Session Interruption

[Guest JackSFO]

What would you have done? I was meeting a guy for the first time at his place. After no more than 10 minutes into the session, he starts calling his girlfriend because he's nervous that she might come home (though he claimed she never did before). He continues calling her and is getting visibly nervous, all the while he wants me to continue our session (I was giving him a b/j and he was hard). He then gets up, tells me he wants to take a 10 minute break until he can get hold of his girlfriend, and gets dressed (and asks me to get dressed too). After 15 minutes of uncomfortable discussion, he finally gets hold of his girlfriend, is satisfied that she won't interrupt us, and says we can start up again. Well, I was weirded out at this point, told him the mood was broken and left after giving him a a fee for the time spent with him (not more than 15 minutes). I told him I would see him again next week when he was "free" to finish our session when he made a snide remark that he didn't know if he'd be in the business next week. What do you guys make out of this? What should I have done, not done? He seemed to be a nice guy, but I wondered if this was just some ploy to cut short our session...

[Guest TravisNYC]

Yeah, he could have been hoping that you would get scared that she would come home, pay up, and flee in fear. Of course the fact that he wanted to start again after he was sure of her whereabouts goes to his credit. A friend of mine states on the phone, when making the appt., that he expects no phone calls or beepers to interrupt his session with the escort. Even though he shouldn't have to do this he has had many problems with such things and "lays down the rules" so the escort is well aware of his concerns. Now when the rules aren't obeyed he gets up, gets dressed and walks out.

[Guest Yog-Sothoth]

RE: Session Interruption / And When To Pay

 

I think it is ALWAYS good for a client to be upfront, clear, and if need be, detailed with what he expects to happen and what he expect to NOT.

 

(I know that is what I have tried to do, even though by experience has been very limited. It just seems one of those clear cases where honesty is the best policy.)

 

But, there is one thing this brings up: when does the client pays the escort?

 

Walking out if the escort doesn't live up to what was agreed to seems reasonable, but what if you gave that escort $200-300 when you walked in? Do you try to get some of the money back? Then there is the potential for chaos.

 

Do you hold-off paying until end? I keep reading about "the escort as private contractor". Should you wait until the job is done before handing over the money?

 

Or is 50/50 an acceptable thing to ask of an escort? Some money down, the rest on completion?

 

I keep hearing folks say the best thing to do is if there is a problem is forgot your money and get out. For some of us though, maybe a lot of us, meeting an escort is a major savings project!

I spent $300 first-time out and it was not a rewarding outing for me. I would like to try again, but it is going to take me about 4 months to pull enough money together to do so.

 

Walking out on 4-months of savings with nothing to show for it but a really rotten experience would be -really- depressing.

 

 

--Yog-Sothoth

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

JackSFO,

 

The guy seems like a major flake, at best. I think you did the right thing. Forget him and move on.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

RE: Session Interruption / And When To Pay

 

Yog,

 

Out of all of the escorts I've engaged and actually met, none have asked for the money up front and all but one were very good or better.

 

My reading of these reviews is that, more often than not, an escort asking for payment up front is strongly correlated with a bad experience and review -- so much so that I have pretty much decided that to be enough of a red flag to just call off the party then and there and consider myself lucky.

[Guest WetDream]

Session Interrupted

 

From your name I assume that you live in San Francisco, as I do. Where did you find this escort? Was it the BAR? I noticed that several escorts plying their wares in those pages indicate that they are :straight." Could Mr. Session Interruptus have been one of them? I always think it is best to hire a gay escort. For the cash one shells out, why ask for trouble with hang-ups of the hetro sort? If you do decide to see him again, maybe it would be better to have him over to your place or go to a motel. At any rate, why not write a review of this guy so that the rest of us in the city can be warned. Good luck!

[+ Charlie]

This guy is clearly not a professional escort; he sounds like a straight guy who is experimenting with a way to make some extra money, but he has serious reservations about what he is doing (fear of exposure, guilt, etc.--not very different from a lot of new gays). The problem with handling someone like this is that it is very hard to predict how he will react to whatever you decide to do. The best thing is to stay as cool and smooth as you can and try to extricate yourself with as little loss as possible, realizing that you may have to sacrifice some money to keep the situation under control.

 

As for when to pay, I am on my guard whenever someone asks for the money first, but sometimes it just means that the escort is insensitive or insecure (maybe some bad previous experience with clients); I have had great sex with guys I have paid beforehand, and I have had guys demand payment after much less action than I expected. If the fee is very large, it seems imprudent to pay it all ahead of time, but installments seem almost too businesslike for what is supposed to be a passionate experience. I have found that the most professional escorts never even mention the money, and I discreetly pass it to them or leave it when I depart.

[Guest JackSFO]

Thanks for the views, guys. I was holding off with a review until I cooled off abit. I'm coming to realize that he tried to hustle me and am glad that I left when I did. I'll send in a review...

[Guest Billyboy]

Personally, My cell phone is OFF on all calls. If I am on an extended weekend or week stay with a client, I ASK for a small amount of time to do email and maybe a phone call if necessary. But never on an hourly or overnight do I use the phone or such. It's down right unproffesional!!

[Guest TravisNYC]

Some escort ads say "all calls returned within 15 minutes". Is this an indication that we should expect the interruptions with these guys?? Always found that strange in an ad.

[Guest MrB]

LAST EDITED ON Aug-20-00 AT 04:36PM (EST)[p]Probably, I've never looked at it that way. When you call an escort, it really is nice when they return calls promptly. However, I've been with guys and their pager/phone would go off in the middle of our session, some of them asked politely could they make/take the call. I said yes, they always gave me extra time as a matter of course. The guys are trying to make a living, give them a break.

[Guest TravisNYC]

LAST EDITED ON Aug-20-00 AT 05:16PM (EST)[p]LAST EDITED ON Aug-20-00 AT 05:00 PM (EST)

 

So if you're right in the middle of some hot and heavy action you would let them take the call?? Anyone else think that would be ok??????? Even when friends are over I put my answering machine on. Only call I would take is from two friends who know a special "ring" to get my attention as they both have AIDS and sometimes need my help in emergencies. For them I would interrupt anything.

[Guest MrB]

OK, I admit, it depends on the moment, but if it's not right at that time when you're about to cum, what's the big deal? I don't think a really good escort would even want to take a call at a really 'bad' time... but while you're cuddling or chatting, it's OK with me.

Mind you, as I'm writing this, I always switch off my phone myself... is it possible I'm being too easy on the guys?

[Guest Yog-Sothoth]

>I always switch off my

>phone myself... is it possible

>I'm being too easy on

>the guys?

 

 

Yes.

 

I would -expect- an escort to have an answering machine or voice-mail. You are the one paying for his time, then and there, NOT the person calling!

 

 

-- Yog Sothoth

[Rick Munroe]

For in-calls, my home phone's ringer is off and my answering machine volume is turned all the way down. (This is for me as well as the client: I don't want to be in the middle of something & have to hear a friend singing an impromptu Madonna tribute or Mom giving me the latest family medical news.) I also don't accept any UPS or FedEx deliveries (unless that is part of the client's fantasy). For out-calls, my cell phone gets turned off before I knock on the door, and back on when I'm out on the street.