escorts who require pixes

[Guest brad_chic66]

Mr. HooBoy, i appreciate your opinion about this issue.

I am posting this message for others to react. I am new to this practice of hiring escorts. Recently I encountered some escorts requiring pictures. I think this is so demanding of them.

Which top executive or professional is willing to release their pixes to strangers like them for a few hours or even days of fantasy?

Nice to hear your experiences and opinions.

Are they supposed to be avoided?

brad

[Guest chnmnny@cs.com]

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I also new to this was wondering the same. I have not tried an escort yet, just going through all the reviews. A couple of weeks ago I set up plans to meet with one gentleman who never called back. Two days later I saw on this site that he was no longer escorting. Anyway back to the subject, maybe a pic helps validate a potential

client?

[Guest chnmnny@cs.com]

I have tried editing my previous message but to no avail. Anyway after searching profiles etc. it seems there are alot of collectors out there. Maybe asking for a pic helps to weed some of these people out from those of us who are truly potential clients?

[Guest Matt In Vancouver]

I have heard also that some other escorts 'require' a photo before they will book anything, I'm assuming they have been burned in the past.(either a no show or, as has happened to me in the past, a guy who says he will meet you somewhere public, but never makes the approach, I'm assuming they ussualy show up, and are either too afraid to make that final step, or are just tossers who get off on wasting our time)

I will often ask for a photo, not demand one, just out of curiousity, but I always say as well, that if you are in any way uncomfortable sending one, I will understand.

It's nice to see who your going to be spending your time with in advance, though not always essential.

Matt

[Guest youngblood]

I have never sent my picture to an escort. Should an escort require one before meeting, I politely decline and explain that my privacy is of utmost importance. If my need for privacy cannot be respected, the best decision for me is to just move on.

 

Remember, the escort or the client can walk out if the "chemistry" is simply not there. When I have chosen to do so, I usually just give him one-half of the fee, shake his hand, and leave (or ask him to leave).

[Guest Midnight Cowboy]

Personally, I find I'm becoming somewhat disenchanted with the whole pic thing. I suspect that chnmnny is probably right with regard to escorts who require pics - your willingness to send your pic (assuming it's really your pic) means 1) you are more likely to be seriously interested in meeting, and 2) you're more likely to be honest about yourself and what you're after from the encounter. In addition, there are most likely at least a few escorts who can afford to be somewhat choosey about whom they see and have decided that it works best for them if they are.

 

I've just booked an engagement with an escort sight unseen, no pic. This upcoming encounter will be the fifth time (I think) that I've ever done so. Three out of the four previous times I've done this have been the three best experiences I've ever had with escorts. The fourth was very good, but not quite up to the best. I was thinking about this earlier today and decided that the reason it's worked out this way is that I'm more careful to sound out an escort when I haven't seen his picture. I don't focus so intently on his physical description and attributes, but also on his personality, the way he communicates, the rapport we're able to establish over the phone. All of these ingredients are just about as critical to a satisfying encounter with an escort as his appearance. I think I've on occasion fallen into the trap of relying too much on a picture, perhaps to the extent of being blinded by lust. I just assume that because the guy looks fantastic that it will be fantastic to be with him, when of course that isn't necessarily the case. I'm not talking about the outright ripoff artists - guys who use fake pics or old pics, or guys who use accurate pics but make promises they have no intention of keeping - I mean genuinely well-intentioned escorts with whom, for lack of chemistry or clash of personalities, things just don't work out very well. Since the internet has become the dominate medium through which most of us find escorts, it's become easy to place too much emphasis on pictures at the expense of the men the pictures represent. We aren't, after all, booking an engagement with a picture.

 

I know many clients insist on seeing a pic of an escort before they'll even consider hiring him; now there are escorts who insist on seeing pics of clients before they'll agree to be hired. I think the pendulum has swung a little too far in one direction. For myself, anyway, I'm going to be more careful about trying to swing it back a bit.

 

Michael

[Guest youngblood]

Michael--I agree with most of what you so eloquently said, especially regarding the importance of personality and communication in a successful client/escort relationship. However, with respect to the issue of pictures, I believe that it is very important for the client to see an accurate photo of an escort prior to their first encounter. After all, the client is employing the escort to fulfill some sort of fantasy and/or need, and a photo is obviously helpful in selecting the potential "fulfiller."

[Guest Rizsauvage]

Maybe the escort wants to see if you're attractive enough to do you. Somehow that is my feeling when I see responses to ads that "Send your picture" and "Looking for great shaped and good looking clients for regular mutually satisfying relationship" - what does that mean??

[Guest Jake]

>"Send

>your picture" and "Looking for

>great shaped and good looking

>clients for regular mutually satisfying

>relationship" - what does that

>mean??

 

 

Sounds to me like it means having your cake and eating it too.

[Guest Merlin]

I always avoid escorts who ask for a pic. I assume they are hoping to limit their practise to clients who are young and beautiful. If so they are likely to be judgmental about their clients, and few of us are perfect. Who wants a judgmental escort.

[Guest Matt In Vancouver]

I can say in all honesty I have never turned down a client based on a photo, again I reiterate, I ask only out of curiousity, it is nice to know who your going to be spending time with, and it makes no difference what they look like in a photo, because it's just a two dimensional representation of them.

But again demanding a photo before meeting, I agree is not necesary.

[Guest amadeus]

Interesting postings..

First of all, Michael, I can´t agree more to most of what u said....

But on the other hand I do respect the (understandable) wish of an escort to know who to spend some time with...after all he has to perform in a way we appreciate and if he is not one of those talents who can get and stay hard on command, no matter what/who is in front(on top or wherever) of him, he should be informed what to expect before making promises..(which he otherwise possibly coudn´t keep which pisses, us, the clients, off again...and brings him bad reviews..)

 

To avoid that, I send my pic already when I make my first contact with an escort....

which in return mostly gets back other pics of the escort, namely face shots, if the escort (understandably) decides not to post them beforehand, to keep a certain anonymity to himself in these web dungeons...

[Guest Midnight Cowboy]

I understand the desire of clients to see pics of escorts. Given my druthers, I'd always like to see one, too. What I was trying to express was that I have noticed, in myself, a tendency to place too much emphasis on pics. Pics, I think, don't tell us as much as we tend to think they tell us. I don't think a client is any more likely to be dissatisfied by an escort he's hired sight unseen as by an escort who's pic he's seen, provided he's taken the time to really talk to the escort. How many of the ripoff artists out there are getting by precisely because they take good pics? Look at the new review of Scott Randsome - the reviewer specifically states Scott was uncommittal and vague on the phone about the type of companion he'd be, but seemed in a vague way to agree to what the reviewer wanted. HELLO! WARNING! If you phoned up an escort and didn't know exactly what he looked like, then had that sort of wishy-washy conversation, do you think you'd hire him? I suspect not. But so often, it seems, we are led astray by these guys (and you all know who I mean - the Scott Sloans & Billy H.'s of the escort biz) because we think their pics are so hot, as if that guarantees we will have a hot time with them. In a way, pics make it easy for these guys to act the way they do. They know we're hooked when we call them, all they have to do is reel us in.

 

It's more difficult to be fooled if you really take the time to chat up an escort, get to know him a little. Sure, there are masters of deception out there, but spend 20 minutes on the phone listening and talking instead of 20 minutes staring lustfully at a pic, and you're more likely to fish them out.

 

Tricksters aside, it's also easier to get a much more accurate sense of how well you connect with another man by talking to him than by looking at his pic. Thinking back on it, there are escorts I've heard great things about that I probably would have really enjoyed being with, but whom I didn't call because I couldn't decide if their pic was really hot enough. This is dumb. Some people don't look so great in photos. How many times have you seen in positive reviews a line like "His pics don't do him justice"? What I think that expresses is the fact that no pic can live up to the experience of meeting and enjoying a man who pushes your buttons.

 

So, if you insist on seeing a pic before you hire an escort, you're going to miss out. C'est la vie.

 

Amadeus, that's a nice thing to do. I would send my pic to any escort who asked for it, but only one has so far. Still, I think an escort who always insists on seeing a pic of his client is also going to miss out - on business, certainly, but also perhaps on clients who's company he would have enjoyed while plying his trade.

 

Sorry if I repeated myself.

 

Michael

[HooBoy]

LAST EDITED ON Mar-25-00 AT 11:34PM (CST)[p]The escorts that usually require pix are on AOl. I have never sent an escort a pic. If he doesn't like me when he gets to my hotel, he can leave. If he asks for a pic, he is not a pro. I do not like dealing with non-pros, otherwise, I could go to the bars.

 

I work out at the gym every other day and I want my new found friend to have as much fun with me as I with him.

 

My policy: if he asks for a pic, he doesn't get one and he's deleted from my database.

[Guest curious]

I think that requiring a client to provide a photograph is insane. If your reason is because you only want to accept a certain demographic (based on height, weight, race, eye color or whatever) then just be upfront in your advertising (websites, profiles, whatever).

 

If you have more dishonorable motives, and the potential for abuse does exist, then shame on you. The client doesn't tip you enough and so you post his picture on http://www.johns_that_stiff.com or even worse, you decide that your client that asks for discretion because he is married needs to up your fee on the spot or you are going to tell his wife.

 

Get Real

[Guest rggf]

Ditto, dahling. If they ask for a pic, you know that even if they accept that and show up they aren't going to be up to snuff.

 

The same thing goes for asking for money first. Loser time.

[Guest MattAdams]

I agree with HooBoy, the request of a pic pretty much says an escort is not really in the biz.

[Guest Matt In Vancouver]

Well I will disagree. I do often ask for a picture, it is by no means a requirement, it's just for my own curiousity. I would never not go to see someone based on a photo they sent me, nor would I only see people that have sent me a photo.

I guess what I'm trying to say is I am a regular guy, just like the clients, and I like to be teased with photos before a meeting too. I don't think there is anything wrong with it, unless of course the escort refused to conduct business without a pic.

my measly two cents.

Hooboy, does this mean I'm deleted from your list of potentials?? : (

say it ain't so. I only asked cause I want to see who the man behind the keyboard is, and maybe what he's wearing under the desk : 0

Matt

[Guest modelmatt]

i ALWAYS ASK FOR A PICTURE. NOT TO JUDGE THE CLIENT LOOKS OR APEARANCE , BUT FOR SAFETY REASONS. I ALSO FEEL THAT IF AN ESCORT IS NOT REALLY INTO THE CLIENT , HOW ARE THEY GOING TO ENJOY THEMSELVES.

I GUESS THAT WHY YOU HEAR SO MANY UNHAPPY CLIENT SAY THAT HE JUST LAYED THEREAND POSED . HE WAS NOT EXCITING. WELL THERE YOU HAVE IT AND YOU SHOULD LOOK AT YOUR % REPEATS --THAT WILL CAHNGE YOUR MIND

GOD BLESS

[NY Observer]

Hey Brad,

I agree with you. Any escort who INSISTS on seeing a picture is not someone I'd be interested in. Not that I haven't sent my pic to someone after I have gotten to know them, before we've met, but in my mind I think it's not right to ask. Some escorts even insist on "seeing yours before they will send", that is totally inappropriate in my mind.

[Traveller]

Any escort who requires a pic prior to meeting deserves absolutely no business. They're the ones whom you're compensating for looks, bod, temperament, etc. I don't send out legal opinions prior to meeting with a client. Any time you're asked for a pic or, more importantly, the money up front, head for the hills. Remember men, this IS a service business. Happy fucking.

[Guest modelmatt]

I WOULD NEVER AS FOR THEIR PICTURE

 

ITS NOT THE MODELS INTEREST OF WHAT THE CLIENT LOOKS LIKE

THEY ARE NOT HIRING THE CLIENT

BUT CHEMISTRY IS IMPORTANT SO THE CLIENT GETS FULL SATISFACTION

BUT NO PIC IS REQUIRED TO MEET AND NEVER SHOULD BE

[Bilbo]

There used to be a feeling that an undercover policeman would not take his clothes completely off to make the arrest. I know that that is one reason that Blade used to strip his client's first in person. Besides that it pointed out that he was interested in their bodies, not just there to get his own rocks off. This comment of this Matt (Are you reviewed on the main board, doll?) makes me wonder if some of the newer escorts are asking to see a nude of you before they give a nude of them with face showing for similar reasons. Noone (I think) has mentioned that, but maybe?

[Barry]

I think the key word here is "requiring". I have had only a few escort require I send a pic. I didn't and ended communication after telling them I thought it inappropriate. The one I really liked was and escort who so eloquently stated, "your pic gets mine". NOT!

 

If an escort asks for my pic but makes it clear that it's my choice, I usually send it. With one exception, it hasn't changed anything. I'm certainly no beauty yet the tone and depth of their emails didn't change. That actually made me feel more confident that my age or looks were not going to impact the experience.

 

One escort did stop communication after I sent the pic. I emailed him several times but he just wouldn't answer. I must have made him vomit or something. I would have appreciated the courtesy of him even saying he wasn't interested. Oh well.

[HooBoy]

>Hooboy, does this mean I'm deleted

>from your list of potentials??

>: (

>say it ain't so. I only

>asked cause I want to

>see who the man behind

>the keyboard is, and maybe

>what he's wearing under the

>desk : 0

>Matt

 

Matt,

 

I have been advised by Stephan in Vegas and BillyBoy in Chicago to NEVER send my picture to anyone. They say I look like shit in it. And I say this as modestly as I can - they both told me separatly that I look 60 in the pic. I'm in my 40's, but of course, when I'm with them they guess that I'm in my 30's. 28 if they want a good tip, but it's a known fact that I do not tip, so I don't get that from them.

 

Ask one of them to describe me to you - that's all I can say. The main thing is when I'm with an escort for the first time, I do not tell them who I am and I do not want them knowing who I am.

 

You can ask Stephan, I was with him twice. Then he got email from me a week later telling him how much I enjoyed him - signed, HooBoy.

 

Being French, it took him a month or so to figure it out. :-)

 

HooBoy