Charged for Dinner?

[Boston Guy]

LAST EDITED ON Jul-17-00 AT 01:29PM (EST)[p]My experience has been that with an overnight, dinner (and breakfast) are all part of the deal and expected on both sides.

 

But not so with shorter appointments, especially one hour.

 

If I don't know the guy, a meal scheduled in advance is out of the question: I'd much rather eat alone with a good book than suffer through a dinner I had pre-planned with someone I didn't know and who turned out to be a less-than-ideal dinner companion.

 

If I'm meeting someone I do know and have seen before, I'll often ask the guy if he wants to grab something to eat either before or after. But I do so on my terms: I pay for the meal, he doesn't charge me for the time. If he accepts, I try to choose a fun restaurant that has good food and good service, so it's fun, good and won't take three hours. But if he doesn't want to accept or wants to charge me $200 per hour for the privilege of hosting him at a restaurant, out comes my book again and I dine quietly and happily.

 

Either way I'm happy. And the escort gets to do what he wants, too -- have a nice meal bought for him or use his time for other things.

 

I've found that this system has served me well. And, since I routinely see the same escorts, they quickly become accustomed to the choice. And sometimes they want to eat together (everyone has to eat sooner or later) and other times they are too busy and need to be elsewhere. No hard feelings either way on either side.

[Guest Quinte]

Here is my 2 cents. How I deal with it anyway. It has been said before, so forgive me for repeating it.

 

I will often have dinner/lunch with a regular with out being on the clock. With new clients however, I will charge for my time. In the odd exception, I may accept the invitation at no extra charge, AFTER the session, and only if I particularly enjoyed the company.

 

Hope this helps.

 

Peace be,

Quinte DuSoleil

[Guest Quinte]

PS

 

:-)

 

I have also been known to call up regulars or those I am close to, (especially if they are single and cute) and invite them out to a meal/movie and sometimes offer to pay for it myself.

[Guest MrB]

RE: PS

 

Hey, Quinte, I'm cute, now wait till i'm a regular ;-)

[Guest Billyboy]

They don't roll up the sidewalks in Peoria, IL. It's more happening than you think.

[Guest Billyboy]

Some fabulous places to eat in Peoria. Also quite the gay scene. College town you know.

[OceanTraveller]

I live in a small southern town and have flown people in from California mainly for the weekend.

The escorts that have come here for the most part have taken ME out to dinner. I usually do not go to an expensive place. They also have brought me little gifts which were nice(videos, cologne etc.)

I usually try to get them some things as a surprise too. Even though the streets are rolled up at 5:00 ; 4 of the 5 really enjoyed their time here and invited me out to visit them with some time off the clock to see the sights!!!

I guess that I have been lucky.:-)

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Well, I'm certainly open to reassessing my opinion. On your recommendation I stop in and check it out next time I'm passing through that part of the country. (Possibly this fall.)

 

Billyboy, is Peoria in your service area?

[Matt_Vancouver]

Ok it's all been said a million times already, but regarless of where I am, Peoria, or wherever, I charge for dinner with new clients, unless it is after the festivities, or we have arranged an overnight.

I once, in my early days in this business, accepted a dinner invitation(with drinks) with someone I had never met before. It was a nightmare, he said he wanted to get to know me, well I got to know more about him than I cared too, he was a lush and a loud obnoxious asshole, I kept saying 'we should go back to your place and get to the good stuff', Well he would have none of that. So I politely said that if we were not going to be going back anytime soon, I would have to charge for the time over drinks(dinner never came). He blew up, creating a huge scene. He started yelling that he hires a whore to take out on the town(hardly, this was a local dive) and he has the gall to ask to be paid for a good meal and drinks... again the meal never happened, and this was already 2 hours into the 'date'.

I learned my lesson, I left, and he has called a few times, I just remind him that we've already met, and I'm not interested in ever laying eyes(let alone anything else) on him.

So my policy now is... dinner is charged if I've never met you before. Unless it is something we agree on after we've met.

make any sence? huh

Matt

http://go.to/mattsplace

matt_escort@yahoo.com

[NY Observer]

RE: PS

 

Inviting a client out to a movie or dinner is outrageous and is non-exemplary. I am sure some of the escorts here would disown you for such horrific behavior. What makes you think you can treat us that way? Maybe they should take away your escort permit!

 

Seriously, I think that's great

[Guest Billyboy]

Peoria is one of the places I call home, and I do In Calls and Out Calls there and all of central Illinois

[Traveller]

I take an escort to dinner, theater, etc., it has never been on the clock. Period. I'm paying for the entertainment only when it involves a bed. Of course, I only ask escorts I've seen more than twice, and therefore, going on the clock has never even been an issue.

 

Later.

[Guest graymit]

I certainly understand and agree with Matt from Vancouver. An escort earns his living by accompanying other men, whether it be for sex or for any other purpose.

 

I think that once a client and an escort develop a bit of a friendship or at least a mutual trust amongst one another, then dinners would be for the enjoyment of both parties and hopefully wouldn't be charges would not be a necessity.

 

As unromantic as it sounds, this should always be discussed when making the date.

[Guest Tampa Yankee]

Well. I'll definitely have to stop there sometime, when your schedule permits -- your on my list of sites to see in the midwest.

[Guest hottie]

LAST EDITED ON Jul-21-00 AT 05:44AM (EST)[p]I am somewhat old fashioned. To me, it is like being charged $200.00 just for the escort to say hello! Although I see the point of view expressed by Matt and Sean, the escorts, I would feel hurt at being taken advantage of. If the escort really was a dynamite conversationalist and entertained me throughout dinner, then I would definately leave a tip. If he was just a dull dinner companion with nothing to offer but cock, balls and ass, forget it. He would get paid commensurate to those qualities.

[Rod Hagen]

No matter how you look at it, you all are our business clients, our temporary bosses. The moment we give you a freebie, be it sex or dinner, we narrow the divide between business-acquaintances and pals; a questionable decision in legitimate business (as an engineer dinners with my boss or client were ALWAYS on the clock). Further, in this bizzarely-intimate industry such blurred distinctions could actually be dangerous. Where is this logic flawed? -Hagen

 

>I take an escort to dinner,

>theater, etc., it has never

>been on the clock.

[Guest squaddie]

I visit two escorts on a regular basis and have done so for a number of years. When in the vicinity of either, I often telephone to ask if he wants to accompany me for a drink or meal. It is understood by him and me that this is a non-payment invitation and is accepted as such. Both escorts live near each other and are friends so I've been able to invite both and been accepted by both on a number of occasions for a meal and/or drink. One of them had his birthday last month and the three of us went for a celebratory meal. I have taken them out often enough to believe that they wouldn't join me if they thought I was taking advantage of them. I do not treat a boy I am with, with anything but kindness, respect and consideration. The way I operate is simple. I'm passing and need to eat. I telephone and give an invitation to join me if free. If he is busy he will decline. If I want to see him for a sexual encounter I make that clear. Over the years we have got to know each other without imposing on one another. I value their friendship. I like to feel that their feelings for me are such that they are happy to join me for a meal without expecting to be paid on an hourly basis.

I would not want to do this with an escort on a first encounter.

[OceanTraveller]

However it is very thoughtful for the escort to take the client to dinner, and to bring small gifts. When the escort and client are far away it makes their relationship more special. When they come here they get some great Southern cooking and some home made ice cream:-) When they offer some off the clock service in LA or where ever they live it makes me feel good and that they enjoyed their time. I am usually prone to doing even more because of the thought! Like a bee to honey :-)

[Guest Midnight Cowboy]

After a truly wonderful session with Steve Masters, on one of his first visits to NYC, he asked me if I wanted to join him for dinner. We walked downtown from his hotel, I helped him find a restaurant & wasn't planning on joining him, but he was great company and it didn't feel right to abandon him.

 

So obviously in this case there was no question about me paying for his time. I certainly intended to pay the check ... until it came, he grabbed it, and wouldn't take any money. I managed to leave the tip. Talk about leaving a nice taste in my mouth ... to complement the other nice tastes I'd already had. :-)