Do escorts or porn stars like public recognition?

[Guest JON1265]

This afternoon my plans for seeing a movie were altered due to a friend's unfortunate car accident - nothing serious, but we missed the movie. We decided to grab a bite to eat at a local restaurant and guess who is the manager - I kid you not - Rod Barry.

 

I wanted to say something to him (discreetly of course) but wasn't sure if it was appropriate.

 

About a year or two ago, I used to see Billy Brandt around quite a bit - he was living in Philly and had friends in my neck of the woods. I live in South Jersey just outside of Philly.

 

Do escorts or porn stars like to be recognize? I mean I realize it is imperative to be discreet, but is it OK to say hi?

 

And since we're on the subject - has anyone ever bumped into an ecort they have hired before or a porn star and said anything?

 

By the way - Rod Barry looks AMAZING in person, and seemed to enjoy what he was doing.

[Guest bottomboykk]

I'm sure this varies from person to person. It's probably safer to play it cool, and not approach, but you never know! If you approach, make sure nobody is around to hear.

[+ deej]

That's good advice. Approach carefully and discreetly and they may enjoy being recognized. Drop to your knees and scream "I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO SUCK YOUR COCK" and they might not be so cool about it.

 

While I was interviewing a porn star recently, I asked if he got recognized. He said "honestly it's only happened a few times".

 

As Murphy would have it, just moments later he went to the bathroom and on his way back to our table guys at another table recognized him.

 

He was very cool and very sweet about it. But they were cool and non-interruptive about it.

 

It all boils down to what's appropriate for the moment.

[Guest MattAdams]

Rod Barry has gone off more than once to live a quiet life. He has done porn and escorting when it suited his needs. The one time I saw him in person he was somewhat flashy, but his actions always seemed to indicate that deep inside he just wanted the quiet life.

 

He is not unusual in that regard. There are a number of escorts and porn stars that just fade away to live a quiet life.

 

Matt Adams

Author, Hustlers, Escorts and Porn Stars

[+ Unicorn]

>This afternoon my plans for seeing a movie were altered due

>to a friend's unfortunate car accident - nothing serious,

>but we missed the movie. We decided to grab a bite to eat at

>a local restaurant and guess who is the manager - I kid you

>not - Rod Barry.

>

>I wanted to say something to him (discreetly of course) but

>wasn't sure if it was appropriate.

>

>About a year or two ago, I used to see Billy Brandt around

>quite a bit - he was living in Philly and had friends in my

>neck of the woods. I live in South Jersey just outside of

>Philly.

>

>Do escorts or porn stars like to be recognize? I mean I

>realize it is imperative to be discreet, but is it OK to say

>hi?

>

>And since we're on the subject - has anyone ever bumped into

>an ecort they have hired before or a porn star and said

>anything?

>

>By the way - Rod Barry looks AMAZING in person, and seemed

>to enjoy what he was doing.

 

Well, I can answer your last question. I've bumped into an escort I've hired before. I said "Hi! How are you doing?" and he said "Hi, [unicorn], nice to see you," and gave me a hug. I've also bumped into two porn stars in the past. In both cases, I just said "Hi! I just wanted to let you know I enjoy your work!" In both cases, strangely (?) enough, they gave me a "Who cares what you think?" look and said "Uh, thanks" or words to that effect. In neither case were they at work or with someone else, so they weren't embarassed in either case. Oh, that reminds me. There was one other guy I met here locally who was at work. He was both an escort I'd previously hired and a former porn star. In this case, he gave me a look that said he didn't want to be friendly at that time, so I left him alone.

 

I hope some of the escorts will answer your other questions, because I'm curious, too.

[Guest jordan steele]

From an escort perspective I think it depends on the nature of the relationship that you have with the escort....for many of my clients discretion and privacy are of the greatest importance to them... others I would have no problem talking to at any time.

 

I would never approach a one time client or expect them to approach me..

 

I suppose it is the nature of my business that I hold there trust, need for discretion and security above all else.

 

As far as porn stars I think it is like any other public figure...they are professional actors and deserve the same respect and consideration that any Hollywood big name deserves...they may not be the mainstream but my experience with them has been that (for the most part) they are very nice and personable people like you and me.

 

Keep it respectful and they will respond accordingly.

 

2 sense

[Guest sdmuscl4hire]

Prefferably not

[Rick Munroe]

>Drop to your knees and

>scream "I'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO SUCK YOUR COCK" and they might

>not be so cool about it.

 

I'd kind of dig that, actually.

[OneFinger]

>...anyone ever bumped into an escort they have hired before or a porn star and said anything?

 

While living in Detroit I ran into one of my regular escorts at his non-escorting job.

 

My company was hired to do a project for his company. Imagine my surprise when I walked into the first project meeting and saw my escort sitting there. When we were introduced (and yes, his escort name was really his first name) he shook my hand and said, "Happy to meet you." I took his cue and acted as though we didn't know each other.

 

That night he sent me an e-mail and suggested that we meet for coffee. We mutually decided that it would be too ackward to continue our client/escort relationship until after the project. He recommended another escort and I used him for the next year.

 

At the completion of the project, I again started hiring the original escort. I believe our client/escort relationship was actually enhanced by the non-sexual time we worked together. I don't know if all escorts or clients could handle the situation but it was a positive experience for me.

[Guest Jayinla]

My shortest answer... no. However if I am alone, just be cool and everything is ok.. i think we all have the ability to read body language, so open your eyes and see what the other person is telling you. That goes for both, the escort and the client.

jay

http://hometown.aol.com/i4hireaz

[Guest Traveling Man]

I have a funny story about that.

 

I was standing in a Las Vegas casino several years ago and I saw this very handsome man who appeared to be waiting for someone. No one else seemed to recognize him, which puzzled me even more. Not being terribly attractive myself, I was trying to think of a way to find out who he was without seeming to be hitting on him. Finally, I just gave up, sidled over to where he was and when he made eye contact, I asked him if I knew him because he looked awfully familiar.

 

He smiled and said "I make movies."

 

Now I felt bad that I hadn't recognized some movie star so I apologized profusely to him for not recognizing him, and admitted my embarrassment. He smiled a big grin when he understood my confusion and said "Adult. . . . .movies." And at that instant, I realized I was talking to Jeff Stryker. I felt like such a dolt, but he was very pleasant about it and even thanked me for coming over to say hello.

 

I don't know the guys reputation, but he was very nice to a total stranger that day. Maybe because I approached him like a person instead of a big ol' piece of meat, I don't know. But he was nothing but polite about it.

[SmallTownJohn]

You can say "Hello" to me anytime I'm out-n-about. You'll prolly catch me pushing a shopping cart at Kroger or Publix. Be forewarned! BlindPoodle will ask you to load the groceries into the car. But he tips REALLY well.

 

John

[Guest Traveler]

Actually, I bumped into an escort (a regular hire) the other day while I was at the opera with my mother. I don't think he realized I was with my mother at the time, but he said "Hi, Traveler!". I said "Hi, A (his real name), this is my mother B."

He said hello and quickly took off. My mother said "My, that was a handsome man. From where do you know him?" I explained he was a friend of my other friend C, whom she knows well. I bet my mother thought "It's too bad A and my son couldn't be together"! ;-)

[Guest cp8036]

A couple times while out and about, I've seen an escort that I had hired. I just give a discreet/friendly nod, smile, or tip of the hat, one that is appropiate for an aquiantance, a business colleague, or stranger. Your/his friends probably won't notice the acknowledgement, and if they do, it can be brushed of as an innocent gesture.

 

Chances are both of us are protecting that part of our lives, and we don't want that known to others present. I wouldn't go up to an escort in public out of respect for his off time. I would just respond in kind, ie., he says "hi", I would do that same. Once, a young escort I hired once saw me at a night club. He came over and said "hi" and proceeded to hang out with my friend and I all night. Perhaps he was alone that night, and wanted to hang with someone, or maybe needed a ride home, but it was sure awkward to explain my "young" friend to my buddy. Hopefully after a bit more time the young escort will realize that anything beyond a friendly wink or smile to a client in public could awkward at best.

 

But, if no others friends are present, a greeting or word or two would be the human thing to do. You would do this if you seen your dentist at the Safeway. But the discreet nature of escort/client relationship makes us think about it. When it is safe to do so, it is just good PR. None of us are that important that a safe hello cannot be said.

 

Used to see Damian in Chicago quite a bit. Once seen Eddie Valens at a club in NYC, he was in line after me at the bar. I always thought he was so cute and hot.... I quietly and privately asked if he was involved in the cinematic arts. He said yes, and asked if I had seen his work. He was cuter than the videos. He was very friendly, but seemed to be very disoriented and had difficulty pronouncing some words. I didn't do a blood screen, but I suspect he was enjoying more than just bottled water.

 

;-)

[Guest Baggle]

I have seen several Port Stars out and about in my travels. When I have approached them it was respectful and I usually just commented on how I liked their work. (I am a porn fan) Each time I was greeted with a smile and a "Thank You". Each experience was very pleasant.

[Casteran]

Depends on the porn star I would say. Having seen two porn pups and friends with another, they all have different views. I traveled to Europe with one where we were stopped or stared at on 3-4 occassions as he was recognized. One blubbering porn worshiper (best way to describe him) made an ass out of himself while my friend and I were eating dinner in a nice quiet restaurant, the worshiper proceeded to be loud and annoying wanting an autograph, even insisting he run out to his car and get a nude photo of my friend. Personally I don't see all the hub-bub, look, and move on. They are living their "normal" lives and deserved to be left alone. Then again the one porn pup is saw for a bit was not happy when people did not pay attention to him and got a little pissed at me when I told him one night in WEHO that escorts/porn stars are a dime a dozen in the crowd, what makes you so special.