Ghosting 2.0

[DWnyc]

As I think back to some experiences. I think some of this is situation specific.

In one case a growing friendship made it harder for me to keep making bookings; the provider was more open about how he hated aspects of his work and it felt almost abusive to make him perform for my pleasure (even though he benefited from payment).

In another case I felt obligated to book more regularly than i would have for my new friend, particularly since he was struggling financially. But the sessions became increasingly stressful for both of us as neither of us were our normal social selves during them, so it felt inauthentic with a friend. Our last few bookings had me essentially giving him fees like a gift with no provider work, until he himself told me to stop.

 

[Jaroslav]

7 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

I personally would find it difficult to treat friends as paying clients. I prefer to keep that separate. 

Because you have your head on screwed on tight and don’t live in a fantasy world. You seem to me very reasonable and sensible – in touch with reality. 

[Jaroslav]

@DWnyc, the regular in question who told me he found ghosting rude but ended up ghosting me received gifts from me in addition to payment, even when he wasn’t immediately going to be with me. And I paid for a trip to Europe with him (completely) for which he was also paid for his “time.”

Edited April 8, 2023 by Jaroslav

[Jaroslav]

13 hours ago, jetlow said:

Could you elaborate further on the differences between Kollege, Kommilitone, and Bekannte for us English speakers? 

Kollege, “colleague,” which carry with it connotation of “work friend”

Kommiltone, “classmate,” but at an institution of higher learning. Generally someone you actually interact with, not the person on the other side of the lecture hall.

Bekannte, “acquaintance,” but can be more like the friend of a friend too. If you go out to eat with a Freund and they bring along a Freund of theirs who isn’t your Freund but you’ve met before and chatted it up socially, that’s also just a Bekannte. 

[+ DrownedBoy]

1 hour ago, Jaroslav said:

Because you have your head on screwed on tight and don’t live in a fantasy world. You seem to me very reasonable and sensible – in touch with reality. 

Exactly.

I keep those 2 separated very sharply.

I had a regular who stayed well past the time I hired him for. I insisted on paying him extra to avoid any complications. 

Likewise,  I make a point not to hire anyone for conversation. There are many intelligent,  well read, and educated escorts, but for me, bonding over conversation is for friends, not escorts. In fact, 2 of my 3 regulars are ESL, and I find that more relaxing.