Can anyone recommend a gentle TOP in LA for my first t....

[Guest jimmy2CU]

I've been dating a man recently that really wants to top me. I've attempted it before years ago, and it was always an unpleasant experience for me. The idea of it is hot to me, but I'm afraid that his rough style of lovemaking will really sour the deal for me again. Can anyone recommend a TOP escort in LA that would be a good choice to teach me how to relax into this? Find the pleasure in it? I would appreciate any advise guys. Also, if I may be graphic, what do you guys douche with??? Plain water? This is so stupid for many of you I suppose, but I'd like to be minty fresh!!!

[SoCal]

RE: Can anyone recommend a gentle TOP in LA for my firs...

 

Simply answered - Rod Hagen

 

http://www.rodhagen.com

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

First Time Tryers

 

1. You never want to use the liquid which comes in the enemas purchased at a drug store or grocery store. You always want to empty them out, rinse them out, and fill them with mild to warm water.

 

2. Use plenty of lubrication. Get what you think is plenty then double the amount and use more.

 

3. This is an instance where size is not a real benefit, although thickness would likely be more detrimental than length.

 

There are several good guides, some which may even be on line, but one which comes to mind is The Joy of Gay Sex, which you should look through.

 

There are advantages to an escort being your first time, in that you might feel more confidence that you have more control over the situation, but this is just as easily achieved with a partner you find in other ways. In that regard, Mr. Hagen does enjoy a good reputation, but I think you should consider who turns YOU on. If he does, contact him (or the candidate of your choice) and be very specific about your expectations and needs.

 

Finally, if the partner you are dating is agressive, your issue may be more with talking to him about this, and about him being gentle with you, than in finding someone else to go easy on you when your partner may, in fact, not do so.

 

Good luck.

[Guest jimmy2CU]

RE: First Time Tryers

 

Thanks so much for the info guys. A friend of mine also suggests I do something to relax. He knows how nervous the whole idea makes me. I could see having a drink, maybe even some weed, but he says Poppers are the key. I don't really care for poppers myself. Any other escort recommendations or relaxation ideas???

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Relaxation

 

> A friend of mine also

>suggests I do something to relax. He knows how nervous the

>whole idea makes me. I could see having a drink, maybe even

>some weed, but he says Poppers are the key. I don't really

>care for poppers myself. Any other escort recommendations or

>relaxation ideas???

 

Poppers are smooth muscle relaxers: that is what your throat and sphincter consists of. You may not really care for them because you have used poor quality ones. However, you simply may not care for them, period. You should never do them with viagra, should you decide to try them, and you should make sure your partner is also not on viagra if you are trying them, as the fumes alone maybe enough to occassion problems to him.

 

With alcohol, you should take care that you are relaxed and not numbed. While you can take a certain amount (more than you might imagine) of "pounding" you do not want to be unable to tell that some serious damage has befallen you. You may have less of a problem in this regard with pot, which is what I would recommend if poppers is not a serious possibility.

 

Finally, definitely insist on a massage beforehand. I do this for many of my "first time" clients as well as to the bisexual or previously identified as tops who come to me. Mr. Hagen recently studied massage, so he should be able to provide this as well and any good quality escort should be able to provide you with a quality, therapy based massage to initiate the session.