Rape scene gone bad

[Guest breezer2]

Half of you will call me a dumb-shit and I would agree. But tell me how to make a rape scene fantasy seem real. My lover fantasizes about rape scenes with a muscle-bound, hung cable repair man raping him. Sometimes we find a third guy and role play with him getting raped. But my partner always says it isn't real. So for his birthday I hired an escort to dress-up like the cable repair man and rape my partner.

 

I found a local muscle escort on Hooboy's who would do a rape scene. The escort turned out to be incredible - much better than his pictures. He showed up an hour before the "cable repair appointment" to go over everything. The escort was cool with messing around while I helped him into his uniform I got at the thrift store. He was muscular and hung - you could see his huge package in the pants and his chest was ripping apart the buttons and his arms were really stretching the shirt. About 15 minutes before my partner got home, the escort left and I hid in the house. My partner got home and soon after the escort knocked on the door and said he was the cable repairman. I couldn't see my partner but I could hear him and I could tell he was in total lust so I thought this would be perfect.

 

After a few minutes the scene started. The escort noticed my partner looking at bulge and said something like "what are you looking at - are you looking at my dick - are you a faggot boy?" Then the escort started raping my partner - forcing him on his knees - shoving his face in his crotch. My partner starting yelling so the escort ripped his shirt off and gagged him. I thought it was going great from what I could hear. It went on a few more minutes and as some point my partner went mental and the escort knew it. The escort said that this was just role play and that everything was cool but my partner actually thought he was getting raped. The escort immediately stopped everything and tried to calm my partner down. At this point I knew it was over so I came out of hiding. The escort was cool and stuck around until my partner calmed down and was alright. I asked the escort why he stopped because this is exactly what my partner has always fantasized about. He said he was into role play but not real rape and it was obvious that there was no consent. He tried to give me back my money since I paid in advance but I felt obligated to pay his fee (I think we settled on half). My partner still fantasizes about that day and about getting raped so I asked him if he was glad the escort stopped. He said he doesn't know.

 

Any ideas on how to help my partner or is this one of those things you just leave alone? Should the escort have stopped even though I told him it was a rape scene?

[Guest chubsksesc]

You have touched on my number one unfulfilled fantasies, a rape scene. I know how your bf feels. I would pay total top dollar for the real guy to do it right.

 

However, rape scenes are "Sado-Masochist-esque." In any rough leather scene, some details should be discussed. Such as words which will indicate to the "Raper" that the victim is seriously asking for a reduction in intensity or immediate stoppage.

 

That is something you would need to discuss with your bf in advance of another attempted at setting this kind of scene up.

 

Also you should find out specifically from your bf what his limits are in a rape scene? What is out of bounds?

 

Conveying to your escort this vital information better insures a good experience for all.

[Guest Chazzz69]

>Also you should find out specifically from your bf what his

>limits are in a rape scene? What is out of bounds?

>

>Conveying to your escort this vital information better

>insures a good experience for all.

 

Sounds like the fantasy became "real" - meaning your bf was, in his mind, really being raped. Remember this is about power and domination. Its a mind game, not a porn movie. The escort was right to stop when he did.

 

I have done a few rape scenes but not with escorts. A bf introduced me to the idea just like you. My suggestion would be to try this as a phone sex fantasy at first. Perhaps the three of you set a scene - locker room, doctor's office or cable repair, whatever. You listen in on the line. This may be a safer way to expolre this fantasy than the "real" thing.

 

Then if he's still interested you could set a "real" live scene with all the limits clearly defined. It won't be a disaster and everyone is satisfied so to speak.

 

This is a fantasy for a number of guys. Straight guys in partcular believe it or not.

[Guest Hole_4_Hire]

>Any ideas on how to help my partner or is this one of those things you just leave alone? Should the escort have stopped even though I told him it was a rape scene?

 

Without a doubt the escort was correct in stopping. Being a willing victim is one thing but this scene was way too realistic for your bf. I applaud the way the escort handled this -- stopping and sticking around to reassure your bf.

 

I also agree with the earlier post that "safe" words should always be used in this type of situation.

 

I suggest you do nothing more about this situation. Your intentions were well-meaning but the execution needed a little more work. Even though this was role-playing for the escort, it was the "real" thing for your bf. Expect that he may go through the symptoms or problems experienced by real rape victims.

 

FYI, I agreed once to do a rape scene where I would be "raped" by a client (I had previously seen him 4 other times as his "non-rape" and safer-sex bottom). The day before the "rape" we talked on the phone to clarify boundries and establish a "safe" word I could use. The client agreed to stop the "rape" if I used the "safe" word.

 

The night of the "rape" everything was going fine and I could tell the client was really enjoying it. But, I got nervous when he started lubing up his cock without a condom. While maintaining my "victim" role, I begged him to use a condom. He refused. I used the "safe" word but he didn't stop.

 

I literally fought him off to keep him from barebacking me. Had I not overpowered him, there is no doubt in my mind he would have fucked me without a condom. He didn't (or couldn't) shut off his role.

 

Believe me, I know what it's like to feel like you're about to be raped. Be gentle with your bf. He'll need your support even though it was only role playing.

[Guest DCeBOY]

your partner is fucked up & can't handle it when push comes to shove.

[Guest Spunk]

How can a rape scene go bad? Isn't rape in itself bad?

[tedbear]

>How can a rape scene go bad? Isn't rape in itself bad?

 

Spunk is absolutely correct. Rape is not about sex, it's an act of violence.

 

Twenty years ago when I was a naive twink, I went home with the wrong guy who had a fabulous address. I had gotten bad vibes about him from the start, but allowed yself to get talked into going with him. I should have listened to those vibes.

 

I won't go into details, but it affected me (and my sex life) for many years. From the moment I got away from him I began trying to drown the pain with a bottle of bourbon. This lasted for over a decade. I've spent many thousands of dollars on counseling. I now see myself as a survivor instead of a victim.

 

After many years, I''m finally able to enjoy sex again, although I've never been able to let myself enjoy it the way I once did. It would be very easy to find myself regretting all those years I've wasted due to that one hour spent with this guy.

 

My point? Rape is wrong. I admit I don't understand why anyone would want to have a fantasy about rape, but I do realize that those who do don't understand the horror and pain that rape really brings.

 

The escort in this situation did exactly what he should have done by stopping and reassuring the BF. If he hadn't it's quite possible the police would have been involved and the escort and the BF who hired him could have been deep in trouble.

 

In some towns, police are finally taking gay rape seriously. Back then, once they learned I was head of the Gay and Lesbian Switchboard and that I left the bar with him, they rolled their eyes and basically told me to get out.

[Guest Fin Fang Foom]

Here we have yet another example of a twisted faggot who is all talk and no action.

 

"Oh yeah! Man I really wanna be raped! Rape my ass man! I want a big cable man to come in and treat me like the faggot I am and rape my ass and make me be his rape bitch!"

 

And on and on and on and on and on and on and.........

 

And then when they FINALLY have the opportunity to have it occur - *POOF* - they get cold feet and can't "handle it".

 

Being a top, I meet these freaks online all the time and I don't waste my time with them. It's all in their heads and they won't do anything about it. Talk is cheap. And fantasy is even cheaper.

 

Disgustedly yours,

 

FFF

[Guest RushNY]

>How can a rape scene go bad? Isn't rape in itself bad?

Er YEAH !!!!!!!!!!

Jesus this makes me SO damn angry,what sort of dumb fuck arranges a "rape" as a goddamn birthday present in the first place-ever heard of gift certificates .

Even if it had been your BF's fantasy for 20 years to go through something like this guess what genius- the operative word being FANTASY (i.e not real) its never gonna happen,I mean i fantasise about winning the lottery or dipping Hugh Jackman in melted chocolate but its never gonna be i.e a FANTASY.

As another poster said rape is about violence,control,degredation and humiliation not about SEX ,sex is usually the end result when the victim male or female has been terrified out of their senses.

Have you ever seen or dealt with a rape victim -well i have had the misfortune on too many occasions ,people who are literally scared of their own shadows their lives shattered and cannot function properly afterwards,some commit suicide because they hate themselves so much and blame themselves for what went on even though it wasnt their fault.I could go on but im too damn angry...........

[+ Lucky]

RushNY could not have said it better. Anyone who has dealt with real rape victims would find this scene reprehensible.

It is not a fantasy, it is violence. The gay rape fantasy never seems to want the trauma and pain of real rape, so don't call it a rape fantasy.

[guyinsf]

You have received a lot of good feedback already. I would also suggest that your boyfriend see a counselor to try to understand why he continues to have this "fantasy" when, in fact, he was miserable when his fantasy had become a reality (at least in his mind). It is either going to seem "real" (and he'll freak out) or he will know it is fake and he won't be happy.

 

As others have said, fantasy does not equal reality. Everyone fantasizes about somethings that they will never do. The key is to understand which of your fantasies you want to make real and which you allow yourself to enjoy as fantasies in and of themselves.

[Guest Samtopinma]

I agree with everything that has been said thus far. As an s&m top who is basically into spanking, whipping, I talk on line to a lot of guys who have this fantasy i.e. of being a bad boy etc. However, when the conversation start to get serious, then they run fast. A fantasy is a fantasy, and most people don't want their fantasies to become reality. I would told my bf what I was doing, and given him a time frame when it might happen. If the vibes I got back were negative, I would have cancelled the whole thing. Finally the escort was fantastic. This guy should get some kind of an award.;-)