Time limits being vague

[Bilbo]

Don't worry about memorizing the order of the music. After about the third or fourth hearing, you will know without thinking about it. In fact, I have made around 10 tapes for this kind of use, and try to make a new one every 2 months or so. It used to be more often. Anyway, make enough that the tape doesn't become a boredom factor in and of itself.

[Guest Joey Ciccone]

>I find that during a session is the worst time to make decisions. I am often so into it that I'd be willing to sign off on a second mortgage<

 

Thanks for the tip CT. I've often dreamed of owning a house in Connecticut. Henceforth, we shall only talk money while in bed. Kidding of course. I hate talking money anywhere, but it must be done. And I agree with you, get it straight up front to clear the mind for fun and festivities.

As a 'travelling escort', I usually try to firm up the money and the exact amount of time expected of me on an encounter beforehand. I very often leave a clients' room/home late at night and immediately hightail it to the train station or airport to catch the last vessel out of town because I'm due in NYC the next afternoon or whatever (I almost never schedule more than one client a day for these reasons, among others). So unfortunately, sometimes my itinerary just doesn't allow for midnight negotiations. When I'm asked if (or it's just assumed because they intend to pay) I will stay an extra hour or overnight, I always feel like a prick saying "Nope. Gotta run. Now pay up so I don't miss my train." Of course I never say it in that manner, but that's how I feel the client must be taking it. Even when I'm having a great time and would gladly stick around for free, a plane on the tarmac just doesn't want to hear it and will not wait. So I prefer to get it all cleared up before I even knock on the door, and try to make mention upon arrival that I've got a ride waiting at such and such a time.

The other side of that coin is that when I've got time to spare, I am always open to spontaneous negotiations above and beyond what has already been agreed upon and delivered satisfactorily, whether it means stopping the action or not. Better to put a temporary halt in the fun, then have either party come away feeling cheated.

 

- jc -

[Guest cp8036]

Thanks for all the good points. I tried to clear up any vagueness, but the escort's continuious use made me suspect. How could he imply a extended session is possible even before meeting me. I figured a newer escort might allow time to go, but a seasoned escort can manage the time in a tactful way.

 

He seemed eager for certain things that would take time. While mutually interested, I was clear that I was unable to pay for such an extended session. I wanted both of us to walk away happy, and neither feel cheated.

 

The date happened, and all went well. I was lucky with this guy. During a pause I said we need to settle the business, and decide if he and I wanted to continue "off the meter". He had no secret mission with his vagueness to collect more money. I know this was just some isolated luck, and wouldn't hope for again.

[Guest Joey Ciccone]

>Thanks for all the good points.

>The date happened, and all went well.

 

That's great to hear, and you're welcome!

 

>I know

>this was just some isolated

>luck, and wouldn't hope for

>again.

 

Aw, don't say that. Try to hope for the best instead. That might be hard if you've been burned before, but we have to keep hoping, don't we? I've had many a hope dashed by clients cancelling at the last minute, or on accasion (and for whatever reason) just not ever calling again. Just when I'm thinking "Man, thank god that so-and-so called, because I'm down to my last dollar", or, "That guy was cool. I hope he becomes a regular", is when it all falls apart. Still, with every new client I go into it with the hope that he's a great guy, and the assumption that he's at least a decent man who's not out to abuse me or my situation. If I didn't make that assumption, I might not ever see another client again. Please don't give up on the hope that escorts can be honest and forthright. Many can and are.

It's only my opinion, and I'm really glad your date went well.

 

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