if a client doesn't leave a message?

[Ethan_NYC]

Hey guys

A newbie ? to pose for all of you.

 

As a student & personal companion I'm often in class w/ my mobile turned off when a prospective client calls. Now and then they leave a message. Most often they don't. When they don't I can sometimes retrieve the number they originally called from. Discretion tells me not to call these guys who haven't left a message back. But what do the clients expect? It must be intimidating leaving a message, right, so they don't?

What do you guys (clients/escorts) prefer?

Should the escort make contact with every number that appears on his caller ID? Or should he leave those clients alone?

 

Comments, answers greatly appreciated.

[Candyman]

As a client not a escort. If a client wants a call back he will leave his number. You could be calling back guys at a bad wrong time or in a wrong situation. Believe me if there is a escort that I want to see I'll call again or email to set up the appointment.

 

Good luck-Candyman

[Boston Guy]

As you know, there are many escorts in NYC. Sometimes, I'll decide on the spur of the moment that I want to get together with someone and usually there are at least a half-dozen guys I'd be happy to see.

 

In this sort of situation, I'd probably start calling around to see who was available. If one of the guys I was interested in didn't answer his phone, I'd move to the next since I would be looking for someone to get together with immediately.

 

Life's too short to worry about caller ID. If you were someone I called, you'd have my telephone number on your phone and probably my name, too. But, under these circumstances, I wouldn't leave a message.

 

I've had callbacks from guys who said "Hey, I got a call from this phone earlier... were you looking for James?" I don't mind a bit and these callbacks have even, on a couple of times, led to a get-together. But, more often than not, I tell them that while I was trying to reach them before I already have set up something with someone else.

 

I'm not usually quite so spontaneous about hiring someone, but it does happen and it probably happens to other guys as well. A lack of a message probably simply means that they were trying to contact someone who was available at the time they called or near to it. If you receive a call and can return it within a half hour, I'd encourage you to at least think about doing so.

 

Granted, you could catch someone in an awkward situation. But I think that guys who call an escort from a phone where a callback could pose a problem and don't turn off the caller ID before making the call are just being too careless. If you call someone today and allow your number to show, you have to understand that there's a fair chance the person will call back later.

 

Escorts should understand this and simply ask the person who answers "I received a call earlier from this number? Perhaps it was a wrong number? Or was someone looking for James?"

 

BG

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

An Escort Answers

 

There is a simply set of numbers to punch in prior to dialing if you wish to block your number for one call only. Nonetheless, when I do return such calls (and only do so if missing the call was fairly recent), I always tread with discretion and before I say anything which may be inappropriate, I first establish that it is an appropriate time to call back.

 

Often, the phone rang before I could catch it and when I return the call, I get the caller's voice mail. As Boston Guy so clearly pointed out, often clients call a number of escorts. I leave a simple message: you just telephoned me at ###-#### and I was not able to reach my telephone in time. You did not leave a message but if you are still needing to speak with me, please feel free to call back.

 

On the other hand, you might also consider an outgoing message that states: I am a student and often cannot answer my telephone during classes but this does not mean I cannot call you back shortly afterwards; if you are interested in speaking with me, please leave your name and number.

 

This is a very innocent message on your part in case you share your cell phone number with other people.

 

As you deal with this a few times, you will find the verbiage which works for both you and your situation and which also works for your clients.

 

Good luck!

[arthur]

I am a client and usually focus on one individual escort at a time. If he doesn't answer my call, I always leave a message including my telephone number in the hope that he will call me back.

 

ag

[+ deej]

Based solely on the number of "wrong number" calls I get on my cell phone, I'd think the call back with no message wouldn't make sense.

 

A guy that leaves a message wants to hear back from you. A guy that doesn't may not, and the call may not be for you in the first place.

 

This is just my opinion as a client, but I wouldn't call back unless there's a message.

[JamesK840]

*67

 

The numbers to dial before placing a call to block caller ID for that call (in the US) are *67, you'll hear a stutter in the dial tone then it'll continue normally. BTW, some escorts post their number as *82 (XXX) XXX-XXXX. *82 has the opposite effect of *67, it sends caller ID on a phone that is set to block normally.

 

My cell phone can be set in the menus to send caller ID or not, otherwise call the phone company and tell them how you want yours set.

 

It is important to remember caller ID isn't that robust, and is completely unrelated to the ANI info the phone company and the cops almost always have available, and a good social engineer may have access to the fruits of this system as well.

 

As to the topic of the thread, changing your outgoing message to especially encourage people to leave a message is a good idea. Returning the calls that don't leave a message, not so good of an idea...

[IM_Moore]

I'm a client if I don't leave you a message I don't want you to call me back because my number might appear on your caller id.

 

IM ALSO MUCH MOORE (no one else can be)

[Guest HonkingGoose]

ABSOLUTELY, do not call back.

[OneFinger]

As a client, I fully agree that you should NOT call back anyone that doesn't leave a voice message. But, I also agree with leaving a "generic" and non-specific message when calling a client. I really like BG and Franco's suggestions on phrasing the call back.

 

I'm often hesitant to phone an escort without having first sent an initial inquiry by e-mail. I find it very difficult to call someone I've never met before and say, "I want to fuck you on Saturday night. What time can you show up and how much do you charge?" Just doesn't cut it for me.

 

But I also feel clients should be very discrete, too, when leaving messages for escorts. I usually "assume" that escorts doesn't have multiple cell phones and probably use the number for both personal and business calls.

[+ Charlie]

As a client, if I want a potential escort to call me back, I'll leave a message. After all, I don't know when you will phone, so I may be calling from a phone that I will not be at when you finally return the call.

[BobbyThompson]

Hi :-) I would advise you to get a second cell phone. Depending on your company, you can get one very cheaply and add it on to your plan. I think this works wonderfully, especially if you use an escort name over your real name. Also, you really do not want your personal number floating around the internet.

 

Give out the number for your second line to clients/web sites. This way, you can do two things: have the calls forwarded to your primary cell (it costs mere cents per minute) if you know you can take appointments that day, or just leave the phone at home if you *know* you can't. I've noticed most phone calls I receive are for immediate dates and most emails are for setting up appointments at a later time. Personally, I am a student and keep a relatively busy social life on top of that. Most of the time I'm not in an environment where I can speak candidly to a client, and communication has to be 100% necessary. It's better to return the phone call when you can do this.

 

If someone calls your second phone line, you know* they were looking to talk to you as a client, as opposed to someone who just called the wrong number or a friend who didn't leave a message. At least now you know exactly what the phone call is going to be about rather than "Did someone call....?" When you do call back, ALWAYS preface with "Is this a good time to talk?" Remember, they're just as busy as you :-)

 

I don't mean to sound like an authority, this is just how I manage phone calls :-)

 

Bobby Thompson,

Los Angeles

[guptasa1]

As a client, I would have to agree - if I really wanted to reach an escort, I'd definitely leave a message. If I still didn't hear back, I'd generally try to contact them again (either another try on the phone, e-mail, etc.). I might assume they aren't interested if I still don't hear back, but I never would if I simply don't reach them on the phone the first time.