Do You Kiss Your Clients?

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Excepting the obvious (bad breath, other health reasons), do you kiss every client who requests it - why or why not? What is this is not discussed in advance but comes up during the session? How do you deal with this at the precise moment in occurs?

 

 

A sigh is still a sigh . . . .

 

http://www.erados.com/Franco

[VaHawk]

Oops there goes one of those damn obnoxious clients posting on the Ask Escorts section again! :o

 

I like your question, and I hope to see some replies.

 

But you know, the one thing that I find most disappointing in escort encounters is the lack of kissing. I don't think it is anything more indicative than the fact that the escort/client encounter is just business, as there is no attraction on the escort's part towards the client. And please don't misinterpret my comments as anything negative towards escorts, as they are only meant as a statement of reality.

 

I personally, have only been with one escort, Marco Rochelle, who actually knew how to kiss with enough passion to turn me on with kisses alone and make me forget that it was a business transaction.

 

Any escort who could master the art of kissing could name his own price, you know?

 

But you asked the question of other escorts, but I don't see what your feelings are?

[Guest Lorenzo]

>Excepting the obvious (bad breath, other health reasons), do

>you kiss every client who requests it - why or why not? What

>is this is not discussed in advance but comes up during the

>session? How do you deal with this at the precise moment in

>occurs?

 

Yes, I do kiss every client unless he is not into it. I LOVE to kiss and can't imagine good sex without it. It is actually one of the things that keep me hard and going through the whole session. I usually ask my clients in advance if they're into it, since I like to greet them/start with a long kiss.

 

Lorenzo

Making a man feel good is about the hottest thing there is.

http://hometown.aol.com/thickmusclelatin

[nate_sf]

I'm in agreement with Lorenzo with this one. I love kissing and get totally turned on by it. Often a client will specifically ask in advance if I kiss, but other times it just happens. If we haven't discussed it beforehand, there is usually some tentativeness on both of our parts until we lock, and then there is usually a burst of energy when we realize it's OK to dive in.

 

Of course, not every client likes to kiss, so the tentativeness on my part is trying to guage whether they're into it or not. I'll kiss around the neck or something, and if they turn away it's pretty clear they dont' want to go there (hey, I hope that's the only reason they're turning away!

;-) ). But usually once it's clear kissing is OK, it just takes off from there.

 

I keep hearing about why other escorts don't kiss and haven't really figured that one out. Maybe it's a way to maintain some distance, or it's a negotiated rule with a significant other. But I've found that being willing and enthusiastic about kissing has been a big advantage for me at least.

[Funseeker 22]

Second client jumping in but I was going to post this same question from a client`s perspective.

Don`t know if he does it with all but Rod Hagen is one of the nicest sexiest kissers. Bruno Gaucho ain`t bad either.

[Guest BenAJ]

I love kissin too

 

As with some other posters, it is my favorite thing to do...and it does help me stay hard and really into a session if the person kisses extremely well..}(

 

I confess that I do try to get as much lip locking as I can.

 

For me kissing is so important that I can literally "get off" on just kissing alone, if the person is a really great kisser.

[Guest Yog-Sothoth]

>

>I keep hearing about why other escorts don't kiss and haven't

>really figured that one out. Maybe it's a way to maintain

>some distance, or it's a negotiated rule with a significant

>other. But I've found that being willing and enthusiastic

>about kissing has been a big advantage for me at least.

 

 

I believe this is because some people, escorts included, view kissing as being *intimate* with another person. Sex is sex; they might suck you or fuck you or you fuck them, but it is still *just* sex. Kissing someone for such a man is too personal for "just sex".

 

I think it is also the reason why when straight men have sex with gay men, they (usually?) don't want to kiss.

 

I had this happen with a man who I knew for quite sometime who I loved but who did not love me. (Another case of "I think of you as one of my best friends, but--")

 

He was willing to have sex with me, but we couldn't kiss. If he kissed me, it would have meant for him it was *more* than just sex between us.

[AaronWestin]

This statement may seem ironic, but kissing is more personal to me than the act of sex. When chemistry is right on with two people the electricity of a kiss is alot more passionate than top work or cocksucking. The person I used to date seriously (Yes, I was in love) knew what I did and asked me not to kiss anyone as it would be the one thing that I saved for them. Can anyone say pretty woman? There has to be chemistry when a kiss is involved or it is just an action. I usually play it by ear and don't usually have a problem kissing unless hygene is a concern with the client.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

I pretty much kiss all clients that want it, except in the "obvious exception" cases you describe. It says, truthfully, on my site that I love to kiss, and so many of my reviews bring it up that if I refused to kiss a client, no matter how graciously, it would certainly run the risk of hurting their feelings and also of damaging my reputation. Usually I enjoy it, so it's not an issue, but there are times when someone just isn't very good at it, or he does eccentric things with his mouth, or has a drooling problem. But I think it's only fair to stick with it, maybe distract him with another enjoyable activity as early as it's polite to do so. But I don't believe in "punishing" a client for not having had the opportunity to really learn how to kiss.

 

I understand what people are saying about kissing being more intimate for them than fucking, but nevertheless it's still a good "starter" activity for guys new to m2m play. And often they've fantasized more about kissing a guy than anything else.

 

Also, one insight I've gotten from hiring escorts myself from time to time is that it can be a little bit of a letdown when they don't kiss -- even though I know that in advance, and it's not a deal-breaker for me. Because you're doing something hot -- you're getting really into, and you just want to go with the flow and kiss -- but then you remember that oh yeah, kissing isn't part of their flow. And it's important to respect their boundaries, but some part of you still says "aargh, that's too bad." I think I'm more likely to feel like something's "missing" if kissing isn't there than most other activities (except, of course, nipple play }(). So I'm pleased to include it as part of my proverbial roster, even if there are occasions when I'd rather not.

[+ Unicorn]

It sounds like most people seem to agree with me that kissing is the most intimate and central part of sex. I've almost always asked every escort I've wanted to hire if they kiss and enjoy it. Sex without kissing is like masturbation for me. This whole issue of kissing being "too intimate" seems silly to me. Sex is an intimate act. You don't have to love a guy to have sex with him. Why would someone make a fuss about having a tongue in their mouth when they're willing to have a dick in the same mouth?

[TightBodyTouch]

I'm glad to agree with the majority of you who also feel that passionate kissing is integral when committing adult acts with another man. Most especially, I agree with Unicorn that it's sometimes confusing that man might agree to lick another down in the nether regions and yet kissing proves differently. To be respectful, I also understand that some escorts make promises to their other half but my personal preference is to slip my hand around a man's neck and pull him into me for that first wonderful meeting of lips.

 

There are times, as mentioned already, when perhaps a client isn't the best kisser and tends to do odd things with his mouth or tounge while attemtping to make out. I'm sure some have even had the random and unfortunate experience of actually being bitten by someone who is too aggressive or anxious when diving in with puckered lips. This can be an escort's true moment to really shine and display his sexual prowess! Fellahs, talk to your clients to help them become the lover you want them to be. I have stopped clients while we're making out and even while doing other things. It can take only a short time and even be fun to teach a man how to use his mouth and body to effectively make you feel good and sexy. Hopefully, that client can appreciate the honesty and benefit from the lesson. If I am massaging someone too rough, then he would tell me, right? Well, it's just as applicable to tell someone how to kiss so that it feel better to you both. Clients tell me what to do all the time, I just like to do the same to them! lol

 

In cases where men don't want to kiss I can't help but ask why. Of course, it's none of my business, but ask anyway because I'm curious and certainly hopeful that it has nothing to do with me. In my best experience yet of asking why a man didn't kiss me he proceeded to share with me his precious memory of the first male lover he'd ever had and how he had never been allowed to indulge in that kiss. He then told me that no one had ever asked him before, and that he hadn't even remembered that distant lover in years until I encouraged him to tell his story. He then told me that he realized only at that moment how I bore a striking resemblance to this first love and without another word he kissed me. Our relationship grew in that moment and served to unlock his fond memory after so many years of denying himself that pleasure. The time with this gentleman since has been more enjoyable and expressive than either or us could have known.

[Bilbo]

RE:Kissing other areas

 

And I'm sure you've noticed how it can be quite cute making a client blush, etc. by kissing him where he might not be expecting it. Like the tip of his nose, or on his closed eyelids, or, especially, in his ear. For many, those are even more intimate kisses than a french kiss.

[TightBodyTouch]

RE:Kissing other areas

 

You're so right!!! Those are the tenderest of kisses.

[+ Axiom2001]

>>Excepting the obvious (bad breath, other health reasons),

>do

>>you kiss every client who requests it - why or why not?

>What

>>is this is not discussed in advance but comes up during the

>>session? How do you deal with this at the precise moment in

>>occurs?

>

>Yes, I do kiss every client unless he is not into it. I LOVE

>to kiss and can't imagine good sex without it. It is actually

>one of the things that keep me hard and going through the

>whole session. I usually ask my clients in advance if they're

>into it, since I like to greet them/start with a long kiss.

>

>Lorenzo

>Making a man feel good is about the hottest thing there is.

>http://hometown.aol.com/thickmusclelatin

 

 

Man- As a client, I can very definitely relate to your response!

To me "hot" kissing is crucial to full involvement when I am involved with another man when I am having sex with him!

[Argos]

I will join the ranks of those clients who post on this fourm. The truth is that kissing is the most important part of an escort encounter for me. I can forego pretty much everything else such as oral or anal but not kissing. I would be perfectly content to find an escort who enjoyed kissing, massage, nipple play and mutual masturbation. Of course, I have found a few masseurs who enjoy providing these services and I am much more inclined to hook up with one of them instead of an escort just for the sake of economics.

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Buttons

 

A prospective client pointed out to me that while I had asked the question, I had yet to answer it.

 

I agree with Lorenzo. Kissing is both one of my favorite intimate acts and it also is something that will both get me excited and turned on and help to keep me that way.

 

Some clients do not wish to be kissed, and like Mr. Westin, consider it a far more intimate act that sexual activity. This may have something to do with sexual identity.

[btmstudnyc]

>Excepting the obvious (bad breath, other health reasons), do

>you kiss every client who requests it - why or why not?

 

Yes, I absolutely kiss every client that requests it because I enjoy it, he enjoys it and it makes me quite fucking hard.

 

 

What if this is not discussed in advance but comes up during the

>session?

Well then Im screwed I say Im sorry and take 25 dollars off

 

How do you deal with this at the precise moment in

>occurs?

 

I fucking jump up and down like a crying baby until he kisses me of course.

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>A sigh is still a sigh . . . \

 

hoooooooo huuuuuuuuuuum

 

JIM

 

If it dont fit, force it

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[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

If a guy is good looking, I like kissing more than a blow job! Nothing turns me on more.

[pierrot]

Doesn't kissing, especially deep french kissing, put you at risk for hepatitis and herpes transmission? Hepatitis in particular is, I believe, a major epidemic in the gay community.

I enjoy kissing too, but I'm hesitant as a client, for this reason. Am I being overly cautious?

[Guest Love Bubble Butt]

You need to get vaccinated for Hepatitis A & B. Period. There is currently no vaccine for Hep C.

 

Hep A is generally transmited when micro-scopic (ok, and big chunks) amounts of fecal matter of an infected person gets into your mouth. Therefore, rimming is very risky for Hep A. In addition, food handlers who take a shit, are a little sloppy when wiping their asses, don't wash their hands, and then handle your food is a common method of transmission (but not as much in the U.S. anymore).

 

Hep B is in most bodily fluids and is definitely sexually transmitted. I read recently of a study that said 1 in 20 people will get Hep B sometime in their lifetime.

 

Although there is a lot they don't know about Hep C, it is not believed to be easily transmitted through sex. Research thus far has shown that it is primarily transmitted from blood to blood contact. Sharing needles, for example, would be a really good way of contracting Hep C. Again, there is no vaccine for Hep C.

 

The overwelming advice for any sexually active gay man is to get a Hep A & B vaccine!!

 

I also suggest if you're uncertain about risk factors of STDs for sexually active gay men, that you check out http://www.gayhealth.com. This site provides very frank and detailed information on all STDs and how both gay men and women are affected. It is really a good resource. http://www.webmd.com is also a good source but is not tailored to the gay community.