Contacting Client for Repeat

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On 10/2/2022 at 4:51 PM, GTMike said:

Interesting all around perspective. Based on what you've said ( as a client), i think it would really depend but for me generally i encourage gentlemen that it appears we mutually had a great time with to reach out to me whenever they want to. Interesting to hear providers perspective that they find it almost rude to.

I actually feel good that they would feel comfortable to be able to ask whenever they wanted to as long as there'd be no offense taken when told that scheduling or budgeting couldn't work then and we could make a future booking. I especially hate to say (but it's a reality) how my decision could be influenced by what the % discount was or wasn't.

Now with all that said I totally undersand it can get "iffy" as to what was considered genuine good mutual chemistry and what might be considered pushy, unprofessional behavior and/or inappropriately too salesy. So i get and respect the professional's experience and perspectives.

To me I just think of it as that at the end of the day it always comes down to what two consenting adults mutually decide to do and if it can work out or not in whatever the particular situation may or may not be at the time. To me no harm no foul for asking me.

If you get a good vibe from the client/provider (in my case the client), you've discussed contacting post-session and want to see how they are without bringing up a paid session, I don't see anything wrong with that.  I never bring up business, and it never sounds like a sales pitch because, well, it isn't! 

For example, one client loves a certain type of wine, I inform him of one that I've tried and ask if he's tried it.  He tells me he has not and to bring it next time.  I bring it the next time I see him, we enjoy it, have a great time (and no I don't charge him for the wine) and that's part of the session.  

Just my perspective from having contact with clients post-session. Not always about selling. The $$ comes if you're a genuine person, imo.

[Vulgarii]

When I'm really attracted to a client, and we played around and had a good time, I tell them straight out to contact me again soon and the session will be my treat. 

After so many years, that "method" has only worked with 2 guys, while the rest just prefer to come to me and pay me. Oh well, if they want to pay me when I clearly insinuated that I would F them for free, then by all means...

 

I understand that different men have their different reasons for paying, and some have told me it's the professional context that makes it okay for them versus something personal. They also don't feel guilty cheating on their partners if they are paying me. Whatever floats your boat!

[BodeBrentwood]

Well damn, this is illuminating to read all the stances. I would imagine a scenario like the OP of a pestering provider after the fact is a bit much-especially so quickly after the fact. But its also wild to read about everyone's different stances on messaging clients in the first place.

I live in a pretty saturated market where paying to get on the front page is not necessarily guaranteed to work out. Messaging a "hey" to someone vs sitting on your hands like its fishing both seem like not ideal scenarios? I guess it's all about what you're comfortable spending your money on to run an ad.

[DWnyc]

There are many inconsistent views on this, reflecting there’s no right answer.

I’ve received messages asking if I’m ok as they haven’t heard from me and the last session was fun etc (with no indication from me that there would be a next time and going against the holy grail of not referring to the time as fun for the provider etc) … or “just thought I’d let you know I’m running a special offer for prior / my preferred clients” etc or most frequently something like “ just “checking in do you need anything?”

I don’t see anything wrong with this - no different from say lawyers and accountants calling to check if you need anything - some firms offer biz dev budgets and time on staff calendars to focus on checking up on clients given how important it is when clients have so much choice. Everyone understands they’re not offering to bring you groceries or do your laundry when they ask if there’s anything they can help you with - and if you don’t you can ignore or politely decline.

 

[BaronArtz]

On 1/7/2023 at 9:44 AM, DrownedBoy said:

Yup. The last time random escorts started contacting me (with discounts) was when everyone got desperate at the start of the pandemic. I expect we'll see the same during this year's recession.

Interesting.  Lately, I have been receiving more solicitations from escorts and masseurs I hired before, with discount offers.  That didn't happen before.

[DWnyc]

2 hours ago, BaronArtz said:

Interesting.  Lately, I have been receiving more solicitations from escorts and masseurs I hired before, with discount offers.  That didn't happen before.

Me too as I shared earlier. 

I presume cost of living increases affecting the whole economy including rent and hotels are really biting.

I’ve heard providers use words like “desperate” about their situation (eg when really pushing for an extra hour or repeat session) which I never have before (when typically it was more bravado, do you want more time? take it or leave it, I turn people away I’m so much in demand etc). Re-engaging former clients to jazz up revenue, including with special offers, makes sense in every other service provider business so why not this.

 

[sider]

If my guy reached out this morning, I'd make myself available for this afternoon! It's just smart business on the providers end.

[+ DrownedBoy]

Yes. There's been a sharp uptick in new providers in my area. At the same time, fewer and fewer guys are asking for more than 300 (or 350 if they're in high demand).

 

(even better - some of the new providers are actually professional enough to work with!)

 

This economy defies general understanding. Some economists say that it looks like we'll get out of this without a recession. But what I see in reality (including my workspace) shows the exact opposite.