Gentle Question

[Guest cp8036]

This kind of goes back to the point of what do you pay for a turn-away upon meeting.

 

I recently had a meeting with a well-known escort. He seemed like a good choice, was nice on the phone, and thorough in his emails. My simple requests were that he be personable, no attitude, and very clean.

 

We met, and I declined to go any further. I am not a militant non-smoker, but I do take issue with smoker's breathe. I didn't really go over that issue that moment, but just said that I will pass, sorry. I know he was angry for the wasted time, but he lied about being a non-smoker.

 

My dilemma... in a follow-up email he asked why did I reject him. I have not answered yet, as I am not sure how to approach. If I don't tell him the real reason, he will think I am a flake that is playing games.

 

Also, if I post a review, I could embarrass him. While I don't want to do that, honesty and openness dictate that I should review our short meeting. Should I sugar-coast the truth and come up with a softer excuse? Part of this site is to swap information between our community. I never want to slander someone, but this was a real issue for me (and others I am sure).

 

Is it possible the review would get rejected, as to protect this guy?

[fedssocr1]

I don't understand why you don't want to tell him the truth. What's the big deal? You didn't like his smoker's breath...so tell him that. It would probably be doing him a favor. I personally wouldn't write a review of your non-appointment, appointment. It's not like he was a no show, it just didn't work out.

[+ Lucky]

Where is Gentle Dude to respond to this question? If the only problem you had with him was smoker's breath, you could have given him a strong mouthwash. But if, in fact, his lying turned you off, or something else, I think you should tell him.

A review is probably not necessary since your rejection and honesty with him gives him the chance to clean up his act first.

And we all deserve a chance, don't we? Or am I being too gentle here?

[OneFinger]

I'm not sure a review is appropriate since he did show up and was willing to provide services. However, I would respond to his e-mail.

 

I would briefly explain that smoker's breath or odor on the clothes is something your body cannot tolerate. (Please, no lectures or put downs - just a simple statement.)

 

I'm sure you stated your smoking preference by e-mail or phone when you set-up the appointment. But, to soften the negative comment, I'd probably offer an apology for not more clearly stating you were seeking a non-smoking escort.

 

If he made the effort to contact you to find out what was wrong, he would probably appreciate an honest, non-judgemental answer. Should he respond in a less-than-professional manner, I might consider posting a review or a message center thread. But first, I'd approach him in private.

[Guest ChicagoCorey]

Unless he's insane, he'll probably appreciate the honest feedback. Unlike other reasons why you may have rejected him, this one is really easy for him to fix. His imagination is probably running wild wondering what else he may have done wrong. Put his mind at ease.

[Guest Gentle Dude]

>Where is Gentle Dude to respond to this question?

 

I'm still here.

 

>If the only problem you had with him was smoker's breath, you could

>have given him a strong mouthwash. But if, in fact, his

>lying turned you off, or something else, I think you should

>tell him.

>A review is probably not necessary since your rejection and

>honesty with him gives him the chance to clean up his act

>first.

>And we all deserve a chance, don't we? Or am I being too

>gentle here?

 

 

If he was a well-known escort, wouldn't some of his reviews indicate whether he was a smoker or not?

 

I wouldn't write a negative review just for that. It's just a misunderstanding and I agree with the above post, give him a second chance.

 

GD

[Guest Kevin 2]

Respond to his E-mail honestly and skip the review.

[Guest DavidYoung]

Hi Gentle,

 

You sound very nice and sensitive guy. I wish more people, who hire escorts, are like you. Concern a little bit about escort's feelings and what would happen to thier business if you posted the review. If this escort is very POPULAR, your review will HURT his busniess. This is interesting topic!! How if an escort called off the meeting because his client had a poor hygiene? His Client was very POPULAR too and he posted a review on him. He wondered why he got called off and tried to guess few reasons why. **This is the opossite of your topic.** The escort got a review from him and, since the escort was very nice and sensitive, he wrote a nice response and hid the truth reason just because his client was POPULAR. And his business went down and suffered. In my view, that escort should have said the truth at the first place instead of hiding it. Learning from THAT. I guess the escort need an honest reason from you why you called off the meeting. Fisrt, You can send an email him to let him know why. Secodnly, it is up to you if you want to post the review. Because Honesty is IMPORTANT. And for the ESCORT please respond his review with your honest response. Honesty hurts sometime but it is worthy. Thank You.

[Guest DavidYoung]

Hi Gentle,

 

Come hire me :-) , I won't call off the meeting. I am non-smoking escort.

have a great day.

:9

[Guest cp8036]

Come to San Francisco, and will do just that.

[Guest Gentle Dude]

>Hi Gentle,

>

>Come hire me :-) , I won't call off the meeting. I am

>non-smoking escort.

>have a great day.

>:9

 

 

You got it. Check your e-mail.

 

GD

[Will]

But I can't make your AOL page come onto my screen. Am I doing something wrong?

[Will]

That happened to me, in a slightly different way. The escort had said that he didn't smoke, because he doesn't smoke -- he said later -- often. And when he does, he uses mouthwash.

 

So he was surprised when I asked him about it because he smelled of cigarette smoke (leather jackets are particularly absorbent of those pheromones). Smoker's breath can't be eliminated with mouthwash. And mouthwash does nothing at all for hair, clothing, and skin.

 

I think that an escort should be absolutely honest and that clients should be absolutely frank. I am one of those people who feel nauseated by the smell of cigarette smoke, and especially when it's on a person and not just in a room.

 

You should tell the escort, straight out, about your problem. And he, in turn, should either quit altogether or not say that he is a non-smoker.

 

This is a great, big deal for a lot of people out there in the world. It's time that escorts understand that "never" is not the same as "rarely."

[+ Lucky]

His AOL page came up on my screen very nicely. David Young looks really hot and I would hire him in a minute!

Trouble is he is in Chicago. I am in New York, and I cannot afford to fly guys around.

But, maybe I could schedule my San Francisco trip to coincide with his SF trip.......

More creamy boy cum for me? Just a fantasy? We'll see!

[+ Lucky]

Okay, I booked a trip to SF. Now, should I hire David,who will be there when I am, cp8036, or Gentle Dude?

[Guest Gentle Dude]

>Okay, I booked a trip to SF. Now, should I hire David,who

>will be there when I am, cp8036, or Gentle Dude?

 

I live in the SF Bay Area and I believe so do, CP8036. David will only be here for 6 days and I'll probably just book him for a couple of days.

 

GD

[Guest alanm]

I don't smoke, but could care less if the escort spokes. While I would

not want to be a room all day with 75 heavy smokers, smoke in moderation truly does not bother me. So far, only people who are really bothered by smoke have posted on this subject. It's possible that the majority of this escort's clients are like me; they really don't care. But, you owe him an honest answer. Yes, it bothes me also they he told you that he didn't smoke, when he really did. However, the lie is important to you, it wouldn't have made any diffence to me. So respond to him in that manner. That is, "Hey, smaoking is a really bid deal to me...

[Guest Merlin]

You first stated that you requested that he be "very clean", not that he be a non-smoker. Then you turned him away because he "lied about being a non-smoker". Did he actually ask if he was a non-smoker in you phone call, or are you thinking that smoking is inconsistent with your view of "very clean"? If he didn't actually say he was a non-smoker, I think you owe him an apology. Remember, escorts have feelings too, and no one likes rejection. Turning him away without an explanation undoubtedly hurt his feellings, and it was unneccessary.

[+ Lucky]

That's very kind of you, but you are not a gentle dude for nothing. I am sure I will get his spare moment.

[Guest cp8036]

Well, guess you have dates for three of your nights there !!!

[Guest cp8036]

JUST a couple of days?

[Guest cp8036]

Directed to Lucky... Guess you will have dates for three nights. Keep it up and you won't need to get a hotel.

[+ Lucky]

Hadn't thought of that, I could just bunk with David!:9

[Guest AdamLVescort]

I agree. I am a Smoker, but I am very self conscious about how I smell and my breathe. I tell everyone that I am a smoker but I don't ever smoke unless they smoke. I even make a special point not to smoke a hour or two before our date, just so I don't smell like an ashtray. I think you should tell the escort so he could change for the better. Honestly I haven't been ashamed to tell some guy to drag his ass in the rain locker before. It is just how you say it. I am a texas joker and I try to build a very good raport w/ my clients. Its very important to me so that they can feel comfortable telling me something they don't like and I can do the same. At least thats my view.....

[Guest DavidYoung]

Hi Gentle Dude,

I sent your email. I will check my schedule about my trip to SF. I will contact you via email. Thank you so much. I read your review about Brent. WOOWW You are very NICE!!!!!!. I hope to meet you in SF.