escort emotional feelings re: clients

[Guest youngblood]

Much has been said recently on this message board, by both escorts and clients, about clients seeking some sort of emotional involvement with escorts, clients being manipulative and having hidden agendas with escorts, and clients having unrealistic expectations of escorts.

 

Emotions, hidden agendas, and expectations in any type of relationship are usually a two-way street. What has not as yet been discussed on this board is how escorts themselves have handled the situations when they have become emotionally involved with a client(i.e. fallen in love, become obsessed, etc.), whether those emotions have been reciprocated or not.

 

Any feelings on the subject????

[Guest BigJosh]

I know this is kind of a taboo subject, but I was with an escort recently who (1) didn't take money afterwards, (2) wouldn't leave my hotel room, (3) showed up the next morning with flowers, (4) has emailed me every day since, saying how he wishes we lived in the same city and he could date me.

 

It's freakin' me out.

[Guest youngblood]

The reason that I posted my message is because I have been in situations similar to yours, and wanted to get an escort's point of view. Though the attention from the escort might be flattering at the onset, it can become precarious for obvious reasons. As I can only assume from your message that you are not interested in dating this guy, be happy that he is in another city! Good luck!

[Guest MikeConway]

ITs been a very intersting topic brought up. I have been been an escort for about 6 months now and doing quite well at it. I like that fact that my regular clients do feel very fondly about me and I feel the same way.

 

Now as I get busier, its harder for me to maintain weekly visits with travel becoming more frequent. But I am still managing quite well, saying hi on the phone or with emails.

 

I have had some experiences when a client has really wanted to purchase a friendship from me and I treat it like anyone else. Friendships take time to develop, whether or not it is a client or a new aquaintance. I do spend a lot of extra time maintaining these client/friendships and think its great as long as we understand the nature of the relationships. I do like to foster that, as I really like to have the regular clients with whom I feel really comfortable with and I can talk to like one of my pals.

 

Having said all of that, I have had two occaisions where the roles have changed for me. One where a client originally hired me and we are now almost best friends, and the other where I connected with the client so well, that we took our relationship out of that client/escort arrangement and now is someone that I have a very early at the moment long distant fling, relationship I dont know what to call it. It was something that I was not expecting at all to happen, and would love to hear about other peoples experiences.

 

I do now know that though, with my client base growing exceptionally fast and in different cities that I do have to set boundaries with someone that is becoming too emotionally attached, but that would never stop me from seeing them.

 

Anyone else have any thoughts on this subject.

 

Mike

[Guest MikeConway]

I see after reading a little further I may have jumped the gun and comment on issues not relevant to the topic at hand.

 

Briefly though, one of the things I like about being an escort is that hopefully the roles of what is going on is pretty defined and mutually understood.

 

But we are all people in the end and you will get escorts that may be lonely as well, all the sex is not going to make up for everything. So hopefully you guys to get to many obsessive experiences, I believe part of being professional is not stalking anyone or calling clients.

 

I personally only call the ones I have a rapport with and its ok, otherwise its the client who calls me in order to respect boundaries, being discreet, a married guy dosent want an escort calling. etc

 

So unfortunatley there will be escorts who dont behave in a professional manner just as clients misunderstand the roles as well

[Guest REGINA]

Mike-I just checked out your website and must admit, if I ever met you I think I would fall totally and madly in love with you; certainly in lust! Your mini-movies are unbelieveable and better than most on the market today (independants are always so much better, don't you agree). Anyway, I just wanted to tell you how amazing you are and I hope you make it to New York some day. I hope everyone takes a moment to check out your website and witness for themselves what a choice escort you must be. CONGRATS!!! p.s. You really know how to kiss; a major plus.

[Guest torjon]

Regina, as one of Mike Conway's lucky regulars, I

can tell you it is a hell of a struggle NOT to

fall in love with him! I can't believe they come

much sweeter than this guy, and combine that

quality with great sex appeal,fabulous kissing,

a face that is pure pleasure to look at,and his

desire to please, and you can see what I mean! I

can't blame anyone that would want to be with him

as a friend, because I feel that way,too, but I

will never push that for fear of losing what I do

have with him. Right now, I can't even imagine my

life without him in it, so I won't do anything to

upset the status quo. (Mind you, if he ever called

and asked me to have a beer with him, I'd be there

so fast it would be yesterday before it is today!)

By the way, Regina,he IS going to New York soon...

check his site again..so maybe you'll know sooner

rather than later just what I'm talking about.

[Guest MikeConway]

Hey guys, thank you for your enthousiastic responses. I didnt think in writing about the topic at hand that I would get such a repsonse, but hey its great to hear. The website is a great place for me to get out some of my exhibtionist tendancies! As you can see from the last message I have great clients, and feel lucky to have established rapports with such great guys.

[Guest REGINA]

When are you in New York? I'm breaking open el banco puerco as I type this!!!

[Guest Monopolizer]

Regina,

 

You are hilarious! I have a lot of fun reading your messages. Also appreciate all your postings... Hope you'll have a couple pennys left after you break out your hammer.

 

Monopolizer