Escort / Client Relationship

[Guest Torstud]

I have been meeting an escort since last August twice per week

( overnights ). We enjoy dinners, theatre, clubs and travelling not to mention the intimate part of the relationship. We speak at least once a day on the phone. Is this an unique Escort / Client relationship or can it no longer be classified as such a relationship ?

[Guest EWC]

It sounds like a marriage, only cheaper.

[guyinsf]

Sounds more like a "sugar daddy" type of relationship.

[Michael]

It's certainly not unique ...

 

... and it certainly can still be classified as an Escort / Client

relationship if that is, in fact, what it is.

 

It's posssible that there may be more than "just" and Escort / Client

relationship going on here - you may have a genuine friendship as

well - but if that is the case then you had better learn to sort out

which parts of the relationship are "business" and which are not.

 

( Hint: If you are paying for it, it's probably "business" )

[Guest Blink]

and... don't get carried away. As long as you are paying, it is still business.

[Will]

A quick way to find out where both you and the escort stand is to hire other escorts instead. Do if for a month, without repeating. If you can afford two overnights a week, you can also afford to fly in escorts if there aren't enough in your area.

 

You will soon discover, I imagine, precisely what the emotional investment in this relationship is for the both of you.

 

Here are a couple of test questions to get you started:

 

1. From an escort's viewpoint, you're the perfect client. But are you the perfect husband for him? Do you feel comfortable in asking him that? If not, ask yourself why you don't feel comfortable.

 

2. From the client's viewpoint, he's clearly just right for you. But would you like to continue paying him, or does something in you make you want him to waive his fee, permanently? If so, you're not regarding him as an escort, no matter what you tell yourself.

[Guest Torstud]

I would like to respond to Wills post:

 

1. I have no desire to hire another escort. I would be very uncomfortable with him.

 

2. I know the answer to the husband question. It is yes from the point of view of the escort.

 

3. The fee is not even an issue or would I ask him to waive it.

 

I would like to hear from other escorts or clients if they have had similiar relationships and what was the outcome .

[Guest Ant415]

Is it an unique relationship???

 

-NO..... It's a GOLDMINE!!!

 

And your other point, do any other clients have such relations. I think would be safe to say no. I am not good in math, but assuming his overnight rate is at the low end (to reward a frequent flier) at $500.00 per night, x 2 nights per week, x 50 weeks a year... that is $100,000.00 a year. This guy makes more than the overwhelming majority of working families (where Mom and Dad work full time)for two nights of work. Not sure how many gentlemen here can afford such regular luxury goods.

 

Good deal for the escort, for sure.

 

Suppose safe to say you have lots of disposable income... congratulations.

[Guest Samtopinma]

I was in such a relationship for several years, and at one point I truly considered him a lover. We did all the things you are talking about and then some. I think even now that the relationship on his part was genuine in that he really did like me. However, I continued to "help him out" fainancially. I knew how he was spending the money, and it was very legit. However, when I ran into some financial problems and couldn't contiue helping him out, guess what, I haven't seen or heard from him since, and now that I could again, I wont. Enough said

[Bilbo]

The escort here certainly seems to be doing exactly what he agreed to do. And has been doing it well and for a long time. I see no reason for anyone to complain about what he has been doing. I myself had a client who had been seeing me for a while, when he would get high and I was willing to take high clients, ask me for some of his money back. Riciculous!! And you're reaction to a businessman who quits doing buisness with you when you can't afford to hire him any more seems a bit riciculous as well.

 

To the origional poster, may I add a question to Will's questions. In what I understand about the old days with old money families (and here I am accepting the goldmine man's math, or very nearly accepting it, and also accepting at face value that you are telling the truth), there was a habit of placing the family retainers on their wills. This escort - with his good work and his reliability - and the fact that you may be totally supporting him (not that it is any business under the facts as you have presented them so far if you are, necessarily) - certainly seems to me to start fitting the description of an old family retainer. Have you, or would you, consider putting him on your will?

[Guest Torstud]

The facts as stated are the truth! The goldmine mans math is incorrect. I can not imagine any circumstances that would warrant asking for a refund.

 

I would have no problem haveing his name placed in my will!

[Guest regulation]

>Is it an unique relationship???

>

>-NO..... It's a GOLDMINE!!!

>

>And your other point, do any other clients have such

>relations. I think would be safe to say no. I am not good

>in math, but assuming his overnight rate is at the low end

>(to reward a frequent flier) at $500.00 per night, x 2

>nights per week, x 50 weeks a year... that is $100,000.00 a

>year.

 

Actually, that adds up to only $50,000.00 per year -- which is still more than the median household income in this country. In other words, it is more than half the households in America earn per year.

 

As to whether there is anything unique occurring here, of course there isn't. This sort of arrangement is a very, very old story. The ending is just as old. When the money stops for some reason, or when the escort finds some other means of support, the "relationship" ends.

[Guest Derrick]

From an escort..........

 

I congradulate that escort who is GETTING PAID!

 

You go girl!

 

As a matter of fact I'm downright jealous.

But I do have to agree the moment the money stopped, I would

be checking out leaving my key at the front desk and traveling to the next client.

 

I find in these situations that its difficult to keep your eyes

on reality, to the author: don't forget what your relationship is,

money.

 

If you can afford for him to be "on-call" the way he is, I would

bet you just bought a husband.

 

Derrick, who is very jealous.

To the escort: If you need help laundering that money, I can't put you

in touch with an expert in money laundering

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[Michael]

... perhaps I could also ask just one more question of the original poster ...

 

What was it that made you want to ask this particular question in this forum in the first place?

[Guest Blink]

It seems to me that the original poster does not really care what we say. He just wants us to know that he made a good purchase. Pobrisita.

[Guest Torstud]

The reason for the original post was... I thought there would be more input from escorts and clients that this may of happened to!! I am surprized at the responses that really everything is based on money no other relationship could develop.

[guyinsf]

Certainly some sort of relationship will develop. How can you see someone two nights per week every week and not get to know him and him get to know you better?

 

I think the point people are trying to highlight is that while you will be developing a relationship, the underlying factor is still money. It isn't likely that some day you will have paid the guy enough and he'll be with you forever more without asking for another cent. As others said, if you no longer want to pay, you may very well not see him again. If you do see him, it would probably be on a strictly friendly basis (sharing whatever common interests you may have discovered), not him coming over to sleep with you.

 

I, like others, wish I had the income to hire my favorite guy twice per week! Once per month or so is all I can let myself indulge in. And while I have developed a relationship with the man outside of our "business meetings", I know that if I no longer wanted to hire him that (a) I would no longer be sleeping with him and (b) I may hardly ever see him, since he is a busy (popular) guy. I think we would probably have coffee once in a blue moon, and we might trade emails once in a while, but that would likely be it. How do I come to these conclusions? We seldom see each other now except when I hire him, but it does happen on occasion. There's no reason for me to believe that would change if I stopped paying him.

 

While I doubt that relationships like yours are common (most men cannot afford to spend tens of thousands of dollars per year to hire an escort), I know that there are other wealthy, gay men who pay handsome sums to keep young, attractive men around.

[Guest sexylatinboy]

From an Ex-Escort...

 

The dynamics of the relationship described on this forum are not the same as a regular relationship. In a regular relationship it is supposed to be 50/50 emotionally and financially. But in this case, the escort is playing the part that the client wants him to play, which is the part of "his trophy boyfiend" (pure fantasy, I am afraid.) The escort will do this for as long as he is being rewarded with money or expensive gifts. I had many similar experiences in which clients went head over hills for me, not that I am all that, but they did. I had no desire to have a relationship with any of them, I just went along and fullfilled their "fantasies" of treating me as their "boyfriend"...Spending the nights with them, cuddling up, kissing, etc, but always being careful with the words I used when we had emotional conversations. I did this as long as there was the financial arrangement, not that it was all I cared about, but as an escort one becomes conditioned and very spoiled making all that easy money. Several clients went bankrupt. I am not sure if it was because of me but once that happened, other wealthy clients came into the picture, and well, the temptation of making more money was irrisistible, so I moved on. I remained friends with most of my clients, in particular the ones that went bankrupt.

From my experiences, the best advice that I can offer to a "client" is to never fall in love with an escort...you may regret it later. and the best advice I can offer to an "escort" is...get out there and get that money while you can!!!

I need to add that I have met several couples that met under client/escort circumstances and two of these couples have been together for over 10 years but the dynamics never changed...the one that used to be the escort seems to always continue to benefit from the financial enjoyment that the benefactor continues to provide. So what does that tell you?

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Excellent questions Will...

 

I have taken your test (more than once)...and I passed, I think(?). But I'm not sure where that leaves me other than 'on the road of life' .

 

(In need of an icon with a puzzled expression or in lieu of that a blank one.)

[Guest TorStudx]

For the information of all of you who responded to this thread , the Escort and Client was married on February 14, 2002 .