AsianGuyCA Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 Not much I can do really...I guess I let my guard down. I never ask for the payment first but maybe I should? Should I ask for a deposit too?... It at the end of the month too after the holidays so really needed that last bit for rent. I try not to make my post a downer but had to put this somewhere. Stay safe everyone and Happy New Years 🍾 Bluefin, rhh33, + bashful and 2 others 1 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CuriousByNature Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 40 minutes ago, AsianGuyCA said: Not much I can do really...I guess I let my guard down. I never ask for the payment first but maybe I should? Should I ask for a deposit too?... It at the end of the month too after the holidays so really needed that last bit for rent. I try not to make my post a downer but had to put this somewhere. Stay safe everyone and Happy New Years 🍾 A provider ran out, or a client? I'm a bit confused here, which isn't all that unusual. Danny-Darko, Cruiser7, Lazarus and 1 other 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CuriousByNature Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 @Lazarus - how was that verbose? 😆 pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lazarus Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 2 minutes ago, CuriousByNature said: @Lazarus - how was that verbose? 😆 Sorry…I meant 🙄 Walt and CuriousByNature 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luv2play Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 I think the op could change the title to make it clear that it was a client who ran out without paying. Otherwise I want to know who the provider is who normally pays. I want to meet him.😜 Danny-Darko, + azdr0710, Jamie21 and 9 others 3 2 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robberbaron4u Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 8 hours ago, Luv2play said: I think the op could change the title to make it clear that it was a client who ran out without paying. Otherwise I want to know who the provider is who normally pays. I want to meet him.😜 The line starts behind me. . . Luv2play, + azdr0710, Cruiser7 and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RadioRob Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 I’ve changed the subject from “provider” to “client”. If this was not the correct action, the OP can let me know or report the post. Luv2play, CuriousByNature, pubic_assistance and 1 other 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
caramelsub Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 (edited) I have no problem paying up front. I actually think for first/new meetings with clients it can be wise for a provider to ask for payment up front. This is different from asking for a deposit. Just make sure client is dealing with a well reviewed, and established provider. There is not much a provider can do if a client runs away without paying. They can’t call the cops or anything. Edited December 28, 2022 by caramelsub + keroscenefire and wayout 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ keroscenefire Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, caramelsub said: I have no problem paying up front. I actually think for first/new meetings with clients it can be wise for a provider to ask for payment up front. I agree and definitely do not have a problem as a client putting aside payment in like a nightstand drawer or whatever. I think especially if the provider is hosting, it's not a problem for them to request payment before anything gets going. Also I'm really sorry this happened to you @AsianGuyCA. Some guys are such jerks. Edited December 28, 2022 by keroscenefire Marc in Calif and caramelsub 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luv2play Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 (edited) I've never done it and only been asked once by a new provider. I showed him the money but didn't hand it over until after our two hour session. It went alright but the lack of trust bugged me a little and I didn't hire him again. I am a premium client and providers can see my track record on my profile. I tell them in advance before setting up the appointment I generally do reviews on all the positive experiences. The odd negative one I let go. Edited December 28, 2022 by Luv2play Walt, wayout and Yukon21 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crazyivan Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 I have met providers who want payment before the session. I usually just put the cash on a table or something instead of handing it over. I only recall one provider taking it immediately and put it in the hotel safe, and I have no problem with that. Other providers just leave it there and start the session. I don't think payment before/after the session has any correlation to the quality of the service. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AsianGuyCA Posted December 28, 2022 Author Share Posted December 28, 2022 3 hours ago, RadioRob said: I’ve changed the subject from “provider” to “client”. If this was not the correct action, the OP can let me know or report the post. Thanks that was my bad Luv2play, + keroscenefire, CuriousByNature and 1 other 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jamie21 Posted December 28, 2022 Share Posted December 28, 2022 I ask clients to leave their shoes outside the door (they’re safe, in a hallway). It’s to keep the floor clean but the added benefit is they can’t get far without their shoes if they’re going to do a runner! Cruiser7, pubic_assistance, Walt and 7 others 3 2 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ m_writer Posted December 29, 2022 Share Posted December 29, 2022 @AsianGuyCA I'm sorry you went through that; you in no way deserve it and you're absolutely trusting and personable from what I saw when I met you at the Palm Springs event. Were you able to make your rent this month? AsianGuyCA and Marc in Calif 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 29, 2022 Share Posted December 29, 2022 I have no problem leaving payment on the table when we meet. I always refuse to send deposits before the actual meet up. Sorry you got a creep. Was he displeased with the service ? Where did he come from ? Providers should have a forum to warn others about psycho customers . + KensingtonHomo and Cruiser7 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbar123 Posted December 29, 2022 Share Posted December 29, 2022 I once saw a provider who wanted to be paid upfront which was ok. I had a stack of $20’s. He stood there and meticulously counted the stack. I thought that was really tacky. pubic_assistance, Yukon21, Luv2play and 1 other 1 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
+ keroscenefire Posted December 29, 2022 Share Posted December 29, 2022 12 minutes ago, dbar123 said: I once saw a provider who wanted to be paid upfront which was ok. I had a stack of $20’s. He stood there and meticulously counted the stack. I thought that was really tacky. Yeah I agree. I usually add a $20 tip but keep it separate from the total donation. I had a guy do that once and after a mediocre session, it definitely made it easier just to give him exactly what he counted and not any more. dbar123 and pubic_assistance 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crushme99 Posted December 29, 2022 Share Posted December 29, 2022 23 hours ago, Jamie21 said: I ask clients to leave their shoes outside the door (they’re safe, in a hallway). It’s to keep the floor clean but the added benefit is they can’t get far without their shoes if they’re going to do a runner! Now THAT darn near qualifies as brilliant. 😎 liubit, pubic_assistance, + azdr0710 and 2 others 1 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AsianGuyCA Posted December 30, 2022 Author Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/28/2022 at 9:05 PM, m_writer said: @AsianGuyCA I'm sorry you went through that; you in no way deserve it and you're absolutely trusting and personable from what I saw when I met you at the Palm Springs event. Were you able to make your rent this month? Ehh not really. Luckly im with my family for new years so no spending till the 2nd lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AsianGuyCA Posted December 30, 2022 Author Share Posted December 30, 2022 On 12/28/2022 at 9:40 PM, pubic_assistance said: I have no problem leaving payment on the table when we meet. I always refuse to send deposits before the actual meet up. Sorry you got a creep. Was he displeased with the service ? Where did he come from ? Providers should have a forum to warn others about psycho customers . I can tell you he was NOT displeased with my service haha 😉 I mean all i have is his number and the photos he sent nothing you can really see tho pubic_assistance 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AsianGuyCA Posted December 30, 2022 Author Share Posted December 30, 2022 I do think its a hard balance between trusting each other and then having a mediocre session. I have lots of stories ive heard from clients about bad sessions theyve had but also escorts get scammed pretty often as well. I would say that my sessions are top notch (other peoples words! haha) but first timers dont know that. Its been a few days already and reading everyones messaged kept me level headed and more relaxed. I didnt know what to feel after it happened but feeling much better 💖 MikeBiDude and + Summerson 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pubic_assistance Posted December 30, 2022 Share Posted December 30, 2022 36 minutes ago, AsianGuyCA said: I didnt know what to feel after it happened but feeling much better 💖 We all feel a sense of disruption in the Universe when people behave in ways we consider unethical/ inconsiderate/inhuman. The world is scattered with assholes. We can only hope we cross their path seldomly. ShyBi95, MikeBiDude, AsianGuyCA and 5 others 6 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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