What do you talk about during sessions?

[arnemgreeves]

Just curious what the usual topics of discussions are, apart from standard sexual talk.

[+ Pensant]

With regular providers, we talk about a wide range of topics. Since I started indulging in this hobby, I’ve always booked at least two hours. I love to sit and have a drink before heading upstairs and then chatting afterwards.

[Luv2play]

As my friends and acquaintances know, I am never at a loss for words. So with escorts, even on the first meeting, I find lots of things to talk about. I'm good at asking questions that open up a line of discussion. And if that peters out, I can switch topics readily.

I know not to ask too probingly about their backgrounds but if they respond positively to a question such as where they are from or where they grew up, then I can take it from there usually as I am widely travelled or at least widely read and can usually say something meaningful about that place.

The conversation varies depending on whether I am in my own house or in their place or a hotel that I have chosen. In my place, I have such a collection of antiques, art and books that that might draw their attention. Or in another city I might start a conversation about that place.

I am open to talking about what it is I do in my regular life without revealing too much. But they get to know what it is that interests me. Sometimes we have common interests such as art or history and I will engage them on that front.

I try to avoid politics or religion but sometimes we do discuss the former especially if it relates to their home countries and they want to discuss it. I find Latins are interesting in this regard as South American politics is so colourful and they might be open to talking about it. But when I used to hire escorts in Miami I always avoided talking about Cuba with these guys since that was a hot button issue in South Florida.

I have found many escorts have had interesting lives and like to talk about it to some extent. One just has to know where the boundaries are. 

Obviously I get into these discussions because most of my hires are at least two hours or include a meal and quite a few are overnights.

Edited September 4, 2022 by Luv2play

[pubic_assistance]

On 9/4/2022 at 2:08 PM, Luv2play said:

I know not to ask too probingly about their backgrounds but if they respond positively to a question such as where they are from or where they grew up, then I can take it from there usually as I am widely travelled or at least widely read and can usually say something meaningful about that place.

Agreed

Same for me

I start asking where they grew up and typically they will get excited if I have traveled there and can talk with them about "home".

Always cautious to keep from asking anything that might feel too stalky.

[Kevin Slater]

1 hour ago, pubic_assistance said:

Always cautious to keep from asking anything that might feel too stalky.

As they always say, asking about someone's celery is gauche.

Kevin Slater

(I'll show myself out.)

[Luv2play]

1 hour ago, Kevin Slater said:

As they always say, asking about someone's celery is gauche.

Kevin Slater

(I'll show myself out.)

Celery? Maybe I'm missing something.

[pubic_assistance]

1 hour ago, Luv2play said:

Celery? Maybe I'm missing something.

Salary

[arnemgreeves]

On 9/4/2022 at 7:08 PM, Luv2play said:

As my friends and acquaintances know, I am never at a loss for words. So with escorts, even on the first meeting, I find lots of things to talk about. I'm good at asking questions that open up a line of discussion. And if that peters out, I can switch topics readily.

I know not to ask too probingly about their backgrounds but if they respond positively to a question such as where they are from or where they grew up, then I can take it from there usually as I am widely travelled or at least widely read and can usually say something meaningful about that place.

The conversation varies depending on whether I am in my own house or in their place or a hotel that I have chosen. In my place, I have such a collection of antiques, art and books that that might draw their attention. Or in another city I might start a conversation about that place.

I am open to talking about what it is I do in my regular life without revealing too much. But they get to know what it is that interests me. Sometimes we have common interests such as art or history and I will engage them on that front.

I try to avoid politics or religion but sometimes we do discuss the former especially if it relates to their home countries and they want to discuss it. I find Latins are interesting in this regard as South American politics is so colourful and they might be open to talking about it. But when I used to hire escorts in Miami I always avoided talking about Cuba with these guys since that was a hot button issue in South Florida.

I have found many escorts have had interesting lives and like to talk about it to some extent. One just has to know where the boundaries are. 

Obviously I get into these discussions because most of my hires are at least two hours or include a meal and quite a few are overnights.

I ask just out of curiosity. It's obviously boring to just lie there and say nothing. And as it's a stranger/loose acquaintance, there is a balance on what to engage in conversationally. 

 

[+ keroscenefire]

Not an escort, but as a client, the escorts who can hold an interesting conversation are the ones that become my regulars. I remember this hot escort told me he had a client take him to the Cannes Film Festival. I am a curious person so I was like, "What movies did you see? Did you meet any celebrities? What was the south of France like?" And he responded basically that he doesn't really like movies so pretty much stayed at the hotel pool and went clubbing a couple times. He maybe saw someone famous at the hotel but he couldn't remember his name. It was like...😒

[Jamie21]

I always say the mind is the largest sex organ.

[jeezifonly]

Safe impersonal topics that can always lead somewhere are travel, pets, food/cooking, sports, music, books, tv/movies, theatre. Don’t yuck any yums if his taste misaligns, - if one discussion subject dead-ends try another topic. Some conversational ability is essential for a repeat for me. 

[nate_sf]

Sometimes I'll ask if this is the first time they've "done this." You have to gauge the situation, but it can be helpful to learn about their experiences and what has worked and not worked for them. They can decide whether I'm referring to having sex with a guy, or hiring a guy. In either case, it can open up some interesting conversations, and also let me know what they're going to like and not like.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

On 9/5/2022 at 6:45 PM, Luv2play said:

Celery? Maybe I'm missing something.

You're missing the joke.

[Luv2play]

4 hours ago, BenjaminNicholas said:

You're missing the joke.

Thanks, but it's already been explained.

[rn901]

Everything under the sun. From latest technology trends to classical literature. I've stayed up late into the night debating ethics, politics, history you name it. My clients don't hire to me to look bad, and many don't hire me to be a dud. So, I try to tend to both departments. The art of conversation is what often gives longevity in this industry. Many are able to make plenty from looks alone. But for me personally, my best travels and opportunities were decided on whether I can keep up with my clientele conversationally. 

Edited September 10, 2022 by rn901

[Jamie21]

Avoid taking a stance on politics and religion. I’ve found it’s ok to talk about these things generally but I don’t take a position. Otherwise I’m happy to discuss any topic. Even if you don’t know anything about it there’s usually things you can ask about it that makes for an interesting conversation. The only thing I struggle to talk about is theatre, especially musical theatre. Many clients are into it but I’m simply not engaged by it. 

[rn901]

3 hours ago, Jamie21 said:

Avoid taking a stance on politics and religion. I’ve found it’s ok to talk about these things generally but I don’t take a position. Otherwise I’m happy to discuss any topic. Even if you don’t know anything about it there’s usually things you can ask about it that makes for an interesting conversation. The only thing I struggle to talk about is theatre, especially musical theatre. Many clients are into it but I’m simply not engaged by it. 

One should avoid taking stances on politics or religion based on the client. I only enter these topics if initiated by the client and if they wish to genuinely engage on such matters. I guess that is where reading a person comes in. Many clients do wish to have a fruitful mature discussion on politics and if they can respectfully accept disagreement, then I see why not. My best paying clients enjoy the dialectic between us. I also had the same policy when I was a lyft driver. 

Edited September 11, 2022 by rn901