How do I say - You gave me scabies?

[Doe Be Doe]

I got scabies almost certainly from one certain escort I saw about two weeks ago. He is the only one I have been with in over a month. On the one hand I want to scream and yell. On the other, there is the slight chance I caught them from the gym or whatever. The doctor said that is highly unlikely. So do I simply call and say, "escort I've got scabies and you most likely gave them to me?" I'm sorry I am old enough to be embarrassed to point out someone's faults. Your thoughts?

[Guest PWIT]

>So do I simply call and say, "escort I've got scabies and you

>most likely gave them to me?"

 

Just let him know you have an embarrassing situation to discuss and tell him the facts. Before you accuse him of being the source, there was a recent event in here in the DC area where a hotel was shut down just for that same thing. So maybe it wasn't from him. If you two met up at a hotel and got it there, he may be thinking he got them from you. So I suggest just sticking to the facts and leave out any accusatory statements.

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Happy scratching! :o

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How do you say - You gave me scabies?

 

Post the rentboys name here!

[seaboy4hire]

Doe I don't know where in the country you are at but you might contact the county that the escort lives in and see if they do std alert emails. I would imagine every major city here in the States has a set up like this if Seattle is doing it. This way it lets the person know that they really should get checked out but doesn't exactly point fingers saying he gave it to you. I think that it is wrong to shame an escort or client because of an std. A lot of times someone can have an std and not know it esp if the person is a bottom or they just did oral and was on the giving end. I am not too sure and maybe the house doctor can give the exact answer but a friend of mine said that one of his drs. said that there are some strains of ghono or maybe it was one of the other ones that can be transmitted through kissing. But enough of that for now. Doe I think that you are being proactive about getting treated and notifying the escort about this issue. I hope that things clear up soon for you.

 

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[BgMstr4u]

Why not e-mail him (better than a phone call because you can control your words) and simply say that you have this thing, and since you were together recently, you are concerned about him and wanted him to know. That would avoid an implication that you are blaming him, in case there is some innocent explanation, including that you did pick it up from him but it was at a stage with him that he didn't know yet.

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How did a discussion on scabies morph into STDs?

[+ Tygerscent]

RE: Pointing fingers

 

Ya... Given you know more about the circumstances then anyone here... it's kind of hard to say "Burn The Witch!"

Truely, scabies can be all sorts of places, schiools deal with them a lot and hotels, gyms are notorious with them in the locker rooms.

Last week I was on the bus and some homeless guy walked on. He was scratching himself all over... jis legs, arms, feet, hair. It would be my suspision that he might haqve scabies and or lice. I moved to another area of the bus and thought to myself... "Hmmmm wonder who was sitting here last?"

I've been to NYC and elsewhere on the subway and bus systems. I work out in most of the United States Bally's Gynms and others. All kinds of people use these places and they are not cleaned moment to moment.

You don't know that the Escort gave these to you. He may not have them himself even now or he may have gotten them from you if you had them while you were seeing him and not showing visible signs of them yet. I am not saying that is the case. He may have passed them on to you. You simply do not know at this point.

Contact him, perhaps, and ask him if he has noticed any itching or red streaks/patches on his body...

Move from a postition of trying to understand the situation better rather then pointing blame. The end goal is to get rid of them and make sure he does too if he has them so no one else has this sort of surprize.

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[+ Tygerscent]

RE: Intentions~

 

Plus... I don't think there are many people out there who have the mind set of: "Who can I give scabies to next!" followed by meniacal laughter.

Even if you got them from him I somehow tend to think it was not a malicious act against you~

You may have come into contact with people and brushed up against them after scratching and left a few visitors on their sweater or hand after shaking it. Think of how you might want someone to deal with you if they found out they got them from you somehow~

You know... the basic consideration thing: Think to yourself: "Hmmmm... if I was on the other side of this situation how would I feel and how would I think it was right for someone to approach me about it?"

 

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[Doe Be Doe]

Thank you for your replies. I sent a very neutral email saying that I had been diagnosed with scabies and simply advising him to see his doctor. I have had no reply.

[+ newatthis]

About six months ago, a couple of weeks after seeing an escort, he sent an email asking me to call. Since I had already had a "thank you" from him, I was a bit surprised. When I called, he told me he had recently tested positive for syphilis.

 

But he didn't stop there. He gave me very complete information on testing options, on the likely treatment, etc. -- a primer, really, on the whole subject. He was frank about how embarrassed he was, about where and when he thought he might have picked it up, and about how unlikely it was that he caught it from me. And he showed me by example how important it was that I, in turn, inform anyone I had been with.

 

I find it hard to conceive of a better way of handling the situation than this. By telling me on the phone, he was able to answer questions and reassure me -- had I received the news by email, it would have been much more upsetting. That direct, human touch made all the difference in how I handled the situation.