Donations and meeting length

[FTM Zachary Prince]

I really disagree that an escort should end an otherwise respectful and fun session early based on his perception of "body language." Much easier and more professional to say "Let's [cuddle, take a shower, chat, whatever] or would you rather I head out?" When I first started hiring I had one guy pretty much jump into his underwear and get ready to leave as soon as we came with an hour left to what was otherwise a pretty good time (from what he said, for both of us). Paid him the whole fee, but felt pretty annoyed with myself for doing so after. I've also cut sessions short, even with good cause (guy went into a k-hole and started nodding off). If I do, I pay in full for all time booked.

 

That said, I agree with the advice given the OP above:

• Don't just leave the donation out for the escort to pick up on the way out the door. Put it in an envelope somewhere sticking out in plain sight but not instantly accessible -- under a lamp, etc. At the end, hand him the envelope, stick it in his back pocket at last hug, etc. (My system may get a bit over-involved -- money in an envelope as above, potential tip money in a nearby dresser drawer, another stash of money in case we agree to extend. Works for me, though. I find it awkward to be fumbling through cash at the end of the session.)
  
• Don't book more than an hour first time with a provider. I used to suggest an option to extend until one guy stopped mid-thrust with 5-10 minutes left on the original hour to say "If you want me to finish it will cost another hour." Needless to say, I showed him the door.
  

Shake it off and go find someone else to have fun with. Plenty of fish in the sea, grains of sand on the beach, and good, communicative providers out there.

 

Your opinion about whether escorts should follow our intuition based on body language and your follow-up example are non-sequitors. The escort who you had a bad experience with clearly didn’t even take the time to evaluate your body language. Just because you had a bad experience doesn’t mean that other escorts don’t know what someone means when they start putting their clothes on, tell us that it was a fun session, and make a work phone call while ignoring us. We all know what things like that mean. I agree that in cases of uncertainty it’s better to check in verbally. But often it’s pretty obvious, something you might not realize from the client side of things.

[+ WhamIAm]

@FTM Zachary Prince - funny, you hit the one point I decided not to add -- it occurred to me at the time to ask why he was leaving, but I didn't feel like I should be demanding a guy get back in bed. I was a newbie then. If it happened again now, not sure how I'd react. But, to me there's a big difference between asking someone whether you should go versus telling someone to stay, especially given the ultimately commercial nature of the transaction. YMMV I will say, though, if the situation is ambiguous, the provider should attempt to get clarity. Just seems like good business.

[arnie]

Part of the timing issue is who is control of the session. As primarily a bottom client not only in the physical activity but also in being the follower rather than the leader, , it is usually up to the escort to the escort to time the session. I usually only book for 60 to 90 minutes so the time pretty much goes fast. I have found that they usually spend a full hour at play with a few minutes before and after, some engaging in even a little extra chat. They are not machines and also need a little emotional, physical cool down time. Only once did I have an hour at his place where I was back on the street after 40 minutes. Guess I have been lucky, but usually use well reviewed escorts.

[+ VictorPowers]

If this has happened a few times may I add a suggestion? Ask the provider for an hour with flexibility to go 90, 2 Hrs. Then both parties can plan accordingly with time spent and compensation. That’d be my suggestion to fix this in the future.

[inthepit3]

It's rude for the provider to end the session early and walk out in any scenario. If I cum before time is up I totally expect them to hang around and chat 'til the end of the hour. Also seconding the advice to never leave money out in the open. Keep it in your wallet with extra for extended time.

[+ lookingforfunny]

I am so sick of pandering and patronizing ignorant escorts. You should t have to do anything. If you booked two hours, the godforsaken idiot should stay for two hours. All this crap we have to go through just to get what we want. How about you tell them up front, if you fuck me over, expect me to rant about it all over the web and you will receive the worst review. This gross negligence has to stop. Do not leave money out for anyone you have not met in the past. The rules have changed. If you do leave it out leave half of the first hour. That way you both share the loss if he bails. If he is nervous about the money you should be nervous about the time.. the end get out.