Initial tel contact with escort

[Guest Kenny]

I prefer an initial contact with an escort to be by e-mail. However, if impossible and ONLY a tel call is available, just how specific should one be with the escort on first tel call? I know that it should be clear what client wants from the escort and what the escort will and will not do BUT how does one do this without sounding too clinical, too business like, cold, etc. After all, I don't want to turn off the escort but at the same time, want him to know exactly what is expected. Any advise on how to do this in a warm friendly way and still get it across to him? Also, they may be wary of being specific on tel...could be law enforcement trying to trap them.

Advise please (feel free to quote specific lines to use).

[CT Dick]

Kenny, I'm glad you asked this question. It has always bothered me, too.

 

I usually ask the guy what his limits are (i.e. what he doesn't do).

 

I may be mistaken, but I figure that there is nothing illegal with that discussion; he isn't promising any sex for money and it lets me know what he's into.

 

Dick

[Guest IM_Moore]

>Kenny, I'm glad you asked this question. It has always

>bothered me, too.

>

>I usually ask the guy what his limits are (i.e. what he

>doesn't do).

>

>I may be mistaken, but I figure that there is nothing

>illegal with that discussion; he isn't promising any sex

>for money and it lets me know what he's into.

>

 

Not exactly true. There really is no such thing as an illegal discussion (in the states) there are discussions that law enforcement will tape and use as evidence to build a case and to try to convict.

 

The most STUPID thing escorts and clients can ask each other is "are you a cop?" A vice officer is NOT going to say, oh wow man you caught me I am a cop. SO many people are WRONGLY under the impression that they must acknowledge if asked. If you fall into this catagory expect to be in front of a judge! Remember entrapment is the act of creating a situation that you would not normally participate in (i.e. the sting forced you to unknowingly break the law).

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i know an escort who lives in the land of make believe where mgaic is created for all to see, though the poor escort is old and used, show mercy and let him blow gently out to sea.

[Guest AdamLVescort]

Ok here is my prob.. I have not really been to clear with my clients. The phone scares me and now email does too. Maybe I haven't fully got it when it comes to swapping info. I feel that my customers have always been happy and they have done nothing but give me praise after our first contact. (I try to send follow emails just to see how they are.) But still I kind have been letting myself go into situations blinded. So tell me, what is truly the proper contact approach for Client vs Escort and Escort vs. Client. ROFL Maybe I need to go back to Scorts 101. The main reason I ask these questions is to perfect my business skills and to never have any complaints. I know that isn't totally possible but I am trying to do my best. :-)

[+ deej]

Like many other things in life, preferred contact methods vary from person to person. I like to handle much initial contact in e-mail, but I've been "reading people" in e-mail for nearly 15 years. It is comfortable to me and I value that it isn't as "interruptive" as a phone call for *either* side. Some just prefer a phone call.

 

I'm reminded of a former boss (who is my age) who absolutely never used an ATM. He preferred to go into a bank and deal with a teller face-to-face. I haven't been inside a bank more than a handful of times in 10 years. We just have different preferences.

 

YOUR task, lovely Adam, is to read your client and figure out how they're more comfortable. Not an easy thing to do all the time.

 

But you should NEVER go into an engagement "blind". You do need to have the discussion about what will/won't happen before meeting. It is absolutely essential.

 

I know that not all clients are like me. I *always* tell escorts that I'm a big-dicked top who likes kissing cuddling, rimming, and then fucking. No question marks about what I'm looking for. Some clients are bashful about discussing it, but that's a reflection on the puritanical society we live in that says sex is a bad thing.

 

You can be a tremendous help for your more timid clients if you can help them feel good about expressing what they really like/want. How can they ever get it if they never learn to say they like it?

[Guest jeffOH]

God deej, you made my asshole twitch with that "big-dicked top" remark.

 

Adam, on the phone I give a client my physical description, rates and

availability. If they start asking specific sexual questions, I tell

them I don't get into such details over the phone. I will tell them that I am quite versatile, mostly top, very passionate and a great kisser.

 

If a client e-mails me, I will tell them my rates, availability,

description and I will direct them to this site so they can get an

idea of some of the things I do.

 

If someone says, "So you'll fuck me for that $$$ amount?", I'll hang up on them. Of course you can't be arrested for just saying yes, you will do it for that amount, but they can use it as additional evidence if they also set you up in person. Just as they would do if you showed up at a sting with condoms and lube...happened to a friend

of mine. They wrote down everything he had on him in their report.

Intent to commit a sexual act, I guess??

 

Jeff4hire@aol.com

[Guest Kenny]

Very interesting comments from Deej and Jeff. Deej appears to be VERY DIRECT in stating what his expectations are.....What does the escort usually reply?

Jeff, if asked the same questions, MAY hang up on the potential client. Question for Jeff is, if you don't discuss these "do and donts" on the telephone, when do you do it? (remember,my initial posting clearly stated that e-mail communication was impossible). Certainly,for an escort to show up at client's place and then to say, "I don't do this or I don't do that, etc" is a little late. Deej states that understanding all of this before the encounter is ESSENTIAL.

 

To Deej: How do you state your preferences above in such a manner that you don't turn off the escort?