Etiquette

[ad rian]

Escorts, do you beliee it is inappropriate for a client to inquire whether you have seen any other clients that day, and if so how many, and when? Does it matter if you are a top or a bottom? Clients, do you ever ask that question?

[CT Dick]

> Clients, do you ever ask that question?

 

Never! That is really none of my business. I also would not expect an escort to ask me if I've seen anyone else since I saw him.

 

Dick

[+ Lucky]

On the same day? Yeah, I think that is a fair question. I don't want leftovers!

[chrismac]

>On the same day? Yeah, I think that is a fair question. I

>don't want leftovers!

 

Fair question it may be. Truthful answer receive you may not.

[Guest JON1265]

I have had escorts tell me WITHOUT asking that I am their 2nd or 3rd that day...even had one tell me that he fucked his GF and saw two clients that day...huh? Why on earth would I want to know that?

 

I at least want the ILLLUSION that I am their only client that day...and they damn well better be able to cum, too.

 

So, no, I do not ask and do not want to know.

[Guest DevonSFescort]

>I at least want the ILLLUSION that I am their only client

>that day...and they damn well better be able to cum, too.

 

Another hopeless romantic... :+

 

Once I arrived at a client's place and he opened the door and said "Don't be offended if I don't get hard; I already came twice today." For the record, he DID get hard. }>

[ad rian]

>So, no, I do not ask and do not want to know.

 

But if you called for an appointment at 8:00p.m., and he said, "I have something else to do at 7:00p.m., could we meet at 9:00p.m.", would you go or say no on the grounds that you were getting sloppy seconds?

[mmk]

If I am the second apointment of the day, that is fine. I have never asked an escort if I am their only appointment. I have had escorts tell me about prior appointments they never made a time of reference to when these apppointments are.

 

I do expect an escort to get off when I am with them. I did have one escort say that if I wanted him to cum, he would like a few days notice and he would make sure that I am his only appointment for that day for it to be impressive (trust me, it was). If he did have any appointments after me, I do not know and I did not feel that it was my place to ask.

 

think about people - we are all "leftovers" in one respect or another. But if you think about it, sometimes leftovers taste alot better than they did when were originally served fresh.

[Guest lipstick]

I'll take a slightly different client viewpoint on this question.

 

If I ever do get around to asking the 'scort this question, it is only to break the ice a bit (if it's a first time get together). A lot of it depends on the "chemistry" of the moment, and whether folks have a sense of humor about these things. I have asked the question to not necessarily get an honest answer, but to point out the fact that this whole escort/client business can be exciting, a complete dud, sometimes stressful, sometimes dull, maybe great, maybe lousy. Part of my criteria of a good encounter is to be able to "connect" with the escort beyond just getting off, and sometimes that has included being able to JOKE about the "business" and about some of the crazy things we do for pay-for-play.

 

I haven't been with a lot of escorts, but I've found that those who can have a good laugh/attitude over this question (among other things)are usually pretty easy-going guys who have a good outlook on life and on what they do, and are basically nice people.

 

Case in point: one guy I was with said that he had to jack himself off, rather than me doing it for him 'cause he had had a previous session earlier that day. That naturally led me to ask if he was having another client AFTER me, which he said he was. It was by then about 9:00 PM, and I responded back: "Oh yeah? When is he arriving? At 9:10 ???" That cracked him up, and we spent the next few moments just laughing it up.

 

See? Humor does help!!

 

Turning the situation around, I've also had some escorts ask me if I'm bi or straight or married or have a boy-friend, and I answer them truthfully. For me at least, part of pay-for-play does involve a certain level of upfront honesty and directness about stuff, not only with sexual matters but also with the whole client/escort business.

 

Thanks.

[+ Lucky]

But leftovers never cost as much as the original meal!

[FrancoDiSantisxxx]

Answer Receive You May

 

I have a lot of respect for the guys on the bottom end of things because I think being fucked multiple times in one day is much harder than getting it up. An escort (or simply a "sports sex" participant) who was doing the fucking could fake an orgasm but if you are on the receiving end, it is almost impossible to fake. I always prefer guys in my personal life to get hard and to come. It is part of the enjoyment of the experience for me.

 

I also have to admit that when I cannot arouse a client and the client does not orgasm, I am left a little disappointed and feeling like I did not do my job well. However, on the few occasions this has happened, I have discretely inquired afterwards and was told twice that this was a standard occurrence and once that the client had been ready to come any number of times and did so multiple times after I left his home.

 

Is this a fair question? Why not? I think any question: HIV status, sexual orientation, actual sexual preferences, etc. is a fair one. The escort can decline to both answer or to not go through the session because a question was asked.

 

In my own case, as I have noted on several occasions, I only do a client a day, with rare exceptions, in which case the two clients were advised and the desire of the first client who booked me being followed. I believe I am offering sensual intimacy and pleasure. As Jeff often points out, it is about my client's needs and wants and in order for me personally to do a good job, it requires a level of intensity and skill I would not wish to aim for more than once a day. In this regard, I have gone without clients in a day because by the time someone asked me if I was available, it was late or I was tired or not in the proper mind set, and I simply told the prospective client: you are not going to get me at my best, can I recommend someone else or would you like to try for another day or time?

 

As with everything else in the escort/client relationship, communication is key and is necessary for a good session, on every level, as Lipstick points out.

[Guest JON1265]

>>I at least want the ILLLUSION that I am their only client

>>that day...and they damn well better be able to cum, too.

>

>Another hopeless romantic... :+

 

 

Hardly...but I do not want to hear of all the other clients (or BF's and GF's) you have fucked or been fucked by that day....not at 150-200 bucks an hour...

[Guest Ant415]

Rod,

If I ever make it to Boston, I will certainly look you up. I think your enjoyment in sex is genuine.

 

<...So the question is, Why should it matter? If the escort loves to do the Woo-La-LA, it doesn't matter how many he's been with before...>

 

That is bit too broad to say. There are some escorts that don't really love to do the woo-lala..especially if the person is someone that is not attractive to you.

 

Macho bragging and ego makes us all want to believe we have the sexual stanima to put out a few times a day. Like one escort said above, it takes a lot of energy to prepare for one client.

 

I think there are VERY few men in this world that can deliver more than one or two sessions of equally hot sex in a day. The intensity diminishes after the first time. Multiple times a day on a regular basis will burn any one in no time.

[BobbyB]

>A lot of it depends on the "chemistry" of the

>moment, and whether folks have a sense of humor about these

>things.

 

Dear Lip (Mr. Stick?),

 

I agree. I think it's a fair question if asked with tact - and tact's best friend is humor! I asked this very question just recently when an escort & I were trying to work out schedules but did so with a cute turn of a phrase that the escort thoroughly enjoyed. It really helped set a very positive tone.

 

- BobbyB

[Guest lipstick]

It really helped set a very

>positive tone.

>

>- BobbyB

 

Dear Bobby (Mr. B...?),

 

My point exactly. Too often we are so uptight about a first encounter that the pleasure/relaxation parts get overlooked, and it boils down to "mechanics" --- "suck this, lick that"..... How much more enjoyable it can really be when it gets to the transformation point that both parties become aware: "Hey, this guy is not a freak or control demon" or I'm not gonna get ripped off" (from either client or 'scort perspective), and the sex chemistry then really flows.

 

I've been with guys on the past (this goes back 20 years when things were a bit unsophisticated, let's say) who never once laughed or cracked a joke during the session, which made those encounters really negative for me. Of course they were as sweet as honey BEFORE the session!!!

 

 

[Guest RodrigoBoston]

First, I find it disrespectful for an escort to have multiple clients in one day IF he cannot give 100% every time.

 

I am an escort because every time I meet someone new, I have a blast.

 

But there have been innumerous times, where I left a client and went cruising or clubbing, cuz I wanted to get laid again.

 

So the question is, Why should it matter? If the escort loves to do the Woo-La-LA, it doesn't matter how many he's been with before.

 

Love u guuyz

 

Rodrigo/Boston

[Rick Munroe]

>If the escort

>loves to do the Woo-La-LA

 

I just cannot keep up with these kids and their crazy new dances. I remember in junior high, desperately trying to do the Smurf...and last year I got this DVD from an infomercial ("learn how to move like Britney and N'Sync!") but just could not master the Running Man. Now I have to learn the Woo-La-LA? I give up.

[+ nycman]

>Now I have to learn the Woo-La-LA? I give up.

 

Rick, you have already mastered the Wo-La-La.

 

In fact, I believe you've been teaching that technique in your "Advanced Bottoming for Tops 301" class for years.

 

It's all in learning the local tongue.

 

"We call it maize...."

[Rick Munroe]

>In fact, I believe you've been teaching that technique in

>your "Advanced Bottoming for Tops 301" class for years.

 

Not that many years!

[Guest dstud4hire]

I agree to a certain extent, the intensity can be lost after a few sessions in one day, that is, if the escort does that repeatedly, for several days in a row.

 

 

Though escorting is a unique form of a job, nonetheless, like any job, one can get burned out and want a break from prople for a while.

 

As for me, I try very hard to not schedule more than one, maybe 2 a day. Because I do this part time, there might be days in a row in which I may not have a booking.

 

 

But I do think it's a perfectly legitamate question to ask an escort if they've had many clients before them, and when asked I always tell them (though without going into details). On the rare occassions I have had a lot of bookings in one day, I am careful to space them out appropriately, so as to allow enough recovery time. Also, many of my clients are regulars, so I will also space them sometimes in order of preferences. (i.e. if they want me to cum, and the others I know it isn't important.....I may schedule the one who wants cum first, and another one, who I know all ready the only imperative is that I get hard, to be later on with enough recovery time to get hard. Fortuately, for me, in most cases the cumming again won't be a problem, though my load is far less impressive the 2nd time around. )

 

Believe it or not, there are many clients who my cumming is not integral to the process, as long as I am having a great time! (Which I almost always do...for I love sex!)

 

I have learned long ago that there is waaaaay too much emphasis on the whole aspect of that final act, 'cumming', and not enough on the incredible talents that lead up to that aspect. Though most of the time my clients and/or I do cum, there have been times where the client does not cum. I am very sensitive not to make this person feel badly about that at all, and to their credit, on the times that I have not been able to muster a load, which is usually rare, they as well have not made a big deal about it. Likewise, if a guy does not cum, I certainly do not feel like I did not succeed, since there are many variables I realize as to why a guy might not be able to cum.

 

If the client never asked about me cumming or never addressed it, I do think that most understand what we do, and that as long as we get hard and treat them for their time like that is the first time, and have fun with it, I think everyone is happy, and if my cumming is important to the client, he will address it up front, and I will schedule my day appropriately.

 

So yes, I do think questions, and even more appropriatly, open dialogue and communication is important. Let's face it, this is a business and we are a product. Having hired on occassion myself, it is very important that I get exactly what I want from the $$ I spend. Likewise, I would expect my cleints to want all their needs to be met. The trick to all this of course from the escort point of view is to not treat it like a business once the deal is solidified. Hopefully I succeed at that...

 

ok, that's my 2 cents worth of rambling

[Guest RodrigoBoston]

<That is bit too broad to say. There are some escorts that don't really love to do the woo-lala..especially if the person is someone that is not attractive to you. >

 

'Sup Ant415

 

Well this is the thing, at least in my case. There is always something about the other person that I like. Maybe they are not my type, but if they got a cock and a brain, I know I am gonna enjoy myself. AHHH. I will shut up now *hihi*

 

<The intensity diminishes after the first time. Multiple times a day on a regular basis will burn any one in no time.>

 

Maybe that's what I need. Feel burned. I just can't stand waking up at night horny anymore! Until then, i wanna get as much as i can get. I wanna die knowing I've seen almost every size and shape of cock in the world. Can I say cock in here?

 

Love u all

 

Rodrigo/Boston

[ad rian]

>Believe it or not, there are many clients who my cumming is

>not integral to the process, as long as I am having a great

>time! (Which I almost always do...for I love sex!)

>

>I have learned long ago that there is waaaaay too much

>emphasis on the whole aspect of that final act, 'cumming',

>and not enough on the incredible talents that lead up to

>that aspect.

 

A lot of the responses here seem to be from clients who are bottoms (or escorts who are tops) who are concerned about the ability of their top escorts to cum after multiple sesions. I wonder whether clients who are tops have similar concerns about the aggressiveness of their escorts who are bottoms after multiple sessions. Thoughts?

[btmstudnyc]

>Escorts, do you beliee it is inappropriate for a client to

>inquire whether you have seen any other clients that day,

>and if so how many, and when? Does it matter if you are a

>top or a bottom? Clients, do you ever ask that question?

 

 

So many questions...

 

A. No I personally don't think it's inappopriate for clients to inquire if I have seen any other clients that day. (It is also ok for me to ask him why it matters and to ask if he has seen any other escorts)

 

B. Not inappropriate to ask HOW MANY and WHEN either. (I get to ask him if he likes cake...and if so...does he always eat the whole thing or share it with others.)

 

C. Top or Bottom? Very appropriate question for the compatibility factor. But then again...I tell people I'm a bottom...and they still want me to top them...hell..if I can...I DO!!! I don't make any gurantees to top...only to bottom.

 

My only pet peev is when clients start asking LOTS of questions? Did you fuck him did you get fucked did he have a big dick was he hairy how many times do you fuck a week do you ever do couples what do they look like what do you do with them.....HELL do you want me or the story?

 

OH...one last thing....don't ask a question that you are not willing to hear the real answer.

 

btmstudnyc@aol.com

 

jim

 

 

;-)

[Guest Thunderbuns]

>My only pet peev is when clients start asking LOTS of

>questions? Did you fuck him did you get fucked did he have

>a big dick was he hairy how many times do you fuck a week do

>you ever do couples what do they look like what do you do

>with them.....HELL do you want me or the story?

 

Well - don't forget that the client might want both! Lots of guys get off on living vicariously. It's a form of verbal voyerism to hear about sexy exploits of others.

 

>OH...one last thing....don't ask a question that you are not

>willing to hear the real answer.

 

Couldn't agree with you more - something many posters to this forum would do well to realise.

 

Thunderbuns