, there's hardly a greater compliment. :o

 

Many thanks.

 

>Meanwhile, my saved-emailbox now contains messages from 6

>other clients who claim they've been in similar situations,

>but haven't reported it here for various reasons. Frankly, I'm

>much more interested in the management "rules" here. Methinks

>a slight imbalance has maybe become a major tilt.

 

That you have received so many messages from people claiming that escorts tricked them into barebacking is very depressing. Though I've been accused of disliking escorts as a group, I find the recent accusations of rape and barebacking to be shocking. Anyone who doesn't must have a much lower opinion of escorts than I do. Much of the bad behavior of which escorts have been accused on this site can be described as careless, inconsiderate, or showing poor judgment. But deliberately exposing someone to a risk of infection is simply evil -- there's no other word for it.

 

There have been a number of posts on this board recently by longtime members who say they're reluctant to report anything negative about popular escorts because of the hostility they've seen from the starry-eyed group and from Hooboy when others have done so. I've criticized those people for withholding information that could help others, but the more I think about it the more I feel that I've been criticizing the wrong people. :-(

[Guest ncm2169]

RE: Very Helpful Comments

 

Woodlawn, I'd like to either send you a private message or email you, but I can't find your profile. Can you get in contact with me through my profile info?

[Guest ncm2169]

RE: Very Helpful Comments

 

Woodlawn, I got your email, but my response to you bounced back. I can't use the site's email system, because you don't have a profile. What now?

[woodlawn]

RE: Very Helpful Comments

 

>Woodlawn, I got your email, but my response to you bounced

>back. I can't use the site's email system, because you don't

>have a profile. What now?

 

I'll see what I can do about it.

 

W.